sak21 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 well..as the title suggests i was the 'dreadful' rebound guy (or so i think..). Long story short..been with her for 6 months..four good..one not so good one terrible.. Everything was happening too fast..' i love you's' at the two month mark..plans for the future etc..she was the angel from heaven in every aspect (kind,supportive,tender..the whole nine yards..) I was clueless..!never a rebound guy before..and i thought 'that's IT'..!! After the two month mark i became broke as joke cause my bussiness failed and slowly felt down..this sort of depression had an impact on me of course but she was there to cheer me up.. Anyway things went downhill from there on.. It been 3 months since the BU and almost 9 weeks NC..We have mutual friends(a married couple)from her side.. After the BU i didnt beg or pleed i was (almost) ok..i called only two times the first 20 days and that was it.. I decided to move on and became a better me..Hit the gym lost 20 pounds and starting my business again with good results.. At christmas she asked our mutual friends if they still talking to me..they said yes.. A couple of weeks ago i went to a three day trip to paris with a female friend of mine and post pictures on fb..(only landscapes.) Five days after, our mutual called me to ask about my trip..and said that she phone him and said : 'two girlfriends of mine told me that he went to paris..why didnt you tell me that?where did he found the money?he must have had them before or he must have found a rich new girlfriend..' All of this happend while i am almost certain that she is back with her ex mind you.. I have to admit that i still have feelings for her but WTF?????i find it rude and disrespectful...Any explanations why that sort of behavior??
OhThatGirl Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Forget it. If she used you as a rebound, left when things went bad, and is now assuming you must be dating a "rich girl" to be able to take a trip to Paris it's not worth wondering about. She may just be bitter that she didn't get to go to Paris when you two were together. Maybe she's a little upset she didn't stick through the bad times to get to take advantage of how well you're doing. Either way.. It doesn't mean you should give it another thought. It's validation that she sees you've picked yourself up and are living a life. Let it stay at that.
Author sak21 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 thanks for your reply!! The thing is that not all rebounders do it on purpose..most of them i think doing it at an unconscious level.. Is after the honeymoon phase where feeling re-emerge for their ex.. Anyway i small update (or correction most likely)..is that her girlfriends told that to her..our mutual friend who knows them told me that they are not REAL friends in his opinion and they were only trying to hurt her..she also thinks that she is not so sure about her decision after all..
Author sak21 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 sorry didnt mean to double post ..but she didnt left when things went bad..she stayed all the time..but at some point she told me (while you were talking about other things)that she won't give up trying until there is no hope left..(she even found a few days work at her job to help me financially and emotionally)
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