Etherealll Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Hey im new here. ill tell my story. Me and my ex gf have been friends for around 6 years and she always had a crush on me (she is 21 and i am 28 now). Our friendship has had up and downs, somethimes we talked a lot then stopped for long periods of time but always a good friendship. Eventually she has grown up, stuff changed and she still had crush on me and i fell in love with her too. we went really slowly and dated for almost 1 year. She is a nice sweet girl but is a bit of depressive type because of bad stuff happened in her past (ex bf abuse and beaten her), so i tried to be the sweetest bf and take care of her the way she deserved. We knew that our LDR (400km and in same country) would be hard but we loved each other and wanted to stay togheter, our first 8months were great and when we meet each other it was fantastic in all aspects. I was her best friend and she was mine, ive always been there for here and she for me. She was the best gf and i was the best bf she ever had. We even talked about future, about travelling, getting married kids, etc. Our relationship had a strong friendship base, honesty and great passion. Eventually after her university started (she is in a degree that she hates but due her parents pressure she needs to complete it) she started to get stressed about it (teachers, colleges and her parents) and ofc she started to be distant and it started to affect our LDR. Eventually november and december we were having argues about almost everything but nothing really serious. We both become cold and distant, tried to give some time on relationship but end up talking back to each other, she cried a lot missing me and etc. Also ive asked her when i could meet her parents, she started to stress more about it, but all i wanted was to be able to be more with her, and she only could meet my parents if ive meet her's first (because they are old school and control her a lot). After all this we remained low contact then we talked and came to a mutual break up, talked that maybe wasnt the right timing to be togheter (she is in uni still and ive already finished and looking for a job) and she said maybe in the future our lives might cross again. She said she needed to find herself and what to do about university, and wasn't fair to me. I agreed because i wasn't happy like i was before and she wasnt either. We both agreed to remain friends. Right after breakup, i started the NC (its 1month today) so i could start heal my self but has been trully hard for me, and to give her space too. I didnt beg or anything for us to be back because i know that would be pathetic and would just push her even further away. She didnt contacted me yet neither i did. But i want your opinion guys, does she miss me? or is she doing NC too? or maybe afraid to contact me since she is shy and have low selfsteem? not even got a message saying she is missing me or anything, and i wont lie drives me crazy :S because before she couldnt pass a day without me, loved me a lot and now nothing? i dont believe she stopped loving me since it was a peacefull mutual breakup and no cheat/beat/nothing really bad happened and she always had a crush on me. Sorry about the long text and several questions, its just my mind is completly confused atm. Please share your opinions. Thanks in advance
soccerrprp Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 I don't get people who go NC with people who have decided to be "friends" with. If you can admit, as it seems, that you cannot just be friends, then NC is reasonable. But, don't call yourself a friend. Yes, she is likely thinking and doing the same thing. She is likely going NC to try to get over you. In this case, it doesn't matter that you didn't have a dramatic reason for the break-up. You broke up and it was "mutual." You both have a lot to think about and it looks like having each other in the mix is not right for now. Stay friends and remain in contact if you truly are JUST FRIENDS. Otherwise try to move on.
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