Blizeow Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Hello to everyone! I have been reading this forum non-stop for two months, and I cannot believe I am actually writing a thread! First of all, I am sorry to all of those suffering from a broken heart. I have never experienced a pain more intense than this... So, I feel empathy for everyone here. I have initiated NC, and I am on day 21. I have done FULL NC. I sent a goodbye email (I know, frowned by many, but this one was written with positive release and no ill will- there was no begging, trying to reconcile, etc. It was for me to be able to positively release.) That was 21 days ago. I BLOCKED, not deleted, any type of social media or contact source. I am hoping one day for a reconciliation. I am fully aware NC is not for that purpose, but I want to be honest with my intentions. And currently, this is how I feel. I would want to venture this relationship further down the road... Much further. Even a year or two from now; so, who knows how I will feel then. But, I am on here for support- NC is a beast and it feels as if it has been a year, and it has only been month!
jphcbpa Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 congrats and welcome. it does get easier. NC is the best way to heal up and find the new you. a great time for evolution and evaluation. take this time for you. to learn about you, grow and create a new life. 6 weeks bu and nc for me. nc the same day. 1
Author Blizeow Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Thank you for the reply- I need all the encouragement I can get. My friends have not been very supportive, that is why I joined this group. They are all married with children. I am "the one" that never got married, so they really cannot relate to the way I feel. It's been pretty lonely. I am proud of you for 6 weeks. I know it is probably so hard. I am hoping to find a new me soon; I am still in the grieving stage at the moment. What were your reasons for No Contact?
jphcbpa Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 reason is to heal up and proceed as if I am never going to see her again. she said she was unsure about the future, had a hard time with being vulnerable (avoidant type) and wanted to work on this on her own. I offered to work on it with her, but she declined. at that point, there is nothing else I can say or do except give her what she wants... 1
Author Blizeow Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 I think that is admirable... I wish I were that strong from day one. But I'm proud that I was able to start NC after a month. I never let my emotions get the best of me and say "ugly or hateful" things"... But I did cry, a lot. I still cry, but now just to myself. I plan on NC for indefinitely, unless I hear from him. If that ever happens. Is this what you plan to do? Or are you going to contact after a certain amount of time?
jphcbpa Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 I think that is admirable... I wish I were that strong from day one. But I'm proud that I was able to start NC after a month. I never let my emotions get the best of me and say "ugly or hateful" things"... But I did cry, a lot. I still cry, but now just to myself. I plan on NC for indefinitely, unless I hear from him. If that ever happens. Is this what you plan to do? Or are you going to contact after a certain amount of time? I would never say never. My plan is to move on and heal. I am powerless over what she does or does not do.
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