Debo Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Ok, this is a question that has always interested me. While many, including me, think that beautiful women have no trouble getting men, there is some that think they actually have a hard time getting dates. That they are so intimidating to men that they never get asked out. So, my question is, do you believe this? That some, not all of course, beautiful women are actually lonely and don't get asked out much? Link to post Share on other sites
Anais Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 LOL This is a funny one. I am not lonely. Does it mean I am not beautiful? I don't have any evidence of what you are asking. Sorry. After 17 years old have I have been lonely only for a month or so. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 The funny thing is that I was watching a talk show one time where there was this "too good looking" guy with a great personality that couldn't get dates. It was funny, the women were all swooning over him in the audience. The whole show was basically about people who were "over-qualified" for the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Well, who is dumb enough to say they are too good looking for dates? But I agree with it to some extent. I made a post to a women who said she was educated and good looking but couldn't get dates. However, I think it is even harder to get dates when you are smart and successful in a career as a woman added. Let's face it, if your a good looking, smart, rich girl with a master's from the Ivy league university you've eliminated a lot of men. I mean 20% or less of the US has college, then add good careers, a job or past a bachelor's degree. It starts shrinking with many people unwilling to date someone way off their path of education or income. It's been hard for me making more money and having more education than people I date and men don't like it. And I do think men are more hesitant to ask a hot girl out than an average one. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I'd take a woman with a career and money anyday over the leech that I almost married. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I don't want to toot my own horn here, but I've been told many times that I am a beautiful and smart girl, and I am currently doing my master's degree, and yes, I am lonely at times! I have been asked out before but I haven't found anyone that I could see myself having a future with. I've been told that many guys are scared to ask me out, which REALLY sucks! I have heard that many guys would like to date a smart and good looking girl, yet the people I see them actually dating, may be good looking, but definitely not smart. I can never understand how you can date someone that you can't have an intelligent conversation with. I know this is really stupid, but sometimes I don't even want to tell people that I'm doing my master's or sound like I'm too smart b/c it really scares guys away. How unfortunate. If someone could please explain this or give us some advice on what to do, that would be great!! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 sorry to burst your bubble DEBO but all the beautiful women I know personally are never without men. They go out and get hit on by 10 men per evening and choose the guy they like most. I know a good looking friend of mine, Theresa, who goes out with a new dude every weekend. The saying that good looking gurls stay at home on Sat nite alone is a total myth. Go to any bar, which women are getting approached by men? The good looking ones. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Alphamale, you are forgetting something here... they may be getting hit on but it doesn't mean they are not lonely. If she goes home with any man at the bar and is hot then it's all the more reason to assume she is lonely. Because she is risking rape or assault with a stranger whose been hitting the booze. Say she is getting hit on in a class, or some other kind of place that is less sleazy. If she looks like super hot more than likely she isn't going to find herself equal with many of the men who ask her out. I take great care in my appearance, I work out, I've done modeling. Why do I want to date some guy missing his front tooth or carrying more than 30 extra pounds? And as I stated earlier, if she has a profitable career and then is above average in intellect, looking for that playing field to be equal in a mate... she is more alienated. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 "If she looks like super hot more than likely she isn't going to find herself equal with many of the men who ask her out. I take great care in my appearance, I work out, I've done modeling. Why do I want to date some guy missing his front tooth or carrying more than 30 extra pounds? And as I stated earlier, if she has a profitable career and then is above average in intellect, looking for that playing field to be equal in a mate... she is more alienated." Well, to be quite honest, it sounds like you are an elitist who considers other human beings as being lower than yourself. I tend to believe that all people are equal, but maybe that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 OMG, coming from guy who posts "Date with an ugly girl", well wasn't she equal in your looks Bob? Link to post Share on other sites
Anais Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Why do I want to date some guy missing his front tooth or carrying more than 30 extra pounds? You know tooth can be lost in few minutes and 30 pounds are not too hard to gain. The guy you pick up and marry can get it later. Will you leave then? Just curios. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 No, she wasn't, but I was able to overlook it and still give her a chance. Not like you, who is looking for the supreme being of a mate. Oh, let's all bow down to you, the supreme being of the human race! You are so much better than all of us in everway. We will all stop breeding from now on and just make clones of you. You can even document your genetic supremecy in Mein Kampf II. When should we start heading off to the concentration camps, your heiness, to rid the world of our genetically inferior DNA? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted January 15, 2005 Senior Moderators Share Posted January 15, 2005 Loneliness has nothing to do with getting dates or being at home; being beautiful or being homely. It has to do with being happy with yourself. Some beautiful women are lonely and some are not. Some average looking women are lonely and some are not. The absolute WORST case of loneliness doesn't even come close to what it feels like to be in a bad relationship or half of a stinking marriage. I'll take loneliness any day in lieu of being on a date with a lady who can't talk or who farts after her meal. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Well Bob, based on your assumptions it sounds like you should rid yourself of some bad DNA, please. I have dated someone who is 30 pounds overweight for a year who had a chipped front tooth too. I have dated people who make less money, I have dated people with no education past high school. But I must be a bad person because I don't want to be with someone who has the short falls of all. Half my income, half my education and doesn't match my health conscious lifestyle. That is not superficial. If you are telling me you'll date a girl with half your ambition, less education than you, missing teeth who was much heavier than you all rolled into one than I seriously doubt your truthfulness. If I married a guy I would go in knowing that he could get sick and not work, put on weight, become handicapped and give up activity. But I would love him a great deal I'm sure. That's what a marraige is all about. But would I go in expecting that, no of course not. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 "Well, based on your assumptions it sounds like you should rid yourself of some bad DNA, please." Just point us in the direction of the concentration camps for ethnic cleansing, mein fuhrer. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Groovy Alphamale, you are forgetting something here... they may be getting hit on but it doesn't mean they are not lonely. Well, let us compare. You have a fat ugly woman with bad hair who never ever gets hit on by men. Then, you have a slender, beautiful blond who gets hit on by men everywhere she goes. Who is going to be lonelier, on avg??? I;ve spent time with many good looking women and I know a bit about their little world. And it is a different world, trust me. Personally, I usually don't even give ugly women the time of day unless I have to and I freely admit it. Call me superficial but everyone loves beauty. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 VB, My post isn't insulting your Ethnicity, it's insulting your thinking. I agree with Tony, loneliness really is weighed in on a lot of things. But way better than the wrong guy. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Groovy VB, My post isn't insulting your Ethnicity, it's insulting your thinking. I agree with Tony, loneliness really is weighed in on a lot of things. But way better than the wrong guy. But GROOVY, in the world I live in I see many women with the wrong guy to stave off loneliness or just to be with someone. Society has told women that they are basically worthless without a dude, and many females buy into this lock stock and barrel. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Were getting off topic, but yeah I see it too, in a lot of my friends. I'd like to settle down but am O.K if I never get married. I have plenty of friends and family to enjoy, so why make time for a relationship not what you want? Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 "VB, My post isn't insulting your Ethnicity, it's insulting your thinking." Let's see, you are insulting a little more than just my thinking: "Well Bob, based on your assumptions it sounds like you should rid yourself of some bad DNA, please." My genetic material which comes from my ancestors and ultimately, my ethnicity. "But I must be a bad person because I don't want to be with someone who has the short falls of all. Half my income, half my education and doesn't match my health conscious lifestyle." You insulted peoples economic class, knowledge, and physical body. "Why do I want to date some guy missing his front tooth or carrying more than 30 extra pounds? " You insulted peoples dental health and thier weight. We all know what happens to guy on here when he insults a woman's weight. Double standard. "I've done modeling" Insulting ugly people. We all know what happens to guy on here when he insults a woman's appearance. Double standard. In short, get over yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 O.K, so I dissed bad dental hygiene, obesity and some other areas. I'll try to not say anything about short men, bald men, men with hair on their backs, men who are shy, men who are bold, men who are sweet or who are bad, men who are blue eyed, men who are dark haired. Heaven forbid I say anything about what I want or don't want. How dare I, no please it is I who is not worthy. I don't want you to have any more tantrums so I'll be going to sleep now. I haven't bashed your countless ill viewed posts by many and made you seem like a bastard but yet you make me to be a b_tch. I'll try not to let it keep me up all night or let my pillow get wet with tears. Good Night! Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Good, I'm glad to see that at least now you are admitting that you are an elitist freak. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett_girl Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 as a girl who has been told repeatedly how good looking I am..I will say that guy will hit on me..will check me out..will flirt with me but it takes a strong guy to date me..not only cuz of my looks but also because I am intelligent and a musician/songwriter..some guys have a hard time being with someone they feel eclipses them... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I'll take loneliness any day in lieu of being on a date with a lady who can't talk or who farts after her meal. I fart after meals!! Maybe not in the restaurant though...Loud ones anyways! Eventually looks fade...Personalities shine forever. (Deja vu...) Link to post Share on other sites
very-confused-girl Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I dont think its about beauty itself but about the energy that girl is expressing. Being told to be beautiful and inteligent but also friendly and making people feel good about themselves I have never felt lonely. Everything is about illusion. Girl can be beautiful and superinteligent and she can look upherself and she will never get to be hit on by guy. And then you can have a girl who is beautiful and smart but modest and appreciates other´s peoples company and she is friendly and guys are waiting a queue just to get a chance to talk to her. I personally think that if a beautiful girl is complaining about being alone its more than just about beauty. Girls can feel lonely because they are constantly seeking for somebody. Even when they are in a relationship they feel lonely and are not happy. They might search for this "first love excitement" and want to keep this endless. But than again this is not something that would be specific to beautiful girls either. Lots of girls even the ordinary looking ones can have this problem of inability to find contentment in life. Link to post Share on other sites
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