Chibaby Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Hi. My husband got two free tickets to the superbowl from a client. Being that our hometown team is playing its very exciting. However, he offered the ticket to a friend and didnt even ask me. They flew across the country yesterday. I will admit I'm not the most diehard football fan normally, but going to the superbowl is definitely on the bucket list. The friend is a big fan and they watch every game together while I stay home with the baby every single Sunday. I love my daughter but i feel like a football widow. He also travels a lot for work, while i take care if Our baby plus working full time. I've never even been to NY or the east coast and would love to go. Do I have the right to be upset? Would you take your wife or your friend? I get where he's coming from but I'm still hurt and pissed. I feel like I am his 2nd priority and he didnt even consider me. Im just here to take care if the baby while they go have fun as usual. What's your take? How should I resolve this?
carhill Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) My take would be, if you historically have shown disinterest or disdain for his football interest, it would be considered by him to be a separate interest which he conducts with like-minded individuals and apparently invited one to join him. I probably would have asked my wife first, but that's likely why I'm divorced and my male friends who are like your husband are still married. They do what they want to do, whether it upsets their wives or not, and their wives don't like it but respect them in the end. It works. I'd say have a super-bowl widows party tomorrow and enjoy yourselves! As a disclaimer, I don't even know who's playing in the Super Bowl and couldn't care less! Edited February 1, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Grumpybutfun Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 If I have an event I want to attend, I always ask my wife first because she is my favorite person to be around. She hates sports and I still ask her because she has fun wherever she goes and whatever we do so it would still be great. Have you shown in the past any contention with his interest in sports? G
Author Chibaby Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Yes totally! I'm not religious about football and prefer NCAA to NFL. I usually stay home to watch the baby while he goes to the bar with friends. I let him do his guy thing. Just feeling left out I guess, and I'd like to do something fun too.
HokeyReligions Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 I am a football widow. In your place the first words out of my mouth when hubby returned would be: (sincere not sarcastic) "welcome back. I hope you had a lot of fun. By the way ... you owe me BIG TIME Bud." And I would collect too. Yeah my feelings would have been hurt. Sure he felt fairly certain you would say no but he should have had the courtesy to give you the opportunity to say "no thanks". Even if he said it like "you dont really want to go to the super bowl do you? All the hassle and being away from the kid..... " which is how my husband used to ask me questions when he really didn't want me along. Lol
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