The journey of a lifetime - (attempt to) getting my ex back

[Leophyte]

Hi all,

 

I've been reading on numerous websites on the topic of 'getting my ex back'. Currently, I'm at a stage that I'm in slight contact again with my ex and although I'm not celebrating yet. I know that without all the things I've learned online, I wouldn't be where I'm standing now.

 

Basically, this is a thank-you to everyone who shared his/her story with me and hopefully, I can help other people as well with getting their ex back by sharing my story here.

 

In this first post, I look back on the past couple of months. I try to give an overview of things I’ve done, what I’ve felt, what went good and what went wrong. Take a cup of coffee, cause it won’t be a short one ;-).

 

On Friday 26th of September 2013, my ex told me she needed some time for herself. She told me she didn’t knew whether she wanted to share the rest of her life with me. She mentioned that she felt our relation went into a routine and missed the excitement and sparks we had before. Me on the other hand, loved her more than ever and while I never wanted it in the past, I was shaping a plan in my head on how to propose to her, the love of my life. After 6,5 years, it just was the time for me to show to the rest of the world that I wanted to be with her, until my last breath.

 

I’m a big guy. 6 foot 5 inches tall, 250 lbs and strong as a mother****er. I don’t know a lot people who are emotionally more stable than I am. Basically, nothing really affects me that much that it influences me in my daily life. Until ‘it’ happened. It hit me like nothing ever hit me before. I cried, a lot, like a little kid desperately cries for his mother. I literally broke down to pieces and never felt more miserable than after the breakup. I was sure that if I didn’t get back with my ex, I would never feel happy anymore, ever.

We didn’t really fight. But there was frustration on my side of getting no answers and on her side of not getting any rest from me. It was time to physically separate. So I decided to live with my dad (parents are separated) for a while, until there was a resolution. So after three days, I moved in with my dad again. Looking back, that was a good decision.

 

So here I was, back in my old room, in my small bed. In a room without television, my clothes in a suitcase. Away from my ex and our mutual rental house. It sucked. Although I missed my girl like hell, I also had to take three steps back in my life by living with my dad again. I mean, his intentions were good, but if you have moved out before, it just isn’t natural to go back to your mom/dad. You are grown up, need to do your own thing.

While living with my dad, I had some contact with my ex and we sometimes spoke each other face to face. But every time I eventually burst into tears. I just couldn’t stand the thought of not being with her anymore. And even though she was happy to see me, an over emotional guy trying to get his ex back, is just not working. Not that she mentioned it that way, but it was all over her face. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize it yet at that moment. So, she decided she needed to look for a place of her own. She didn’t mention we could never ever get back, but for now, it was over.

 

Long story short, I lived with my dad for like two months. My ex got an apartment (in the same city we lived together) and I went back to our mutual house. Financially, we handled everything mature. No fights, no remorse, but we would live our owns lives.

I remember the first moment stepping back in my house again. I fell on the floor, into tears. The house was cold, empty. All her stuff was gone. There was just a small letter on the sideboard with: “here is my key of the house”. Ouch, that hurt…

Being back in my house, which is in fact close to my mom, I gradually felt better. But it went really with ups and downs. And that could alter fast, real fast. I stayed in touch with my ex, because I just couldn’t let her go. Sent here messages like every other day. And while she sometimes texted back, more often she didn’t. I felt miserable about it.

 

I asked myself. Why does it still hurt so bad? I went online and looked for advice. I found this forum and lots of other sites and learned about ‘how to deal with a breakup’, the ‘No Contact rule’ and other stuff. And while it gave me a little conform reading about it, I did not have my ex back with it. So I decided to try ‘Less contact’. Something I decided for myself that would be probably the best. And it seemed to work okay. My ex sometimes even let me know that her life was not that great either at the moment en in the week before Christmas, we agreed to have dinner together at my house on Second Christmas day.

 

Wow, was I nervous before. And while it was fun, I just wasn’t the same as before. I still had so many questions on why she broke up with me and I ask her a couple of times, but she didn’t want to discuss with me at that moment. After she left, she texted me that she thought it was nice seeing me again. I agreed, but woke up that night feeling miserable and after thirty minutes of being awake, I sent her a text message, explaining that I really needed answers and want to speak to her fast. That was a mistake. She felt I put her under pressure and that we would talk, but not fast, just ‘some time’.

 

That didn’t feel good. Good thing was, I was still looking for advice online and decided that No Contact was the best thing to do for now. No Contact from my side, at least. When she would text me, I would reply, but just short. I decided to do that for as long as I needed to get my act back together at least to a point where I can communicate with her without feeling emotional. Also, I wanted to work on myself. Because looking in the mirror, I knew that I could have been a better boyfriend for her. And maybe the most important question to answer: Did I miss her, or miss ‘someone’?

 

On new years’ eve, 10 minutes in 2014, I received a text message stating: “Happy New Year (K)”. Wow, that felt good! I was with friends and she must have been too. And after a short 10 minutes, she already texted me. Off course, I wished her the same (thinking: hopefully we say the same next year, in person).

 

The weeks after, I reflected myself, my relationship. I did not look at her Facebook anymore, even removed our Whatsapp conversation, so I wouldn’t check her online-status anymore (yes, I did that). I also hooked up with a girl, who also broke up recently (which she obviously didn’t regret). Our intentions were the same: Fun. She didn’t want to be a relationship with me and I didn’t want to be with her. We were honest and clear: Just for fun. And although I really wanted to feel love again, this is just what I needed while working on myself. A girl to have fun with and honestly, the sex with her was just awesome. Yes you read that right: Sex, absolutely nothing close to ‘making love’ by the way. More like porn.

 

It didn’t feel bad. It felt good, it was fun! And it also worked with getting my confidence back to par. But although it is fun with that girl, it didn’t see myself in a relationship with her. And I honestly mean I enjoy spending time with her. We could even have nice conversations, just watch a movie together and still feel good. But it also made me realize one thing: I didn’t just miss someone, I missed my ex. Yes, that’s right. I still missed her. While feeling better and better, I still wished we could be together again

About two weeks ago, I received a text message from my ex in which she asked how I was doing. Yeah, second time she first initiated contactJ. I told her a was doing okay (which wasn’t a lie) and ask about her. She replied that she’d been better. I wished her good luck with everything. I also noticed that in that week, I posted something on Facebook twice and both of the times, she was one of the first ones to like my status. And that’s odd, because she almost never ‘likes’ anything on Facebook.

 

A couple of days later, there was a detour on the road back from my work. Because of that, I passed a restaurant that my ex and I went to a lot of times. It made me smile! So I just texted her, letting her know that driving by that restaurant forced a huge smile on my face. She replied positive, stating that these where good memories. I kept it short, stating that I was busy and needed to do something.

 

The days after that, we had some contact via text messages, just short, casual contact. I learned that she was having exams, starting last week. I know her. Whenever she has exams, she feels that constant pressure. It hurt me that I couldn’t support her like I used to do. I thought of sending her a card, wishing her good luck. But I didn’t want to let her know that she was in my head all the time and didn’t do it.

 

Monday last week, so 12 days ago, I drove back from my work and something just instantly passed my thoughts, an idea. I bought chocolate and typed a short text, stating three benefits of chocolate. I didn’t put my name on it though. I drove to her apartment that night and put the chocolate + text in her mail box. Two hours later I received a message, which was something like: “That’s so sweet of you! I cried when I saw the chocolate, this was just what I needed”. I asked her how she knew it was me and she replied like: “I just know, thank you”.

Wow, did that feel good! Although my intensions were not to make her cry, I genuinely wanted to give her some support. Apparently, it worked.

That week, she texted me that her first exams went okay and we had some contact by text again. Just casual, friendly.

 

Last weekend, I realized that although I felt better, I really felt the urge to see her again. The thought of having some contact again made me feel good, but also restless. I talked to my mom about it and she advise to back off for a while (mom, I know you won’t ever read this, but you’re the best, thank you for being there for me all the time!!).

 

Last Monday, I texted her. I wrote that I know she was busy, but still invited her for a short dinner at my place on Wednesday. She replied to me an hour later. She thought it was a great idea and really sweet of me to invite her, but she really needed to study. She suggested to meet up after her exams. Although she didn’t refuse to see me, it still hurt a bit. But I decided I couldn’t do anything else than just accept.

A day later, just before I went to bed, she texted me again. She asked me if I wanted to go to her place on Wednesday night, because she really needed it. WTF! I accepted and agreed to go to her after work. We would have dinner together at her place.

 

I felt relaxed last Wednesday. I rang her bell, see her in person for the first time in a month and give her a big hug. Wow, that felt good. While it also was a little awkward at first, we had real warm conversation. We laughed, cried a little and were honest on our lives of the last months. We both ‘confessed’ to have slept with another person and noticed both that although the sex was nice, in the end, it was just plain sex. Best thing is, we both could be honest about it without being angry at one another. We were also able to comfort each other, because although she broke up with me, she was hurt as well, because her life was not so great either at the moment. I was there the whole evening. We just talked, watched some television and had a good time. We didn’t kiss and had lots of physical contact, but it was good. I wished her good luck with the exams of the next day and hugged her when I left.

 

The day after, she texted me she was nervous before the exams and didn’t feel confident about it. I texted I believed in her ability to put down a good performance and was proud of her anyway. That night, at 9 PM, she texted me on whether she could call me. I was at friends and texted back that I would call her afterwards. I called at 11 PM and she replied that her battery was almost dead. I suggested to pay her a short visit and she agreed. I went in and asked why she wanted to call me. She replied that she just wanted to let me know how it went and hugged me. I was there for like 30 minutes and we sat close to each other on her couch. I remember that I really felt the strong desire to kiss her lips, but I didn’t. after I left, I went on my bike home. At home, I noticed she texted my lying in her warm bed. In the next 15 minutes before I went to bed, we kept texting and teasing each other a bit. I with her freckles, she with my big rudolf-like nose. Did I mentioned, I began to feel some butterflies?

 

Yesterday, I texted her after work how she was doing. She replied back that she went off to work for a night-shift. I wished her good luck and asked her whether we could meet up sometime this weekend. After that, there was silence….

 

I now I ‘m waiting for a text back, hoping that will be the start of something new, better. Because yes, I have to admit. I feel I start to fall in love again.. Against my will for now, because I don’t know where this goes and it could very well be that I hurt myself again.

 

So, this is the story so far. Things I’ve learned, which really need to be shared:

 

• First you have to accept that your relationship is over, otherwise, you will never ever feel better
  
• You have to decide whether you miss your ex, or someone.
  
• When you know you genuinely miss your ex, you have to start understanding what caused your relation to end (that is, if you really want to make it work later on).
  
• You have to accept that it takes time to heal and take things slow when you initiate contact again.
  

To be continued…

[TaraMaiden]

....So, this is the story so far. Things I’ve learned, which really need to be shared:

First you have to accept that your relationship is over, otherwise, you will never ever feel better

You have to decide whether you miss your ex, or someone.

When you know you genuinely miss your ex, you have to start understanding what caused your relation to end (that is, if you really want to make it work later on).

You have to accept that it takes time to heal and take things slow when you initiate contact again.

 

To add:

 

You both have to own your part in the break-up and know that whatever 'blame' can be proportional, 'Responsibility' is equal.

You both own 50% of the relationship and you're both 100% responsible, for your 50%.

You both have to equally want any reconciliation to work. You can't want this, 'unevenly'. For example, if you want a reconciliation, 100%, but she only wants it 20%, it will never, ever work.

You cannot make up the shortfall on the other person's side. As above, you can't input YOUR 100%, AND make up her 80% shortfall.

One cannot love enough for two.

IF you are both equally committed to making this work again, then you must seek some kind of negotiation in relationship counselling.

 

Please note:

Counselling is not a tool designed to keep people together, necessarily.

But it makes discussion fruitful, dialogue constructive and gives both members of the relationship, room to self-express freely, without the danger of re-hashing old arguments, throwing accusations, apportioning blame, off-loading responsibility and ending up simply having a round-and-round slanging match.

 

Don't get your hopes up.

 

her silence, after your suggestion you meet up after this weekend, speaks volumes.

 

She knows where you're going with this.

She's less keen.

She was just being friendly, because she's further past the break-up than you are, and is 'friend-zoning' you.

She's over it to a degree, she assumes you are too.

 

Now she sees you're being eager, friendly and forward, (every contact you have had has been initiated by you....) and is probably backing off....

 

I predict tears before bed-time....

[Leophyte]

Don't get your hopes up.

 

her silence, after your suggestion you meet up after this weekend, speaks volumes.

 

She knows where you're going with this.

She's less keen.

She was just being friendly, because she's further past the break-up than you are, and is 'friend-zoning' you.

She's over it to a degree, she assumes you are too.

 

Now she sees you're being eager, friendly and forward, (every contact you have had has been initiated by you....) and is probably backing off....

 

I predict tears before bed-time....

Thanks for the advise in general.

 

I know you're right about getting my hopes up. But still..

Can anyone tell me:

 

• Why she's telling me that whenever she feels miserable, she's wearing my underwear.
  
• She contacted my mother and arranged to meet after her exams
  
• Told me she had a conversation with a (male) friend, who told her that he would love to see her happy again with someone, BUT, that he really wished that I was the one to be back with her, not anyone else. I mean, why would she say such things to me if she doesn't have any feelings?
  

Mixed signals, right?

[TaraMaiden]

Thanks for the advise in general.

 

I know you're right about getting my hopes up. But still..

Can anyone tell me:

 

• Why she's telling me that whenever she feels miserable, she's wearing my underwear.
  
• She contacted my mother and arranged to meet after her exams
  
• Told me she had a conversation with a (male) friend, who told her that he would love to see her happy again with someone, BUT, that he really wished that I was the one to be back with her, not anyone else. I mean, why would she say such things to me if she doesn't have any feelings?
  

Mixed signals, right?

 

Yup, completely.

She hankers after security but doesn't want the commitment of being with you.

 

It's 'breadcrumbs'.

 

Read the NC Guide in my signature/link.

 

This is head-messing on a big scale, and she's only doing it and getting away with it, because you let her.

[Leophyte]

Yup, completely.

She hankers after security but doesn't want the commitment of being with you.

 

It's 'breadcrumbs'.

 

Read the NC Guide in my signature/link.

 

This is head-messing on a big scale, and she's only doing it and getting away with it, because you let her.

Okay thanks.

I must say, I don't believe she does it on purpose, but still.. She does it.

 

Now back to the hard part, let her chase me; no initiating contact from my side for now.

 

ps. got a reply back that she had to work and prepare for her last exams this weekend, so no time to meet. Guess I'll just hang out with friend then..

[TaraMaiden]

Okay thanks.

I must say, I don't believe she does it on purpose, but still.. She does it.

Nobody is suggesting she does it on purpose.

But if she were serious about wanting to rebuild a relationship with you, she would be more forthcoming.

 

You have a choice:

 

Either go complete No Contact and let her approach you, next time. (it would be interesting to see what approach she uses, indeed....)

 

Or: Confront her.

 

Tell her you're receiving mixed messages (give her examples, as you did, above) and what is it she wants exactly?

 

Now back to the hard part, let her chase me; no initiating contact from my side for now.

She hasn't BEEN chasing you. She's just been friendly. If you perceive that as chasing, I fear you are sadly mistaken...

No Contact from your side - period. For good. At all. None whatsoever.

 

ps. got a reply back that she had to work and prepare for her last exams this weekend, so no time to meet. Guess I'll just hang out with friend then..

 

Unless she's going to be glued to her chair, there could have been a 'but I can be free from about 7pm onwards tomorrow evening if you just want to grab a coffee...."

 

Busy people make time.

Those who don't want to - won't.

[I_Like_To_Golf]

I would do what others will advise you to do and go complete NC until you're indifferent or she states she wants to get back together.

 

I was in somewhat of a similar situation, great relationship with no arguments and she broke up with me. Went NC for 4 weeks and she threw the "I miss you" text at me. Without knowing about this forum, I bit on the text and we started texting back and forth and meeting up.

 

She was giving me all the clear signs of being attracted to me, you could see it in her eyes and the way she acted, sort of like when we were in the "honeymoon phase."

 

So after being mind screwed by her for 2 months thinking there was a chance of reconciliation (hanging out, flirting, talking about good memories, being intimate), I decided to go NC. She sent me a text, I never replied, and she hasn't made an attempt to contact again in over 4 months.

 

In other words, going NC on her will flush out her intentions in this situation. NC will allow you to gain a different perspective and you'll understand a lot more.

 

Keep doing what you're doing in the regards of hanging out with friends and go make some great memories with your buds.

Edited February 1, 2014 by I_Like_To_Golf

[Blizeow]

Unfortunately, I agree with the majority here...

 

I would just like to say, as a woman, I would NEVER tell an ex that I was wearing his underwear if I was in a relationship with someone else. That is the most obnoxious ploy to receive attention that I have heard in a long time. I am assuming that she is young, correct? That's the only way I could rationalize that.

 

Her spitting out these attention ploys are unfair to not only you, but her new guy as well... Who is to say if she did get back with you that she wouldn't sit around and do the exact same thing to the other guy.

 

Do not pay her anymore attention until she makes up her mind...

[Sandy99]

I think it seems promising. But think a lot about what she said in regards to why she wanted to break up with you. You said, she said she got sick of the routine, she was bored with having every day be like the last when you were together. It sounds like she wants you to not be so predictable. She doesn't want everything to always be the same. Can you start taking some new classes, getting different hobbies, and changing your routine a bit? Maybe start acting less predictable and routine and possibly this will peak her interest more.

 

She also sounds like she is very stressed out about her exams, so I would maybe step back a bit at least until those are over.

 

Also until you have a relationship with this girl again...I'd keep yourself out there. You should try to continue to date other people. You already know you are capable of doing this because you did it before, now just keep doing it...yet also keep your friendship going with your ex. Keep in mind that until you are back together, you are not back together. It's sort of a black or white situation really. But your case sounds pretty promising to me.

[Leophyte]

I would do what others will advise you to do and go complete NC until you're indifferent or she states she wants to get back together.

 

I was in somewhat of a similar situation, great relationship with no arguments and she broke up with me. Went NC for 4 weeks and she threw the "I miss you" text at me. Without knowing about this forum, I bit on the text and we started texting back and forth and meeting up.

 

She was giving me all the clear signs of being attracted to me, you could see it in her eyes and the way she acted, sort of like when we were in the "honeymoon phase."

 

So after being mind screwed by her for 2 months thinking there was a chance of reconciliation (hanging out, flirting, talking about good memories, being intimate), I decided to go NC. She sent me a text, I never replied, and she hasn't made an attempt to contact again in over 4 months.

 

In other words, going NC on her will flush out her intentions in this situation. NC will allow you to gain a different perspective and you'll understand a lot more.

 

Keep doing what you're doing in the regards of hanging out with friends and go make some great memories with your buds.

I did not get to the stage of being intimite again. As much I would love to, my goal is not a booty call or whatsoever, but to win her back, forever.

 

I do believe that complete NC won't work, not anymore. But I do reckon I am too eager, so I should let her be the one seeking contact with me, not vice versa.

 

Unfortunately, I agree with the majority here...

 

I would just like to say, as a woman, I would NEVER tell an ex that I was wearing his underwear if I was in a relationship with someone else. That is the most obnoxious ploy to receive attention that I have heard in a long time. I am assuming that she is young, correct? That's the only way I could rationalize that.

 

Her spitting out these attention ploys are unfair to not only you, but her new guy as well... Who is to say if she did get back with you that she wouldn't sit around and do the exact same thing to the other guy.

 

Do not pay her anymore attention until she makes up her mind...

Eeeh, where did I mention she is in a relationship? She's not. She slept with a guy and she told me that she did like hanging around with him.

But at the same time, she mentioned that she didn't feel emotionally connected to the guy, he was just not at the same (emotional) level. She mentioned that she felt that I was the only (male) person who really understands how to comfort her.

 

I think it seems promising. But think a lot about what she said in regards to why she wanted to break up with you. You said, she said she got sick of the routine, she was bored with having every day be like the last when you were together. It sounds like she wants you to not be so predictable. She doesn't want everything to always be the same. Can you start taking some new classes, getting different hobbies, and changing your routine a bit? Maybe start acting less predictable and routine and possibly this will peak her interest more.

 

She also sounds like she is very stressed out about her exams, so I would maybe step back a bit at least until those are over.

 

Also until you have a relationship with this girl again...I'd keep yourself out there. You should try to continue to date other people. You already know you are capable of doing this because you did it before, now just keep doing it...yet also keep your friendship going with your ex. Keep in mind that until you are back together, you are not back together. It's sort of a black or white situation really. But your case sounds pretty promising to me.

Strange enough, I do not only reckon what se said about the routine, I feel the same way myself now! The breakup hit me so hard that I couldn't do anything else than just let things go and see things from a different perspective. In the first couple of weeks after she broke up, she also told me that 90% of our relationship was great, but that she just missed that 10%. But after ignoring that 10% for too long, it became more and more important to her.

 

About that exams, I will. Thinking back of when I texted her, it makes some sense that she did reply that late to me, because this is more or less her schedule of the weekend, as she told me last week. Friday: Late shift at work, so back at midnight. Saturday, she had a birthday of a friend of hers and after that, had to work in the night-shift. In between, there's also the exams she's preparing for.

 

I have a date tonight with some hot blonde chick. Not really lookign forward to it, but it will be a good way to have my thoughts somewhere else I guess. In the mean time, I will remain friendly to my ex, but I will not initiate contact first.

 

One more thing that crosses my mind now. Last Wednesday, she also showed me a short note that I wrote to her like two weeks after breakup. She showed me she kept it and told that she looks at it sometimes. It's a verse in a song of Mr. Probz called "Waves".

 

I wish I could make it easy

Easy to love me, love me

But still I reach, to find a way

I'm stuck here in between

I'm looking for the right words to say

 

All together, trying to look from the sidelines. I just know she still has at least some feelings for me. It's just too obvious to ignore. On the other hand, I must not be too eager, because she might need some time to canalize her feelings. And that might tike some time, because she already told me she is not doing so well, apart from the exam-stress.

[Leophyte]

Just one thing to add.

Had a discussion with one of my closest friends on the subject and he told me that he had spoken her briefly lately. He also mentioned that he was sure she's missing me and absolutely was not happy about her life at the moment.

 

Still, he said, that's not a reason to let her treat you like a dog. So here's what I will do. I won't contact her and if she does, I just reply friendly and mature. Whenever she asks me to come over like last week, because she feels miserable, I won't do that. Instead, I will let her know the truth and tell her that I won't help someone, who does not treat me likewise. Not that I ask for any help, but you get the point.

 

Well, easier said than done, but being honest; I feel good about the idea.

[BC1980]

Either go NC or confront her. Otherwise, she has the green light to waffle for who knows how long. There is no impetus to force her to make a decision either way at this point. If you want an answer, you force her hand one way or the other. I don't think this will end the way you want it to though. Wishy washy behavior is worse than her definitely saying no. It shows that she isn't conpletely aware of her feelings and had no backbone. Not good qualities in a partner.

 

I played this game with my ex for 4 months. People worthy of your time actually know what they want.

[Leophyte]

Either go NC or confront her. Otherwise, she has the green light to waffle for who knows how long. There is no impetus to force her to make a decision either way at this point. If you want an answer, you force her hand one way or the other. I don't think this will end the way you want it to though. Wishy washy behavior is worse than her definitely saying no. It shows that she isn't conpletely aware of her feelings and had no backbone. Not good qualities in a partner.

 

I played this game with my ex for 4 months. People worthy of your time actually know what they want.

You're absolutely right, the 'wishy washy behavior' like you describe is killing. And either way, I'm not asking her to make a decision right now, but I do expect some respect. And although I do wish to reconcile, things will not be fixed in an instant, so it will take effort from both sides.

 

I wait till she shows a sign of life (which she will) and then I will take the opportunity to talk to her. And yes, I will be honest and hard, if needed. Because what she did hurt and completely pissed me off and I think it's fair to confront her with that.

[Leophyte]

So.. I promised to keep you folks updated, right?

Don't hit me on my grammar, had a long working day.

 

Last Monday, she texted me stating that her grandfather was diagnosed with prostate cancer. She heard the news last Friday. I asked whether he had a chance of survival, but she didn't knew yet. I didn't reply to that.

 

An hour later, she texted that she felt completely miserable. I asked whether it was because of her grandfather and she replied "about everything". Texted her that she should tell me what's going in her head, because I can't do anything with it right now.

 

Today, she had her last exams. 4 O'clock, 2 messages on how the exams went (pretty well). An hour later how she felt about it. Again, an hour later she asked how I was doing. 10 minutes later, she texted me why I wasn't replying.

3 hours later (9 PM), I replied that I was happy for her and that I am doing well.

 

10 minutes later, she replies that she's happy for me. Followed by another message about a darts-match which was on television tonight. A few messages later she texted me: "I miss you".

 

Women...:mad:

 

So I replied to her that I didn't buy it and told her she should have been assigned for a role in one of Kate Perry's video clips..

 

She admitted she's confused, busy and not feeling great, but that she actually meant what she said. Also, she has the same feeling about me confusing her (haha, nice one!).

Anyway, I told her that I wanted to speak to her this weekend. She replied to be busy (work) and I told her that 'busy people make time' (Thanks Tara ). She replied that she would let me know..

 

Now, let's see what happens...

Edited February 6, 2014 by Leophyte
Little re-writing to match the texting.