Is it difficult to have a relationship if you have OCD?

[CrystalCastles]

I've never been tested but I strongly suspect I have OCD. It mildly interferes with my everyday life (there are things I have to check repeatedly like light switches and plugs because I'm deathly afraid of house fire, I throw things out even when I need them because they don't fit into my categories, I used to be unable to sleep at night unless I went to the bathroom at least 20 times before I went to sleep (though that eventually went away), and various other ticks). I worry my need for perfectionism will prevent me from having a good and healthy relationship. If my OCD is mild (ie., non-clinical), is it possible that I can have a good relationship without this getting in the way?

[Ayla123]

Hi there,

 

I actually just created an account just to reply to this message.

 

I personally have OCD and feel that it can sometimes affect things in a relationship, but it does really make a difference what type you have and whether or not the person you are in a relationship can deal with it.

 

I would suggest that if you want advice about OCD in relationships you post on a website dedicated to OCD where you can get advice from other people in a similar situation. It's very difficult for people who do not have the condition to understand! Also you should go and see a doctor who can refer for for counselling and CBT.

 

I have been in a relationship for a few months and I don't think it has affected it, but I think previous ones have. But as I say it's all about the type of OCD you have!

 

Hope things improve for you!

[Els]

I have OCD, and have been in a R for 5+ years and counting. We had to wade through some bad times, but it has been mostly happy for the past 3 years or so.

 

I won't lie, it makes it harder. You need to have a very invested and patient partner who doesn't mind putting up with some of your quirks. You also need to do your part and try your best to make sure your OCD doesn't hinder your R too much, of course.

 

I also have a checklist that I go through at night before I sleep. If my partner wants to go to bed, I snuggle with him first and then get up and go through the checklist though, I don't expect him to follow me on the nightly tours of the house.

 

Chin up, OP. It may be difficult, but it won't be impossible.

 

Edit: As a side note, one of the more prominent members of this community has been married for over a decade and he also has OCD, with more focus on O. He doesn't post here anymore, but I thought it might help to mention him.