Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 just need to find a way to keep my dignity at the gym when I see him. Ummm...go there, work out, and leave. Not sure why this is such an issue? It was one date, not a long, bumpy relationship.
beach Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 When at the gym - just be completely neutral. Stay focused on working out.
Author krista28 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Good point. but...it was still an akward argument. and I guess I feel rejected. in time it'll pass.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Well it is what it is. I maybe was drunk but he was awake too at that time and honestly I only made a couple comments which seemed to set him off. I had fault in it by drinking too much yes. but I don't like being snapped at. I already came to terms with what I did. I obviousmy don't see it as bad as he did. What did you say? 1
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 I couldn't sleep asked him for sex that's really all. just being am annoying drunk I guess. I know its wrong but its not like that shoulda been such a big deal I was already giving him a hand job.
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 Maybe intimacy issues since he just brokeuop with his ex.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I couldn't sleep asked him for sex that's really all. just being am annoying drunk I guess. I know its wrong but its not like that shoulda been such a big deal I was already giving him a hand job. SMH. Lol. I give up. 2
Zahara Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I couldn't sleep asked him for sex that's really all. just being am annoying drunk I guess. I know its wrong but its not like that shoulda been such a big deal I was already giving him a hand job. Cringing just reading that. This cannot be real. 3
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I couldn't sleep asked him for sex that's really all. just being am annoying drunk I guess. I know its wrong but its not like that shoulda been such a big deal I was already giving him a hand job. Once again, on what planet it this appropriate first date behaviour? On a first date, you should go out for a drink (or two, no more!), perhaps some dinner, a walk afterwards and you work out if you want to see them again. That's it! No getting smashed and giving him a handjob. Seriously, if you're actually a real person and you are describing a real problem, what about any of what you've described, constitutes a 'successful' date? Contrary to your opinion, a guy is not going to like you more if you give him one off the wrist on the first date. If anything, he's not going to call you again. Have some damn self-respect! 2
Zahara Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Krista, no man is going to take you seriously if you're getting sloppy drunk, asking for sex and already giving out jobs on your first meeting. Men don't respect women that don't respect themselves. Your behavior is self-destructive. If you want a man to respect and value you, and have the opportunity to consider dating you, please reconsider how you present yourself. If you think by letting him get a taste of your goodies, and giving him great hand jobs he'll be interested in you, you're sadly mistaken. Women who give themselves this way only get used. 4
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 You went back to his place on a first date, got drunk, and wacked him off, yet he STILL did not want to have sex with you. Sounds like a good guy to me. **I'd also pretty much assume that it's too late to salvage your dignity for run-ins at the gym, but that does explain a lot.
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 You went back to his place on a first date, got drunk, and wacked him off, yet he STILL did not want to have sex with you. Sounds like a good guy to me. **I'd also pretty much assume that it's too late to salvage your dignity for run-ins at the gym, but that does explain a lot. I'd be looking for a new gym... 1
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 Didn't wado him off. it was a few seconds really. were u serious about the good guy thing? I may not have much dignity but I certainly won't let his win by having to switch gyms.
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Didn't wado him off. it was a few seconds really. were u serious about the good guy thing? I may not have much dignity but I certainly won't let his win by having to switch gyms. Maybe he'll switch gyms and save himself the trouble of running into you again. It would be in his best interests.
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 F*ck him. Honestly he has something to be embarrassed about too. and that's being a food raging woman abuser.. I may have done. stupid crap . but He's an abuser. ill wait a week and resume going..my only thing is what on earth do I say if he tries to talk to me. J
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 F*ck him. Honestly he has something to be embarrassed about too. and that's being a food raging woman abuser.. I may have done. stupid crap . but He's an abuser. ill wait a week and resume going..my only thing is what on earth do I say if he tries to talk to me. J You pissed him off and he yelled at you. That doesn't make him an abuser, it makes him human. Next time, when you go on a first date, do the complete opposite of what your instincts tell you. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 What's a food raging woman abuser? 1
snowflakes88 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 F*ck him. Honestly he has something to be embarrassed about too. and that's being a food raging woman abuser.. I may have done. stupid crap . but He's an abuser. ill wait a week and resume going..my only thing is what on earth do I say if he tries to talk to me. J I don't think you have to worry. 2
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 im literally coming off this site. the responses i am getting are no good. this guy has a temper and warned me ahead of time. yeah i was pissing him off but he knew i was drunk and offered for me to stay there, then i couldnt sleep and he flew off the handle like a loose cannon!? how is that totally my fault?! you people really are like.....i dont know what to say. all i know is i hate the guy.
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 can someone tell me how to close this account because i dont want these peoples replies here on here anymore quite honestly.
snowflakes88 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 He warned you he had a temper, yet you went over to his house, got wasted, gave him a handjob on the first "date," refused to leave when he asked you to, and came here making multiple threads upset that he wouldn't give you another chance - after he allegedly raged on you so badly that you hate him (now). You are absolutely all over the place, Krista. If it's all his fault and you're blameless and he's just a terrible temper-driven-rager, you should be GLAD he's done with you. So what's the problem? 2
snowflakes88 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 PM a mod. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/members/196104-william/
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 im literally coming off this site. the responses i am getting are no good. this guy has a temper and warned me ahead of time. yeah i was pissing him off but he knew i was drunk and offered for me to stay there, then i couldnt sleep and he flew off the handle like a loose cannon!? how is that totally my fault?! you people really are like.....i dont know what to say. all i know is i hate the guy. Why are you getting drunk on a first date? Why are you putting yourself in a compromising position without an ability to get yourself home? Why are you attempting hand jobs and sex with a guy you barely know? Why are we coming down on you? Because you reap what you sow. If you had been drugged, knocked on the head, put in the boot of his car and driven to his house, then yes, it's not going to be your fault. That's called "bad sh*t happening". But this situation is (at least!) 50% your problem. When he told you he had a temper, why didn't you stop it then? We want to help you. But you seem incapable of helping yourself. And in the absence of being able to recognise how absolutely ridiculous your behaviour has been, then my advice is this - no more men. For a good while - until you can get this basketcase you turn into on the first date under control and back in the box, no men for you. You can't handle it. 1
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 fine pickflicker...you are right i agree. i dont know how to act on dates...i get drunk in front of men and do things too quickly. this however, i do not believe was the right guy for me. did i have part in it yes. did i make bad decisions yes..i am accepting my part in it...there will be no more men...its always disaster when im dating. i even thought about starting a blog about my experiences because they are so outlandish.
Author krista28 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 i believe this happened for a reason. hes the wrong guy for me.
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