krista28 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 so last night i went on a date with a guy i met at the gym. we went to play pool and were having a good time. he invited me back to his house and we had some drinks..well maybe too many. he tld me he just came out of a long term relationship and that he didnt know how he felt about dating, seemed kinda scared. so, we started fooling around a bit but def didnt sleep together..i was really drunk and i guess bugging him staying up really late and annoying him. he tried to kick me out of his house and was being kind of a jerk/over reacting. i think he might have a temper. so i kinda diffused the situation but i started crying cuz he was actually so mean and i never cry. so..like we had a really good time up until then. I left at 10 am today and we never ended up sleeping together ( thank god) it was pretty innocent. anyhow when i left this morning he didnt seem mad..and i said im really sorry about what happened...and he said he was way too tired to be having this conversation. so anyhow.. i havent heard from him yet..but i sent him a message saying im sorry about what happened last night.and i dnt blame him if he doesnt want to hangout ever again. do u think hell forgive me>? 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Eh... You got drunk and started acting up to the point that he tried to kick you out and then started crying?? He's most likely deemed you a crazy drama queen. I wouldn't expect a return call from this guy. Sorry. 5
pickflicker Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Jesus, what they hell are you doing going over to his house of the first date and getting drunk? If a guy has to "kick you out of his house" no, no, he will not call you again. 1
MrMeh Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I doubt he'll forgive you. He hardly knows you so he has nothing to lose. Your behavior probably would have pissed me off to be honest. You sounded inconsiderate and annoying, regardless of your state. Him being a "jerk" was a reaction to your behavior. Next time, control your alcohol consumption and emotional state.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 He wanted you leave and you wouldn't go. I would not be too pleased about that either. What do you mean you were bugging him? What exactly were you doing? The bottom line is that if someone asks you to leave their home, you go. You do not cry and stay until the next day. No, I don't think you'll be hearing from him again.
Author krista28 Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) this week i went on a date and we played pool. it went really well but then drinking started being involved( i had already known the guy from going to the gym). so anyways. things seemed to be going okay...and then i guess the booze got the best of us.. we fooled around a bit but then things started going to far..i guess i asked him to have sex with me and he FREAKED and started yelling at me because it was 5 am and he wanted to sleep but u know how it is when your drinking. we also kissed a lot before that so there was no indication i was doing anything wrong ( i know its not a good idea). he told me before that he had a bad temper and that his dad just stopped beating people up recently. anyhow..i didn't realize maybe how bad it is. i started crying, he threatened to kick me out of his house..and then i started getting dressed. and he said im sorry im sorry..and then he was a dick again and i was crying and as soon as that happened he felt really bad. anyways i left the next day not knowing really what went wrong except that i had too much to drink and he verbally abused me. i asked him if there's anyway i could have another chance or we could start over- he said no. he doesn't want to hangout again. just wants to move on. that he doestn judge me for anything but that he just doesnt basically want to hagnout again ( we go to the same gym so may run into eachother). I feel like such a tardo and that its my fault..ive even thought about bringing a bottle of wine over there to replace the wine i drank but i feel like that will make me look pathetic and desperate....people please be nice dont be nasty in ur responses this time nobodys perfect. ps-the guy just got out of a very long term relationship Edited February 2, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
crederer Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 I don't really see the problem. YOu didn't do anything wrong the guy obviously has anger issues to behave that way, especially since he doesn't know you well. I mean at this point is when people are on their absolute best behaviour. You shouldn't feel bad and just stay away from this guy. I mean why is this even bothering you? Guy sounds whacked. I have a feeling he's good looking but I don't wanna judge.... 1
somedude81 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 He's already yelling at you and you want to see him again? Geez woman have some self-respect. 5
Zahara Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 He's already yelling at you and you want to see him again? Geez woman have some self-respect. Read her history. LS isn't going to help her. 6
crederer Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Read her history. LS isn't going to help her. Oh jeeze.....krista take a time out for a while from dating. Figure yourself out. i just read some previous posts. I think you need to take some time to get some things worked out.
Zahara Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 (edited) Krista, you've been advised many a time to stay away from guys and to try and work on yourself. You seem to want to jump from guy to guy because you are so dependent on finding your happiness in a man. It's as if you can't bear to be alone so you cling on guy after guy, trying to get them to accept you. You're 30. I hate to be harsh but you sound emotionally immature. The first time you posted I thought you were a teenager. You're not even taking in any advice anyone is saying. Just posting and posting about crap guy after crap guy. What's the point in asking for advice when you keep making bad choice after bad choice? You're not even reflecting or trying to absorb people telling you to STOP dating. Please take a break from men. Seek a therapist to help you figure why you keep doing what you are doing. You keep seeking men that insult you, verbally abuse you, etc. It's time to stop this craziness and get to working on you and your issues. Enough of guys. Start learning how to love yourself and stop seeking men to do that for you. If you don't care and love yourself, no one will do that for you, infact they'll just use you and take advantage of your inability to have any self-respect for yourself. Edited February 1, 2014 by Zahara 4
Author krista28 Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 I don't really see the problem. YOu didn't do anything wrong the guy obviously has anger issues to behave that way, especially since he doesn't know you well. I mean at this point is when people are on their absolute best behaviour. You shouldn't feel bad and just stay away from this guy. I mean why is this even bothering you? Guy sounds whacked. I have a feeling he's good looking but I don't wanna judge.... You thought right he's very good looking.
preraph Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Listen, I have never seen a guy get at all mad if I woke him up at 5 a.m. wanting sex. This guy has a serious problem, and it may involve not only rage that could be very dangerous but also impotency. If he is impotent, he could really fly off the handle and hurt you, too, coupled with his bad temper. He just more or less warned you he had a bad temper. Walk away from this dude. He's not safe.
snowflakes88 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 You get furious every time I say it, but you need counseling. Seriously. A normal person does not go over to someone's house they barely know and then keep trying to make them stay up when they've said they want to go to sleep (the story you originally posted in your other thread). A normal person does not refuse to leave someone's home when asked to leave and spend the night in bed crying -- with the same person who just asked you to leave. A normal person does not consider dropping by with a bottle of wine after they just dumped all that crazy on someone and are told (unsurprisingly) the person is no longer interested. Every thread you post is the same, and you seem increasingly out of touch with reality. Honestly, has no one in your real life ever spoken to you about this?? 1
snowflakes88 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Read her history. LS isn't going to help her. Okay, so it's not just me. LOL.
Author krista28 Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 You get furious every time I say it, but you need counseling. Seriously. A normal person does not go over to someone's house they barely know and then keep trying to make them stay up when they've said they want to go to sleep (the story you originally posted in your other thread). A normal person does not refuse to leave someone's home when asked to leave and spend the night in bed crying -- with the same person who just asked you to leave. A normal person does not consider dropping by with a bottle of wine after they just dumped all that crazy on someone and are told (unsurprisingly) the person is no longer interested. Every thread you post is the same, and you seem increasingly out of touch with reality. Honestly, has no one in your real life ever spoken to you about this?? snowflake? I didnt drop the crazy the guy raged on me?? ! you seem kinda nasty and i dont appreciate your not helpfull comments. how on earth do u know its me? the guy was awake anyways he asked me to leave and then offered for me to stay? i cried for maybe 5 minutes.. jeez if you arent going t be constructive please do not respond
somedude81 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 You thought right he's very good looking. And that gives him free range to be an as*hole!?
snowflakes88 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 snowflake? I didnt drop the crazy the guy raged on me?? ! you seem kinda nasty and i dont appreciate your not helpfull comments. how on earth do u know its me? the guy was awake anyways he asked me to leave and then offered for me to stay? i cried for maybe 5 minutes.. jeez if you arent going t be constructive please do not respond First of all, it's a public forum. If you don't like my opinion, skip my posts... but I'm entitled to respond. Secondly, your story has changed since you first started posting about this guy. You first said you were bugging him to stay up late and annoying him, which is when he asked you to leave. Instead of leaving, you stayed over and cried. That is a LOT for someone you barely know. And it's not just this thread -- like Zahara said, it's everything you post on here. You get lots of constructive posts and suggestions (multiple people have suggested that you would benefit from therapy or counseling) -- but you ignore them in favor of just wanting advice about how you can continue to chase after men who aren't interested in you and/or treat you badly. 2
crederer Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 And that gives him free range to be an as*hole!? Obviously (sarcasm in case you missed it) 1
crederer Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 You thought right he's very good looking. I have a hard time believing this is real. If it is real get the hell outta there. Figure yourself out. This is some sad **** 2
Author krista28 Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Oh its real and I know its messed. Looks don't matter it was more of a joke. anyhow everyone here is saying right I obviously pick men that treat me badly. I wouldn't say they aren't interested because if they werent they wouldn't be around me to begin with. Girls meet guys all the time that arent that into them. anyways....I don't know the reason ii think it might be me is because this guy had a girlfriend for 9 years. he must not have been abusive. yet why was he to me? I don't know.
somedude81 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Oh its real and I know its messed. Looks don't matter it was more of a joke. For some reason I don't believe you. I don't know the reason ii think it might be me is because this guy had a girlfriend for 9 years. he must not have been abusive. Some women have been abused by their husbands for 20 years or more. For all we know, this guy could have been abusing his GF for the entire 9 years they were together.
Eivuwan Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Are you afraid of receiving therapy for some reason?
pickflicker Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 I didn't realise it was possible to do this many wrong things on a first date. Krista, if this is how you approach dating, I urge you start making a list of "do's and dont's" for a first date. Everything was wrong about this and you can kiss this guy off, because i doubt he'll be interested a second date.
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