sam78617 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Hello Everyone, I am in a situation and would greatly appreciate your advice. I met this guy in August of 2013. We instantly hit it off...text, talked and went out on dates. I was just newly separated (June 2013) and he had recently ended a 6 year relationship. We supported each other during this time. I started to really like him and mentioned that to him. He made it clear that he did not want to be in a relationship and I was ok with that. But I couldn't help liking him. We continued our friendship - still talking, texting, and meeting up. During that time we would kiss but it was nothing more than a kiss. He was very respectful because I told him that I wasn't ready to be intimate just yet. As things started to get intense between the two of us, I could tell that he would become distant at times. Esp if we would talk about personal things...but we always managed to get back in the swing of things. For the past two months, we started talking about sex. Everything about it...what I liked, disliked and what he liked/disliked. We would flirt back and fourth....and joke around about it. So last week we ended up hanging out. We started kissing...it got really intense and he started dry humping me. After he was done...he looked at me and said "wow". We later kissed/hugged/cuddled some more and that was the end of it. We had known each other for six months at that point. The next day, I didn't talk to him. However, I did send him a message to ask him what his thoughts were on what happened. We later talked on the phone and he said that he felt it was forced/not natural and that he didnt want to talk to me for a while. He said that he didn't want a relationship even though I said nothing about one. We are finally talking - but he still doesnt want o talk about that night. He keeps telling me to just let it go and does not want to talk about it. I told him that I wanted to be friends with him however, I just cant. Its too hard. One day, I want to be friends the next day I can't. I am not sure what to do. What he is thinking, if he likes me or not, OR maybe it was just a one time thing. We didn't sex so what gives? Can you please help and shed some light on this? He is distant and is avoiding me and its killing me! Thank-you all so much!
lionheart153 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 It seems like he doesn't know what he wants. And after breaking up with someone they had dated for 6 years, well thats a long time, and for me, I would need a long time to get over that relationship. I am right now going through that as my ex and I knew each other for 6 years but dated for three. I don't think I will be ready to date for at least a 6 months to a year. He seems confused, and unsure of what he wants. I would suggest to give him his space and just stop thinking about him. He might be using you as a rebound. Perhaps if you leave him to his own devices he will realize how much he misses you and you guys can restart. But if it was up to me, I'd leave and forget about him and let him come to you 1
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