Near 4 month mark and questions finally answered. I feel like a fool.

[devastated777]

I have found out why he dumped me now. All my why's have been answered.

when we began dating, there was this girl that was his "best buddy" they had dated a couple times but were just friends. As soon as she found out we were dating, she immediately told me he was terrible, stingy, blah blah. then called him and told him a bunch of lies about me and how I would use him. blah blah. Later, she apologized to me and said she had too much to drink and to please forgive her and she didn't remember saying all those things.

 

needless to say, we both had NC with her the whole time (at least I didn't) we were together, two years. Whenever her name was brought up he would get mad about how she tried to sabotage "us." Now, fast forward. He made up stories about how I cheated on him and I was so baffled because we were together all the time. I even reached out to her and said, yeah, guess you were right.

 

She told me that she "ran into " him and how heartbroken he was and how he loved me and that I should call him, especially if I still love him. I mean I poured out my heart and soul to this person. ( I knew they had reconciled because her sister had a wreck at the bottom of his driveway and he called her to tell her). I haven't talked to her in a month and she was nice and talked about how he loved me blah blah. Now, I know that they are together. I feel like I was played the whole time. Maybe so he could get her?? Anyone have any ideas. I feel like such an idiot.

 

I just wanna puke. I told her I loved him and that no one could compare, all the while making her want him more and more. ugh. Any advice guys? How do I stop feeling so stupid and used??

Edited February 1, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[hurts2death]

forgive and heal.

 

i know how you feel. as for the answers its very true. i wlaso found a lot of answers down the line as months were passing post break up,the mind clears .your soul stop conquaring your heart and your mind you kinda become logical again and with sharper thinking you explore things that you couldnt believe they were happening.

 

i hope you get ok...

[devastated777]

I am blown away. I mean, did they sit there and laugh about what I was texting? she even said that I was so sweet how I took care of my mom when she was dying. Was that guilt? Are people like them even capable of feeling guilt. wow. just wow.

[rosedl]

You aren't a fool. You loved and trusted a man who betrayed you, and so did his 'friend'.

 

Let her have him. He has shown that he is manipulative (classic move, accusing the other person of cheating when he/she is having the affair), and untrustworthy. Believe me, those character traits don't just disappear.

 

What comes around goes around.....its true.

 

People can be selfish and terrible at times. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I know it is hard to see in the beginning of a breakup, yet I really do believe this is one of those blessing in disguise situations.

 

Good riddance. It will clear the way to let real love enter your life.

 

What a total crumb.

[LostConfused123]

I don't really have any advice but I'm so sorry this happened to you.

You didn't do anything wrong though!!! You didn't deserve this!!

There have been times I have found out I was played before and I know how much it HURTS!

 

They are weasels and they know it!! I know that doesn't help but they are!

((hugs!!))

[Haydn]

Sorry but some people are not. Better off without this i am sure. You are better than this. OK? Keep talking.

 

 

I am blown away. I mean, did they sit there and laugh about what I was texting? she even said that I was so sweet how I took care of my mom when she was dying. Was that guilt? Are people like them even capable of feeling guilt. wow. just wow.