H245 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Today is a bad day. I am at home for another day sick from work. I saw my ex on Tuesday at trivia. I was fine for the most part and left when I felt awkward. All we did was wave to each other but never spoke. The last few days since I've just had the urge to contact her to reconcile. I don't know why I'd want to, she's not a nice person. The urge is just getting to the point where I just want to send a text to say hi can we talk. What can I do to get my mind off it?
jphcbpa Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Today is a bad day. I am at home for another day sick from work. I saw my ex on Tuesday at trivia. I was fine for the most part and left when I felt awkward. All we did was wave to each other but never spoke. The last few days since I've just had the urge to contact her to reconcile. I don't know why I'd want to, she's not a nice person. The urge is just getting to the point where I just want to send a text to say hi can we talk. What can I do to get my mind off it? get out a sheet of paper and write about this (bolded)
Author H245 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 I've tried doing this and it isn't working. I am having a massive meltdown where all I want is to beg for us to work on our relationship regardless of what's happened. I just want a fresh start with her again...I don't care about what's happened in the past. I don't know what's wrong with me!
organizedchaos Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I've tried doing this and it isn't working. I am having a massive meltdown where all I want is to beg for us to work on our relationship regardless of what's happened. I just want a fresh start with her again...I don't care about what's happened in the past. I don't know what's wrong with me! I don't know what it is, but after 6 months I thought I was doing good...but in the last day or two the feelings of missing her badly have hit me again....and I've been tempted to reach out, but won't.
ithappenedagain Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I am right there with you brother. Seriously. These urges suck. Our mind tells us that we can get them to ''see the light'' but then at the same time we KNOW that is not going to work. Hey, I saw you threw out your email address to chat. Would you mind if I added you? I think we could help eachother out with these urges.
Never Again Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I don't know what it is, but after 6 months I thought I was doing good...but in the last day or two the feelings of missing her badly have hit me again....and I've been tempted to reach out, but won't. Ha, it's like the planets have aligned. It's been over 7 months for me, and over 3 NC, but over the last few weeks the thoughts of her have just crept back. The past couple days have been bad. Thoughts of missing her have hit me hard too. I won't contact her either though. Tempted, but I know I'll only feel miserable if I do. 1
JDPT Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Nothing can exist without an originating cause. You saw your ex on trivia (cause) urge to humiliate yourself by texting her (effect). If you ask me, you already broke NC. Now, what makes you think the aftermath will be any different if you break it again? Fight the urge, fight it with all your strength. Internalize the fact that nothing good will come out of it. Do this for YOU and no one else, hold yourself at high regards and never allow anyone to take it away from you.
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