calndn Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 So I met this guy on tinder. I don't use it for a hookup site, sure you can but I'm not after hookups. So we went for a drink, it was really good didn't stop chatting got on well he told me how he thought I was really confident and attractive and asked if I wanted to meet up again so I said yes. I went to his and we were going to go out after a drink at his, we ended up carrying on drinking and chatting all night at his it was great conversation etc. We kissed and made out a little (just kissing I may add) nothing else at all. I stayed as it got late again nothing happened just kissing and chatting. Cooked me breakfast and dropped me home the next day. Texted to say thanks for a great evening etc. Since then we talk a fair amount (well text) he was away last weekend so thought I may see him this week. No mention, just chit chat so I suggest a drink, our schedules don't really match but instead of trying to suggest something he's just all like no I can't do that night. And, 'you're busy for the rest of the weekend!' I just feel like he's not really keeping the flow feel I can't say anything else. I may sound like a crazy woman but I just can't help but feel we got on well and had a great time but it's like this week it's just a bit meh and I don't want to invest further into something that doesn't seem to be giving back the same interest even though he's been keen etc. Probably sound pathetic but it's bugging me and I needed to vent :-(!
FitChick Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 He was on Tinder for a hookup and didn't get one. 1
Pinch Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Did he trying anything past kissing and light touching.If he just wanted to hook up he might have put some obvious effort into doing so.Did he? Did you stop any advances? In not, if he likes you he will make a effort to meet with you.But work and previous plans can effect the ability to meet.If I really I mean really like a woman, I'll take a sick day, or cancel plans to see her.Try again in a week,if its the same answer he might just not be feeling you. Hope it works out.
CherryBlossom200 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Personally I think you shouldn't have gone back to his place so soon as its setting the wrong example. But it does seem like he was only after a hook up TBH, or it's just a simple case of he just isn't that into you. Which I know is cr*p, but I've learnt that you can have an amazing date (and I'm sure he meant all those things) but with a guy if he REALLY likes you he will contact you the next day or so asking for another date. And he hasn't done that. So seems like he wants something casual and fit you in when he hasn't got anything else on. My advice, move on..forget about him and find someone who does pursue you in the right way. x
Author calndn Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 No he didn't try hooking up at all. Just kissing and general touching as you would but clothes on everything. Cooked me dinner at his etc I went there as he said let's meet at mine and decide what we want to do but just ended up chatting for so long by the time we said shall we go it was 11pm! Maybe he is just after a good time who knows. And maybe he isn't all that into me after all but he has been texting me since, lots, just this week when I thought I may see him he's been a bit different over message. He still messages me. It might just be a conflict of diaries, his job means he works all weekend. But you know when you get the red flags?? Well just feel like maybe it's a red flag! X
Phantom888 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 He's dating other people. He is occupying his time with other women, and he may be getting more from them. Ask him if he is seeing anyone else. The only time I have been standoff-ish after a really great is when I met someone else soon after and I am paying more attention to the new girl.
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