bluebelle86 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I recently ended it with my ex - who, over time, I learned to hate. He told me yesterday he's already seeing a new woman and think he's in love with her. All I can think is how desperately I want him back. We live in the same flat, share bank accounts, I still find him physically attractive - but most of all I'm finding myself putting him on this pedestal and I can't get over what an idiot I was for ending it. He's adamant we won't work and as such, isn't willing to try. I feel helpless. I am so desperately sad - I don't know what to do. Can someone with a positive outlook contact me please?
Chi townD Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Yeah, sure! MOVE OUT! Look, you made a mistake and ended it and he's moving on. But, you have to ask yourself if he's able to move on this quickly without mourning the loss of you and the relationship, then how much did you really mean to him anyway? You need to get out of that flat, sooner or later he's going to start bring this girl around. Or talking on the phone to her in front of you and hearing him say stuff to her that was exclusive to you. And then finally, you wake up in the mourning only to discover that she spent the night. Get out of there. Pay a penalty if you have to. But, you need to leave.
zen2475 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I don't think him moving on is an indicator that he didn't care; rather, it speaks more to his ability to cope with loss. The fact that he has pointed out he is seeing someone now is an act that is meant to hurt. If he didn't hurt, he would not say this to the OP and he'd simply move on. That being said, the OP should reconsider the reasons why they lost feeling for their ex and came to have such disdain. We will all experience a certain amount of regret when we let someone go, but there are reasons why the relationship did not work, and that is what needs to be considered.
ain5053 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I am so sorry you are going through this.. I understand how hard broken you feel and how much you want to *fix* this. But from what you've said, your relationship is not worth fixing... You mentioned that you "hate" him, also that he is seeing another woman.... In this case, the best choice is to move out and live life like he lives it. I know it will be the hardest thing you will do. But if he is not respecting you as his exgirlfriend or roommate, he does not deserve your respect. Move out, try to date. Possibly, he will regret it and everything will work out. But you will only hurt more by not taking action... Good luck to you.
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