thefunkdownunder Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Hey everyone, I'm caught in a bit of a rut. My ex dumped me about three weeks ago. Before she did, I had driven to her house, confronted her father and said that I need to speak to your daughter. I told her I'd really like my future to be her and me all the way and that I love her and care for her very much. She cried, we held hands, and I know she cared for me a lot, but said that she couldn't promise that we'd see each other again or that she would call back. I left completely confused and scared, but said to her that she can have all the space she needed, and I haven't talked to her since. It's been three weeks, and I've been hanging out with old friends every weekend instead of sitting around moping, which was difficult at first, but eventually I managed to have an okay time of it. She found out through facebook that I had a good time with my friends at my mate's apartment and that there were obviously other girls there. I confess that I still peep out her facebook page once in a while, and I noticed after that night at my buddy's that she'd posted a quote picture thingy that said "Relationships are like houses. When a light bulb burns out, you don't go buy another house. You fix the light bulb." I broke NC once I read this with the intentions of calling to see how she's doing and if all went well, I would've asked to get a coffee for a half hour or so, but she didn't answer the phone. I am 99% sure that facebook post was about me, but I don't understand it... she dumped me? I don't really want to rehash all the problems I had with her in the relationship by jumping into it again with her, but I dearly miss the people we were together when we'd just get together every other weekend before we started dating. We weren't property, there were no tricks or games, and we had a great time together every time. I'd like to gently transform back to that, but in this period of time. Because of seeing that facebook post, I feel like she misses it too, but doesn't want the heartache of the relationship either. Is there any way I can effectively go about doing this? I just miss her as another human being, and our breakup was pretty clean, so I don't see why it'd be impossible for us to stay in touch. Keep in mind, I am 25, male, dumpee. She is 24, female, dumper. And I haven't put one single change to my facebook other than changing relationship status since the breakup and NC. Any advice would be great help, put my mind more at ease, and keep my hand off my cell phone hah.
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Delete and block from facebook. Then you don't have to see it, wonder about it, get affected by it, and waste your emotion on it. You're welcome 1
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