shadow15 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Me and this girl has been talking for a month a now; and we do like each other, but this morning we had sex for the first time and i just feel bad. See she told me she only has sex with guys she is in relationships with last night because we was about to have sex then. I then told her, I said i don't know if we should or not, and I told her because Im not sure I want another relationship right now. I told her with everything going on in my life right now; I just don't believe i have time to commit to a full relationship. She understood and we started to go sleep and talk in general. I told her see i told you I'm like not every other guy, I'm not in it just for that, i can wait for that stuff, and she was like i know and i like that about you, but just think you could and should have had it. So that kinda pissed me off because i felt like she was rubbing it in my face, but whatever. The next morning, today, she was trying to seduce me and i wasn't really feeling it because I was still a little pissed. She was getting aggravated and then said lets have sex, and i looked at her and said; are you sure? I told her i said, you are in control right now, you determine what happens and well then we did. But then afterwards she was like, you better keep on talking to me and not disappear, and I'm just thinking; girl I'm going with you to your formal next week, i don't think I'm going anywhere. So yea thats my life right now; i feel bad cause i think she feels bad, and i don't know if i should have a reason to feel bad or not. I clearly told her I'm not really wanting a relationship right now and i was fully honest with her. What does everyone else think? Did i do something bad? I know i won't have sex with her again until i decide I'm ready, because thats not fair to her. I mean i do like the girl, she's gorgeous, awesome personality, and smart; but I just don't want to be in a relationship right now in my life...
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Stop feeling bad? She made a choice and apparently you gave her all the information she needed to make an informed choice. Nothing to feel bad about. If you don't want to be in a relationship she already had that knowledge before she slept with you. If she wants to keep sleeping with you, with full knowledge you are not in a place for a relationship right now, that's her choice. You have nothing to feel bad about taking her offer if you'd enjoy sleeping with her again. 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 "When all choices seem wrong, choose restraint". I like that. OP. that should have been your motto.
PegNosePete Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Agree, stop feeling bad. She made a choice. You didn't lie, deceive or manipulate her at all, in fact quite the opposite, you were very upfront and honest about it. She chose to proceed. She is an adult and can make her own decisions. Just enjoy.....
lolablue17 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 (edited) Oh, come on... You are sexy and she wanted you badly last night and this morning. Stop patronizing, its no big deal for her and for you, ENJOY!!! Edited January 31, 2014 by lolablue17 mistake
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