confused83 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 My girlfriend can be the sweetest person ever but for some reason to me it doesnt feel enough and i dont know why. Together we are amazing but our sex life is pretty hard work, its amazing when it happens but she wont initiate anything and always tells me to stop because shes shy, i respect that and i stop but i don sometimes get the feeling im doing something wrong and as for everything else when she comes to my house i go out to her, hug her, kiss her, etc etc but when i go to hers if i think to myself 'right ill walk in, sit down and see what happens' she rarrely comes over to me, i can sit there and she will just smile and say hows your day etc but not make any move. On msgs i never get kisses on the end and i earlier sent her a long msg about how much i love her and didnt get hardly anything back just 'love you' that was it. I dont know if the problem is down to me that im expecting too much because shes the girl ive loved more than anyone else and kind of didnt think it would happen again to me or whether there is a problem that she just struggles to initiate contact or physical things because of worrying she may do something wrong or plainly the fact she just isnt as into me as i am of her. I cant figure it out and I really darent bring it up as an issue because surely that will make matters worse if shes just being shy. weve know each other ages and dont get why shes still shy.
carhill Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 No one owes you affection and you owe no one your presence.
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 This has been a fragile relationship from the word go. Give p. She's not as 'in to you' as you are to her. She may have different ways of showing affection, or may simply be passive, letting you take the initiative. But the sex thing? No. Something isn't gelling - and I think you need to cut your losses and walk away. How old are you guys?
soccerrprp Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 You say that sex is "amazing" when it happens, so you do and have had sex, intercourse, right? But she "always" says stop? Have you had sex???? No, after this time(?) no matter how shy someone is, if she likes you, she will open up to you. I think others are right. She's not that into you.
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I see from one past thread that you're 30... I also see from your last thread, that your GF has said she wants space. Same girl, I take it....? This is over. needing space/a break is exactly the same as splitting up. And I'm sorry, you DO come over as being desperately needy, clingy, immature and very low on self-esteem. I'd personally try to cry off from entering into any relationship until you can look at yourself in the mirror, and say, out loud - "You are one hot, confident, self-assured and happy guy, and deserve the very best person, who deserves you!" And mean it 100%. 2
Gottabestrong Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I cant figure it out and I really darent bring it up as an issue because surely that will make matters worse if shes just being shy. weve know each other ages and dont get why shes still shy. I do think you need to bring it up with her. She may have no idea how you feel and how is she going to become more affectionate if she does not know you want that? Speak up!
Gottabestrong Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I see from one past thread that you're 30... Really? Wow. From his OP I thought they were both in highschool or something. 1
Hopeful30 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 It's her own insecurities. That's probably why you don't feel you get enough affection, cuz the affection you do get is forced and not genuine. It's hard to date an insecure person. My current man is MADDDD insecure, and all the problems we have had in this relationship so far have been a result of his insecurities. It's not easy.
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