notthathard Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Hey LoveShackers, Thought I'd post something on healing yourself and getting to the indifference stage. I've never felt better until recently since my breakup until I reached this stage. It took just short of 3 months to reach, I am a normally a strong person but the breakup broke me down. I'm now stronger than ever. Please add more to this this as I think it will really help others! How I got to indifference? -No contact (hahaha you heard it again after seeing it thousands of times, it's the fastest way) -Get yourself ready (Make sure you’re ready to heal, if you're not then you will get nowhere) -Accept the breakup (I promise, until you do this you won’t heal) -Write down your thoughts - hand written only (good, bad, memories.. after your done rip the paper out and throw it out in the bin - this is really powerful to your subconscious mind) -Turn your negative thoughts into positive (e.g. "I can’t live without her/him" into "I don’t need her/him to make me happy" OR "I so depressed right now" into "My life is going to be so good in the future starting from today") -Stop reading the breakup forum until you are healed, then help others (this was a big one, every time I read a breakup story it brought thoughts/feelings about my ex) -EFT tapping (many of you would have no idea about this, it's been proven to work so well than it could take a lot of business away from counsellors/psychologists) - see here for a beginner’s tutorial: There are many others on YouTube -Gym (join a gym whether you’re too skinny, too fat or perfect weight) -Meet new people of the opposite sex (You need to see that others are either attracted to you or interested in you as a person) -Plan your future (make some massive plans or high goals for your future that you have been holding back while in the relationship... don't let money hold you back, just do it!) -You need to get YOU back! (After being in a relationship for over a year+ many loose themselves. The breakup also takes a big toll on one’s personality. It’s time to work on you, do what you want to do, do what you enjoy doing, stop focussing on other people (you’re the most important person on this earth)) ^The best thing that I did to get me back was going to a laughter workshop. This is where everyone starts laughing for no reason and naturally you start laughing yourself. It's really hard to stop and your face will hurt but you release so many emotions from your body and feel fantastic after. It helped bring back my sense of humor and funny side. -Fill the gap of the relationship (do this either with hobbies, going out, friend/family gatherings, make new friends) -Keep alcohol to a minimum (this is important. You might feel good when you’re out getting drunk, but when you get home or in the morning your ex will suddenly appear in your head and the thoughts will be strong) -Don’t blame yourself (you have probably already done this, but really it’s not your fault the breakup happened unless you cheated or did something really bad. They chose to leave you now your choosing to leave them behind. Everyone is special and if they don't want to be with you then that's their fault, not yours.) 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 EFT Tapping is nothing more than self-applied shiatsu. All the points mentioned/illustrated or highlighted are points on channels known as 'meridians'. There's nothing recent or magical about Shiatsu - it's a acupressure technique that has been prevalent in oriental medicine for over 3000 years. How do I know this to be true? I'm a shiatsu therapist. And while it's good to 'self-treat' - nothing, but nothing does it better than a qualified Shiatsu therapist. Trust me on that one.
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