feelingcruddy14 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 My ex and I broke up a week and a half ago...I have been going NC and I removed him from all my social media and I knew I shouldnt have looked...I was doing REALLY well with feeling better. I found his online dating profile. He was such a good guy to me throughout the entire relationship and even though we broke up, I thought there would be good feelings between us and I hoped I had made an impact on him like the one he had made on me. When we broke up, he cried and said he was sorry and that he did care about me but he was no longer in love with me. Then he didn't want to talk, so I respected his wishes. When I saw the profile I broke NC and was basically like, "After a week and a half? Did I mean nothing to you??" I haven't cried...I feel like someone who was my best friend just wants to forget me, after everything. I just feel crushed. A week and a half????
TooPatient Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 How long was the relationship? Hate to say it, but I've done the same as him. Break up and try to bury the pain by finding a new relationship. Were you specifically looking for his profile? Did he reply when you broke NC? Whatever he says, I'd resume NC immediately and keep it that way. No good can come from looking up any profiles or finding out what he's doing. Sorry you had to see his profile. There's really no rules once you break-up tho. It doesn't mean you meant nothing to him, it could just be that he isn't secure single. Keep your chin up and try your best to only worry about yourself from here on out.
Haydn Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 If you broke up, then its not your business what he does and not his business what you do. The time time scale makes no difference. You are no longer together. Very harsh but true. My ex and I broke up a week and a half ago...I have been going NC and I removed him from all my social media and I knew I shouldnt have looked...I was doing REALLY well with feeling better. I found his online dating profile. He was such a good guy to me throughout the entire relationship and even though we broke up, I thought there would be good feelings between us and I hoped I had made an impact on him like the one he had made on me. When we broke up, he cried and said he was sorry and that he did care about me but he was no longer in love with me. Then he didn't want to talk, so I respected his wishes. When I saw the profile I broke NC and was basically like, "After a week and a half? Did I mean nothing to you??" I haven't cried...I feel like someone who was my best friend just wants to forget me, after everything. I just feel crushed. A week and a half???? 1
Author feelingcruddy14 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 No, I'm fairly sure he hasnt read them yet - he tends to go to bed early. I don't know if he'll respond or not...I kind of hope he doesn't. If he does I just want to know that I DID matter, and that he doesn't like...hate me or something because he isnt talking to me. I don't want my ex back. I know the split was the best thing for both of us, and while it sucks, I am looking forward to the future. But the no contact has left me to just stew in all the things I did wrong, all the stuff I said wrong, etc and if he responds in a nasty way...It'll just really hurt.
pickflicker Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Grief is unique in how it is experienced. Some people need to throw themselves into a new relationship, and some need some time. This is why looking for internet traces of them are a bad idea.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I know how much it hurts my ex done that 48 hours after walking out... the funny thing was when I felt a bit better (which u will too) I set up my own profile and now have a new BF from it... ha ha xx Chin up it does get better I promise x he hasnt forgotten u he's just trying to avoid dealing with it but he cant do that forever x
pickflicker Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I know how much it hurts my ex done that 48 hours after walking out... the funny thing was when I felt a bit better (which u will too) I set up my own profile and now have a new BF from it... ha ha xx Chin up it does get better I promise x he hasnt forgotten u he's just trying to avoid dealing with it but he cant do that forever x Err...yes you can. NC, permanently, never deal with ex again.
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 My ex and I broke up a week and a half ago...I have been going NC and I removed him from all my social media and I knew I shouldnt have looked...I was doing REALLY well with feeling better. I found his online dating profile. He was such a good guy to me throughout the entire relationship and even though we broke up, I thought there would be good feelings between us and I hoped I had made an impact on him like the one he had made on me. When we broke up, he cried and said he was sorry and that he did care about me but he was no longer in love with me. Then he didn't want to talk, so I respected his wishes. When I saw the profile I broke NC and was basically like, "After a week and a half? Did I mean nothing to you??" I haven't cried...I feel like someone who was my best friend just wants to forget me, after everything. I just feel crushed. A week and a half???? Who initiated the break-up? One of you must have brought it to the table, even if the decision ended up being mutual - who started the 'let's end it' ball, rolling.....?
Author feelingcruddy14 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 He broke up with me. I had been unhappy for a while but I didn't know that he had been too...i was so blindsided by the whole thing. He said he couldn't give me what I wanted and that I "deserved more."
Author feelingcruddy14 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 And, I'm sorry, the relationship was just under a year.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 U need to try and focus on the fact that u werent happy too... it was the same for me then suddenly when he broke with me I seemed to think it was a massive shock and he was the best thing ever... now I see that wasnt the case I was unhappy too but I lost sight of that x
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 He broke up with me. I had been unhappy for a while but I didn't know that he had been too...i was so blindsided by the whole thing. He said he couldn't give me what I wanted and that I "deserved more." He moved on a while ago. You may think it's 'a week and a half' but he signed out of this long before.... The "you deserve more" comment hides the follow-up ...."and so do I". Hence his cruising dating sites already. I'm sorry, but you're going to feel it more than he does, because while you're crushed, he's relieved. The dumper always, but always makes a speedier recovery. It's part of the 'off-loading' process. Go No Contact, read the Guide in my signature, and never ever 'stalk' him again, anywhere, or accept any 'incoming' from him. It will be hard, but not as hard as keeping tabs, because all that does is rip your heart out again. 1
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