Do you go from one feeling to another?

[lakerman34]

COMPLETELY, COMPLETELY normal. Don't block them out. Allow yourself to feel. Feel the entire range of emotions. I feel as if this is the mind/emotion's way of "sorting itself out."

 

It'll make you stronger in the end. One day, you'll get an epiphany and then you'll realize that you're over your ex. You'll get exhausted and bored thinking about it, expending feelings on it, and then you will know that you've moved on.

 

Another way I know when I move on is when I imagine my ex having hot/steamy sex with another dude, and just shrug my shoulders and say, "whatever, bitch. You sucked my D before, I liked your C before, that guy must LOVE the taste of my man juices."

 

EVERY guy that she dates after you, you can live with the fact of "hahahaha I used to hit that when it was nice and ripe." In college, I was screwing this girl who I initially wanted to date, but she was WAY too princess-y for me. Finally, she broke it off and started dating this other guy about a week later. Now, they're engaged. It never really affected me that she dropped me, I figured that she'd eventually realize that I was only after her lady parts. But the guy she's engaged with, I was never really a fan of. Now that they're engaged, I think, "hahahahahahahahaha. I could have wifed that up if I REALLY wanted to, but enjoy those orifices that I opened up for ya." Whenever she saw me (when I used to go to school), she'd walk faster and look down a little. It made me feel somewhat powerful. Also, the guy never even dared look at me.

 

Maybe I'm evil. But when you start thinking like this about exes, you realize that your time with them was GREAT and you don't really care who comes after you because, hey, you hit it first.

 

And then I go on living.

Edited February 19, 2014 by lakerman34

[LostConfused123]

I'm constantly going back and forth. Almost 4 months.

Yesterday I was feeling pretty good. Damnit!!! I knew that wouldn't last. LOL! Back to feeling a little sad. ugh!!!

 

Btw, I'm 42 abd I'm not at all discouraged about dating in my 40s. In fact I kinda like the wisdom I've gained. We're old enough to have lived and learned many valuable lessons and things I did in my 20s that, thank God, I know better to repeat. . . but we are also young enough to still have fun and play

 

Cmon, we earned those years!!! I'm proud to be 42.

Can't wait until my 50th!!! throwing a huge bash!! Hopefully with the love of my life by my side

 

stay strong!! ((hugs!!))

[SadNLonley]

Funny this post came back up. 3 months ago today was the last day i spoke with my ex. I have to say ive come a long way since then, but no way am i over him. I still hope he calls, but im not balling my eyes out every night. Im not watching my phone and emails all day waiting for him. I am starting to feel a bit better about myself. He just destroyed my ego and self esteem with the breakup. Thats a good feeling to see a light at the end of a tunnel instead of pure blackness. I still do go back and forth with my emotions though. I still dream of him. One thing I haven't done yet though and just waiting and wondering if it will hit. ANGER. not done it at all.

 

Now I just need to try the dating game again. That sucks! I did an online profile and getting no messages. That doesnt help the ego, but i've finally really hit the lonliness stage. I miss companionship. I miss SEX and love. Im afraid at 43 it may take a long long time to find someone.

 

anyone in STL that wants to hangout? lol. Im getting out with friends, but they are all freakin married. I need single girlfriends to hang with.

[lakerman34]

Funny this post came back up. 3 months ago today was the last day i spoke with my ex. I have to say ive come a long way since then, but no way am i over him. I still hope he calls, but im not balling my eyes out every night. Im not watching my phone and emails all day waiting for him. I am starting to feel a bit better about myself. He just destroyed my ego and self esteem with the breakup. Thats a good feeling to see a light at the end of a tunnel instead of pure blackness. I still do go back and forth with my emotions though. I still dream of him. One thing I haven't done yet though and just waiting and wondering if it will hit. ANGER. not done it at all.

 

Now I just need to try the dating game again. That sucks! I did an online profile and getting no messages. That doesnt help the ego, but i've finally really hit the lonliness stage. I miss companionship. I miss SEX and love. Im afraid at 43 it may take a long long time to find someone.

 

anyone in STL that wants to hangout? lol. Im getting out with friends, but they are all freakin married. I need single girlfriends to hang with.

 

Good!

Hoping he calls is OK.

 

If anyone tells you there is a 0% chance of reconciliation down the line, they are being shortsighted. BUT don't hold out hope. Live your life, move on.

 

I would still have sex with my ex. Hot, passionate sex. Would I date her again? HELLLLL no. If she called me to tuck her in at night, I'd probably come over.

 

But the feelings are all gone. If anything were to happen, I'd be in the driver's seat. I noticed that when things were going great, I had the feeling that I was in the driver's seat. When things were going poorly, SHE was in the driver's seat and didn't like being there.

 

You're doing well. Keep moving forward. A guy that is MUCH, MUCH better than your ex is on his way. Promise. Just wait for him. He'll be worth it.

[monsoon281]

I'm going through the same thing right now. The ups and downs are hard. You must accept that you did nothing wrong and there are other people who are better for your out there. I know its hard. Talking with a friend every night for support and hitting the gym extra hard is what''s helping me.

[WantanS4]

If you're not going up and down... on your way down... then you didn't give a *****.

 

So... find some solace in knowing that you cared/loved/believed in it. You were not wrong.