maverick29 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I finally asked this girl out for coffee on the last day of class. She said she had a boyfriend, yet proceeded to give me her name & number and to text her back mine. She smiled and that was about it. I think she might be using the boyfriend tactic for leverage, that way she can pull back if she wants to. I say this because I overheard her a week ago saying something about a guy she was seeing but definitely didn't want to take things to the next level with. I also creeper-checked her facebook and found no pictures of her with any guys any time recently (6 months back) or any other indications of a boyfriend. The fact that she actually gave me her number and said for me to text her mine indicates something, right? She could've just as easily said "sorry, I would but I have a bf" but instead she said she had a bf but also gave me her number... I believe she's outta town this weekend. I'm thinking of texting her today to give her my number and starting a conversation over texting, since we haven't spoken besides then (I tried once in class but didn't work out due to the scenario). Then, after getting in some texting, I could ask her for coffee next week. What do you think?
Fondue Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Think this through, man. Regardless of whether or not she truly has a BF, would you want to get involved with a woman who freely gives our her number while being in a (supposed) relationship? What if YOU were that BF and some guy like myself comes up to her and asks her for her #, and as she gives it to me she says, "text me ^__^!"
Author maverick29 Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Well, I'd like to think if I was her boyfriend, she wouldn't even hand out her number. I mean she doesn't at all seem like the type of gal to be handing out her number like tickets on the indie 500... I'm not into cheating of course, but she has no fb pics w/ any guys and she even said in class to her friend she's not pursuing anything serious with the current guy. I would think it's up to her to accept or decline when I eventually ask for coffee after chatting over text, but I'm also not experienced when it comes to dating...
TheNextLawyer Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 ^ Agreed. But try flirting with her just to practice, while yourself thinking of other prospects. The less you dwell on one girl, the less chance that you end up as an emasculated doormat. Well done for being bold
Author maverick29 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 Women give out their number all the time. Don't put too much thought into it. More than likely you're dealing with an attention wh0re, she's seeking validation or just gave it to you to get you off her back. I don't think she's that type. I definitely know that type, but I didn't that indication at all from her. ^ Agreed. But try flirting with her just to practice, while yourself thinking of other prospects. The less you dwell on one girl, the less chance that you end up as an emasculated doormat. Well done for being bold Thank you sir, will do! I figure it's only texting anyways. It's her decision as to what happens after that.. of course I won't be the back door man while the bf comes in the front.
SJC2008 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I was in a similar situation a few months ago. I knew she had a bf so I didn't try to pursue her. I did however use the situation as "practice" to help with my confidence in asking women out. I asked her to lunch after class and after we ate I walked her to her next class and befoee I left her off she offered me her number. She's likely an AW and/or needs backups lined up so she won't be single long if she has a breakup.
gaius Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 It's definitely a situation you should pursue just to see what happens and get some experience. Maybe she turns out to be a girl who gives out her number like candy or maybe you're the one she's been waiting for all this time and you end up in the nursing home together. Only one way to find out. Congrats on a significant milestone though.
superb Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Lying for leverage is wrong. Proceed with caution. I'm not sure why everyone accepts the games that people play. Who has time for all that? 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 Well, I'd like to think if I was her boyfriend, she wouldn't even hand out her number. I mean she doesn't at all seem like the type of gal to be handing out her number like tickets on the indie 500... I'm pointing out the flaw in your argument. You think. There is your flaw. You are creating an image of her as being chaste and honest, when in reality she is going around lying about having a boyfriend (based on the evidence that there are no photos of her being intimate with a guy on Facebook) yet still handing out her number. This is suspect and reality. Regardless, proceed with caution, just don't complain if you get burned.
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