andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 (edited) I have been in a relationship for one year now. This whole year, my life have revolved around my girlfriend. I have not been or have done anything anywhere without her. She has been the center of my life. Having said that, let me explain the problem. She is a jealous woman. If a beautiful woman passes in front of me, an I even glance a little bit, she will "joke" that I have rape her with my glance, or that I am morbid. First time in my life someone tells me something like that. I have always respected women, and do not like when guys "rape" women by staring. When we started dating I was on facebook an came by a picture of two women in bikinis hugging a dog. I laughed at the picture an commented, Lucky Dog. Well, my girlfriend got the public update on her facebook. She gave me hell that day for that comment. Since that day, Facebook died for me. However, there are some OLD friend request, before I met her, that may still be pending. Friend requests that obviously I dont keep tabs on. During this year. there have been 3 friend requests of trampy looking women that have been accepted. Again, friend request that I have sent when I was single. She got really piss for each one. The minute I got them, she took a picture of the request and told me that she was disgusted. Today, she sent me a picture of my facebook because a trampy looking model showing almost everything accepted my friend request for the 4 time in the whole year. She told me it was the fourth time and that she was disgusted. I told her that I know my facebook updates are public, and that I sent that friend request a long time ago, before meeting her and forgot about it. Maybe, just maybe, I may have sent her when I first met her, but that was before the dog incident when I knew everything was public. I proceeded to delete the girl that accepted me. She told me I was not trustworthy, and broke up with me. She could not believe I am that kind of man. What worries me about this situtation is that we have recently been talking about marriage. The fact that she have this feelings about me bothers me a lot. I do not go out to parties with my friends, I basically work and hang out with her. I can understand that she is upset because a hot woman accepted my friend request. I cannot understand why she takes a picture of it, sends it to me to tell me how piss off or disguted she is THE VERY SECOND THE REQUEST GETS ACCEPTED. I dont even have time to delete it. She makes me feel like crap. When she tells me that I am staring at other women, it makes me feel bad. I am not like that. The other day she grab my iPod (which I only use for music in my car) and started looking at pictures that I took two years ago. Pictures that I have forgot that even existed. Among the 300 hundres pictures, she found 1 with my ex girlfriend. She told me she found something that she did not like in my ipod, and that out of respect I should delete it. Today, I deleted the picture. The rest of our relationship is great, but I really want to know how to handle this situation. What should I do?I feel like crap now. She made me feel like a degenerate sick guy, I am nothing like that. At the same time, I really dont feel sorry for adding hot women to my facebook when I was single. My girlfriend thinks I have added them while we were dating, which is not true. I dont know what to do right now. She doesnt answer my text messages. Edited January 30, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Philosoraptor Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 So does she keep her purse warm so your nuts don't freeze? Why do you stay with someone who makes you feel so bad about yourself? A relationship shouldn't degrade you, it should make you happy. Tell her "I am unhappy in this relationship and your jealousy has made it clear that we are not compatible. I wish you well in the future." Then leave. Right now you are wasting the little bit of precious time we have in this life on someone who treats you like crap, walks all over you, and suffocates your happiness. There are 3.5 billion women on this planet and you can find one who doesn't treat you so poorly.
Author andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Our relationship is perfect. She is the perfect girl. I am a very down to earth guy, not that crazy. So our relationship has been a big honey moon. Her jealousy issues are very in far between. I dont want to sound like it is something that happens every day. Everything is perfect because I know how to handle her. As she knows how to handle me.
Author andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 What really annoys me is the fact that she thinks I am not trustworthy because of facebook.
Philosoraptor Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Our relationship is perfect. She is the perfect girl. I am a very down to earth guy, not that crazy. So our relationship has been a big honey moon. Her jealousy issues are very in far between. I dont want to sound like it is something that happens every day. Everything is perfect because I know how to handle her. As she knows how to handle me. She is nuts and you're codependent. No healthy person lets someone treat them with such actions and calls the relationship perfect. You've made a lot of threads about this girl, 4 this month. I highly doubt they are few and far between. In fact, at the start of the month and before that you made threads regarding wanting to be single and being attracted to other women. You're nuts, she's nuts... maybe it is perfect. You accept the abuse and she's happy to deal it. Didn't she dump you recently too over this issue? Super perfect!
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Our relationship is perfect. She is the perfect girl. I am a very down to earth guy, not that crazy. So our relationship has been a big honey moon. Her jealousy issues are very in far between. I dont want to sound like it is something that happens every day. Everything is perfect because I know how to handle her. As she knows how to handle me. I call BS on that one. If she was the PERFECT girl, then why are you posting here? She's perfect, right? The fact is, she's not perfect and you are constantly walking on eggshells around her. Constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if you did anything "wrong" that she might get upset about. That's no way to live, dude. If she has broken up with you, then stay broken up. Stop trying to text her. All you're doing is giving her an ego boost, " Poor sap can't get over me and leave me alone." She knows you're still pining over her and she's loving the indirect attention that you're giving her. Time to go NO CONTACT (NC). Stop emailing and texting her. Stop leaving voicemail messages and block her from all social media. And once you do that, she's going to pull on the leash to see if the dog is still there. Wondering why you stopped giving her ego boosts. Therefore, she'll reach out to you. IGNORE IT! She made the choice to have you out of her life. That's HER choice. Therefore, you give her exactly what she's asking for, you being gone. Time to heal and move on, dude. I have a feeling that she got burned in other relationships and she needs to fight her own demons and get a handle on it or else this is going to happen to someone else. But, not your problem anymore. There are girls out there that have and CAN trust the person that they are with. There are pretty girls out in the world. That's just a fact. But, your new girl will know that they aren't a threat to what you two have together. Your Ex didn't understand that and chose to lose you in the process. You know what? HER LOSS!!!
Keenly Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 You haven't done anything anywhere without her ? I think the healthiest thing might be for you to be alone for a while. You have completely lost yourself. 3
mammasita Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 She's a nutcase. I'm not afraid to admit I'm crazy. Every woman has a little crazy in her. It's the women who claim they aren't crazy that you have to run from. I bet you if you asked her she would deny to the moon and back that she was crazy. Try it and let us know.
Author andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Thanks for the answers guy! I do think she needs to fight her own demons. I sent her a present to her work today. If she doesnt react, I will call it quits.
Purepony Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Maybe you can start by deleting the worthless time wasting Facebook?
Author andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Actually I dont use facebook that much, that is the irony. Because I didnt use it I did not know I got all friend request accepted. But yes, after I solve this problem I will delete it.
Zahara Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Thanks for the answers guy! I do think she needs to fight her own demons. I sent her a present to her work today. If she doesnt react, I will call it quits. She made you feel like a "degenerate sick guy" and you send her a present.
Author andreap Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 I love her an I want to make this work. I dont care about being right, I just care about making her happy. However, I draw the line with jealousy. Today I will put all the cards on the table. I am not going to apologize for anything because I really dont feel I did something wrong by adding some women to my facebook. Worst of all, I added them before meeting her, almost 2 years ago. It is just bad luck they happen to accept now. What I will tell her is that with me, she can count for everything. However, she needs to control her jealousy because our relationship wont work like that. If she accepts, then great. If not, well tough.
pickflicker Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I love her an I want to make this work. I dont care about being right, I just care about making her happy. However, I draw the line with jealousy. Today I will put all the cards on the table. I am not going to apologize for anything because I really dont feel I did something wrong by adding some women to my facebook. Worst of all, I added them before meeting her, almost 2 years ago. It is just bad luck they happen to accept now. What I will tell her is that with me, she can count for everything. However, she needs to control her jealousy because our relationship wont work like that. If she accepts, then great. If not, well tough. You're wasting your time with someone with severe jealousy issues.
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