Guy from work

[Blurry]

A few months back, I started hanging out with this guy from work. We have been on roughly 5 dates (dinner, ice cream, etc) in about 2 months. Nothing physical though but we fooled around a little. I was getting a little frustrated because things were progressing very slowly (5 dates in 2 months!!). Furthermore, he was being hot and cold. I tried to confront him about us. To which he replied that he wants to have lunch so we could talk. However that talk never came. He rescheduled 3 times (due to last minute work issues). I got tired of it and told him that we should just keep things professional between because clearly he is not interested in getting to know me better. (Also, I was starting to have feelings for him and I felt like he was just not as invested so I sort of wanted to save myself from getting hurt)

 

Ever since, we have been hi-bye friends at work. But I can't help myself from doubting my actions. I thought that I would get over him fast because it wasn't anything serious but it has been 3 months and I still find myself missing him sometimes. And seeing him everyday at work just reminds me of the what-ifs and the what-could-have-beens.

 

Please tell me if I was over-reacting. Should I have been more understanding about his crazy work schedule? Or do you think he was just stringing me along? And should I try to initiate contact because when I'm not occupied with anything, I find myself missing him like crazy.

[Andy_K]

When you're important to a guy, he'll make time for you. That's all you need to know.

[glimpse]

He's probably feeling the same as you. He took things slow because he is conflicted with whether to risk his job if things don't go well. If you miss him, then i suggest just hangout as friends and enjoy each others company without expecting much. Maybe he's trying to avoid you, because like you, he finds himself thinking of you more than he should, so he distance himself to avoid making things complicated.