hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Does anyone else not understand their mans moods. Maybe i pay too much attention. Maybe i overanalyze. But share some stories anyone else have a moody man.....i need support...lol im 22 hes 24 together 1 yr 8 months He loves me sooooo much he tells me....same here hehehehe But he drives me nuts. Ok and intimacy......or should i say lack their of...after 1 yr 8 months is this normal? its not like there is non just much less but we still seem happy together...whats the deal My bf is the poster child for every males stereotype there is (except cheater and pervert/dog) he does that hid away in the cave thing, likes his space, cant say tooo sweet things in front of the boys, hates discussing his problems, would much rather go into his cave.....lol anyways its like everyone thats like ......guys sometimes do this....oh right here thats my man, and guys sometimes do this....oh ya right here again.........lol oh boy! MEN!!!
Pocky Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Maybe i pay too much attention. Maybe i overanalyze. It's possible. You post a lot about your boyfriend. Not that I'm saying you shouldn't, but you seem to have an issue about once every 1-1.5 weeks. Does it really bother you or are you analyzing all these things to be assured that he really does love you?
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2005 Author Posted January 14, 2005 Ya i have anxiety issues....i come here for advice. It is hard for me...sometimes are worse than others...my apologies
Cecelius Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 I'm a man, so I'll chime in. It sounds like you overanalyze too much. Whether this is correct in your opinion, a man's perspective is that "going into his cave" is not a reaction that can be used against him. It is literally a non-event, non-response and non-event. it doesn mean he's avoiding, hiding or engaging.
FolderWife Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. READ IT READ IT READ IT!!! You will understand your man, after you read it. You will understand that he's doing just what he's supposed to do. You will hold your tongue when he gets angry. You want a moody man story? Here's one. Disclaimer: In the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, it states that if a man has a problem, he won't ask for help, he'll "Go into his cave" and deal with it alone. I arrived home from work. For whatever reason, my husband waits until I get home to pay the bills. So he starts paying the bills, and instantly gets in a really crappy mood. He sees where I'd stopped at blockbuster on the way home to buy "Troy" for him *which he asked me to stop and buy him the movie* instead of going to Walmart, where I would've saved three dollars. Walmart is over crowded with no parking, so I swung by blockbuster, paid the three extra bucks for the movie, and went home. I thought the three extra dollars was worth it to save me the agrivation. Well, apparently, this was cause for annoyance from him, and he let me know how lazy he thought I was for paying the three extra dollars to save time and grief. As pissed off as I was at his inconciderance, I didn't say anything. Just left the room, so he couldn't use me as his punching bag for whatever caused his mood. I had brought some work home with me, so I went to the bedroom to work on it. He soon bounds into the bedroom, and asks me if I have an envelope. I told him I didn't. He then ordered me to go buy him a box of envelopes. He SHOULD have told me to get them a week ago, but oops! he forgot! So since I was angry at him, I said, "Say pretty please." He said, "NO! Just go get them!" What woman in her right mind would let that go? What woman wouldn't tell him to shove the bill up his arse, she's not going to do him any favores. What woman wouldn't tell him to go get his own envelopes? me apparently I bit my tongue....HARD... and went down the road, and bought him a box of envelopes. He's acting like a real jerk, and I'm doing him favores. I came home, and gave him the envelopes, and he handed me his paycheck to deposit the next day. He got a sad look on his face, and said, "You'd better get used to the checks being this small " I looked at it, and it was $150 less than usual... and he gets paid once a week. So that'll total to about $600 less a month. He'd taken a pay cut. Then, he arrives home to find a stack of bills, and that I'd wasted money on a movie, that I could've gotten cheaper, if I just cared enough about him to go the extra mile. I understood. I hugged him, and told him that I loved him, and he held me back. See? I WANTED to throw a fit on him, and tell him to go screw himself, and I had every right to, since he was treating me so irrationally, but my patience, and keeping my temper paid off. And I was only able to keep my patience, because I had read, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". I knew that he had a problem that he was dealing with in his cave, and my annoyance at his attitude would only make it worse. So I remained patient and understanding, and he came out of his cave MUCH faster. So READ THE BOOK. Don't be stubborn. Read the Book.
Pocky Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by hugznkisses21 Ya i have anxiety issues....i come here for advice. It is hard for me...sometimes are worse than others...my apologies You don't need to apologize - maybe you should read what I wrote again. And maybe answer my question? You just seem to always be worrying that there's a problem. So much so that maybe you're worrying makes something a problem when it really isn't? I'm just throwing questions out there because it may help you come to an answer. You know yourself better than we do.
whichwayisup Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Ya i have anxiety issues....i come here for advice. It is hard for me...sometimes are worse than others...my apologies I can relate to that 100% - The anxiety issues, I suffer from an anxiety disorder...I allow myself to react to things and my mind thinks and worries about all sorts of stuff!!! I luckly though feel very secure in my marriage and don't doubt his love. Anxiety is hard enough to deal with, it has affected my relationship with my h, family, friends...The days when I feel really anxious are hard on others around me, which is why posting is just the best way to go!!! So keep on posting, please don't ever be sorry for saying ANYTHING that is in your head or in your heart...Getting it out just helps lessen the burden of it playing in your head. Hang in there!! It does get better!! Just alot of hard work! My bf is the poster child for every males stereotype there is (except cheater and pervert/dog) he does that hid away in the cave thing, likes his space, cant say tooo sweet things in front of the boys, hates discussing his problems, would much rather go into his cave.....lol anyways its like everyone thats like ......guys sometimes do this....oh right here thats my man, and guys sometimes do this....oh ya right here again.........lol oh boy! MEN!!! Hehehehe, Isn't that most men?? Yes, some little differences here and there, but most men handle things the same way. We talk it out, love to share and want to know why why why!!! Men?? They hide and have to figure it out themselves...But eventually they do come around...When they are ready! If you push, the hide further. Funny thing is in our relationship...HE is the NAG not ME!! WTF? Yeah I do nag at times but for important things. He just does it cause he wants to! I call him the nagging hubby all the time!
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2005 Author Posted January 14, 2005 Oh thank you all your posts have made me feel better today! Yes he does let little thing get him in a mood and due to my past i get fearful it is me that is the problem. So i know i need to work on that and i am seeing a councellor so im taking the proper steps. But I would rather some here and talk about it then go to him and bug him if all i need is some small advice. Thanks sooooooooo much i feel much better already.... I have read teh book a million times i own it.....but with anxiety it is hard soemtimes
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 i have read your progenitor post and there is nothing abnormal in it. your relationship and man are OK. take this as my stamp of approval.
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