NYyanks819 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Hey Guys, Quick question regarding NC and if this is normal I guess "Filling the void" is what you can call it .. but I find I am obsessing over women, for example instead of improving my business or other areas of life, all that I want to seem to do is meet new women, get attention from women etc.. Is this normal after a breakup ? Is this what they mean by filling the void? It just seems like every night I want to go out drink and talk to women to get over this "one" who hurt me!
Author NYyanks819 Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Bump* Just curious if you find that after a breakup for the first month especially of NC you find yourself seeking attention from women and making that your life? IS that what they mean by filling the void
carl777 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Totally nomal. I did the same (still do it to a certain extent). I just passed 2 months of NC a few days ago.
Author NYyanks819 Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Ok good! It seems like my life is revolving around going out and meeting women, instead of building my business etc.. Ok good, just making sure this is part of withdrawal and not something crazy. Can't wait until day 30 then things should start getting better!
JPMC Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Good work, it's better than obsessing over the old 4th place Yankees. You're doing great.
ithappenedagain Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I am not gonna lie.. I have been perusing the dating sites (something I have NEVER done in my life) just to see whats out there.. Not to date, but just to see.. I feel guilty about it becuase my BU is still so fresh.
David87 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Hey Guys, Quick question regarding NC and if this is normal I guess "Filling the void" is what you can call it .. but I find I am obsessing over women, for example instead of improving my business or other areas of life, all that I want to seem to do is meet new women, get attention from women etc.. Is this normal after a breakup ? Is this what they mean by filling the void? It just seems like every night I want to go out drink and talk to women to get over this "one" who hurt me! Yes it's normal, it happend to me, when my ex rejected me ( first day off NC) I went out with a girl, just to fill that void and forget about my ex dumping me. After that I started talking to many girls and went out on many dates.
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Dude, you are shy of three weeks of NC. That's nothing in reference of time. Your brain is used to female companionship and that's gone. So, you go out to try to fill the void. To trick the brain to satisfy that craving of what is normal for you. And that's having a woman in you life.
rosedl Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I looked at on-line dating sites to get a sense of possibilities after my b.u. but quickly left. I have a long history of just running into another relationship after a break up and I am not interested in repeating that pattern this time around. For me, it is a warning sign of not being able to tolerate being alone when obsessing over meeting someone new. It is a real opportunity to just allow and sit with the fears that arise from that place instead of seeking out a new distraction to placate those fears.
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