nickchase Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Hi everyone, I don't usually use threads I just needed somewhere to express my feelings and get some advice. My girlfriend is 21 years old (I am 19) and has a two year old girl, her and I have been officially together for only a few months but we were seeing one another since the start of last year and I know it sounds stupid and cliche, but she is the love of my life and the best thing that's ever happened to me. I woke up the other day thinking everything was fine until I noticed her in a weird mood and very quiet and unresponsive. When I finally got it out of her and found out what was wrong it really broke my heart. We were both on the same level with how much we loved each other but suddenly she has re cooperated feelings for her ex boyfriend (and baby daddy) and is thinking about leaving me for him. I can't begin to explain how miserable and hurt it makes me knowing this is happening. She's throwing me down as an option. Her ex boyfriend treated her like **** and is a **** father and really only started being nice to her when we got together but she reassured me countless times that she would never ever go back to him. So now he's an option and I'm an option she's basically choosing between money and happiness because he has the job and the money to support them but I treat her and that child with so much love and respect. Everyone tells me I should let her go (which I should) but I just can't and I want her so.bad we're on a break at the moment so she can think and figure things out. I could never let her go I had such good intentions with her. What do I do? How to I make her miss me? How do I make her choose me? How do I let her go if need be?
flightplan Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 How to I make her miss me? How do I make her choose me? How do I let her go if need be? Sorry to hear. These forums can advise you what to do but be forewarned.. it's not easy. If you have the maturity to pull it off, then it's your best bet. So here we go: How do I make her miss me? - Disappear. Don't talk to her, text her, email her, nothing. Go into super stealth mode and drop off the face of the earth. NC all the way. How do I make her choose me? - You don't. This is out of your control. And when it's all said and done... you may not want her to pick you. That's right... once you get a few months of perspective, you'll realize just maybe this wasn't meant to be. How do I let her go? - Time. You have to focus on you. Not her. If you can maintain NC, focus on yourself and give up any hope of ever reconciling, then you can move on and let her go. Let them work out their family issues. The father may be a first class prick, but it's his kid. He's always going to be in the picture. You're young. Move on. This is the first of many loves in your young life. Don't get tied down so early in life with a kid. Live some more. Travel.. make love to more women, explore... the world is your oyster. 3
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Well, you said you two were on a break so she could figure things out. Guarantee you as soon as you walked out the door, she was on the phone and inviting the Ex over. Let this one go dude. You're 19. You have your whole life ahead of you. So, set your goals and make positive changes in your life. Go to school. Get that degree and then get that kick ass job. 1
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