GrUmPy1 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 My boyfriends dad is an alcoholic. the situation with him is very bad. i guess the only good thing about the situation if you want to call it good is that his father is an older man so he doesnt get physical with anyone but that doesnt stop him from telling my boyfriend that he can kick his ass. my boyfriend is constantly upset by his dad alcoholism. the whole family has tried to make him stop but he is a stubborn man and they have come to the point to where they are just content when he doesnt drink hard liqour and only beer. ok so the point is whenever we go out my boyfriend likes to drink. he cant hold his liqour with like 4 beers he is very buzzed (not falling down drunk) and he always tries to hide it from me saying he can hang and that he doesnt need to stop. i dont see anything wrong with drinking but there is a point to where you need to stop and he doesnt because he wants to keep up with everyone else. we argue when this happends. but we dont go out every weekend or every nite so it doesnt happen constanly only when we go out. so then when we dont go out hell call me and tell me to come over and when we kiss i smell beer and i ask were u drinking and he says he only had one beer, but the thing is he acts like he's had a few. he's alittle more silly or sometimes moodier. he only gets like that when he's buzzed. he does this like 4 or 5 days aweek. i go over and he doesnt kiss me then i say did u drink and his answer is always only one beer or just like half a cup of my dads beer. i tell him not to drink because i dont want him to end up like his dad. and he says he's just relaxing having a beer. so i just want to know am i overreacting or is he headed for a problem. ?
tanbark813 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Well it doesn't sound good, of course, but how old is your bf? If he's young, maybe he just needs a few "Man I wish I didn't do that last night" lessons before he starts listening to you.
Zoot Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 It's not unusual for a 22 year old to still be sowing his oats. I would say to hang in there, if your heart allows, or to wait for a change or perhaps move on to someone who more fits into where you are as an adult. You can't change someone - you can only decide it the person is right for you.
shellso Posted January 15, 2005 Posted January 15, 2005 I'm in a similar situation. Boyfriend's dad is a TOTAL alki and so far the apple isn't falling that far away from the tree. Being involved with a potential alcoholic can be hurtful and confusing at times and I know what you're going through. Both arn't abusive, just like to get trashed quite often. His dad is your typical grumpy old man at times and a big Teddy bear at other times depending on how many he's had to drink. I think I just need to point something out...he's lying. There's NO such thing as *one* beer.....there's always at least two unless there's a hangover to recover from (and then it's more like half a beer) . Believe me...soon you'll be able to tell the EXACT about just by the look in his eyes and his mood.
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