GNC Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Hey guys I'll start out with how we broke up. Basically we dated for two years, I treated her like a princess. Had our fights, mostly her flirting with other guys, not respecting me, and taking me for granted. Maybe I treated her too good. We started dating when I was 16, she was 15. I would like to say I was the cause of fights but I never really did anything to upset her. Anyways, last summer her friends started verbally attacking me on social media and I would get really upset, she didn't care to stop it. She continued hanging out with them while they would even bully me I guess you could say. She kept telling me to ignore them because they don't care about me. How do they care about her if they didn't respect her relationship? It continued. Now, I'm a freshman in college, she was/is a senior in high school. Homecoming was coming up and she started saying how she doesn't want to go with me because my friends don't like me. She wanted to go with MY friend. We got in a argument and I went over to solve things, she wouldn't even open the door. She started calling me a psycho and to leave and was laughing with her friend inside. I had enough and completely cut her out of my life. Fast forward two months later, she ended up having drunk sex with some kid two weeks after we broke up and hooked up with a few more kids. One night we happened to end up at a small party and she was all over me telling me how is so stupid and regrets everything. I told her to leave me alone. She ended up sleeping with the same kid at the party after I didn't give her attention. The party ended up getting busted cause my friend's dad walked in on them upstairs. Since then, she stopped hanging out with a lot of people because she became sloppy, slutty, nobody wanted to be around her. She's been trying to get me back ever since. She pours her heart out to me but I just find her gross and to think I can just let everything go that happened? Hell no. Stupidly, last friday I agreed to hang out, we made out but I stopped it before she wanted to go down on me. I left immediately. She told me she did everything she did because she was angry at me and she regrets it all and wishes she could take it back. Today I told her I don't feel the same and to please stop contacting me. She didn't reply, just tweeted stupid things. (My friends sent me the tweets, I don't know why). I don't have a desire to be with her, but I'm still really hurt by everything and I don't have many friends around since I stayed one year at community college. I'm just sad I guess. I don't understand why she did everything she did. I've tried to talk to a few girls but it just hasn't worked out. I guess I just needed to vent out how I feel because I don't know who else to talk to. Sorry if this wasn't very topic related.
Philosoraptor Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Well she was hurt and rebounded. She was looking for external validation to help her deal with her internal void. But what about you? What goals do you have in life? What are you doing for yourself to make yourself happy? Leave the past where it is and focus on what you can do, for you, to make this short time we have in this life its best every moment.
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Dude, that's cold hearted that she took some dude up into the bedroom and was banging him WHILE YOU ARE AT THE SAME PARTY!! That's cold as hell. Move on dude. You need to make positive changes in your life. Study hard! Pour into the books and smash those grades. Then, transfer to a four year university. Trust me. Life is a hell of lot more fun at those places. Until then, keep busy. Even if you are at a Junior College, they have a lot of clubs there that you can join. Join them and participate. MEET NEW PEOPLE! DO NEW THINGS! FILL YOUR TIME! But, keep making positive changes in your life!
Author GNC Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Philosoraptor: "Well she was hurt and rebounded. She was looking for external validation to help her deal with her internal void. But what about you? What goals do you have in life? What are you doing for yourself to make yourself happy? Leave the past where it is and focus on what you can do, for you, to make this short time we have in this life its best every moment." I actually plan to transfer this Fall to my state university, (Big Ten), and get my MBA and possibly Law School. I have hung out with people, but I don't really like them. My real friends went off to college. I guess I was lonely so I reopened a wound I shouldn't have. Dude, that's cold hearted that she took some dude up into the bedroom and was banging him WHILE YOU ARE AT THE SAME PARTY!! That's cold as hell. Move on dude. You need to make positive changes in your life. Study hard! Pour into the books and smash those grades. Then, transfer to a four year university. Trust me. Life is a hell of lot more fun at those places. Until then, keep busy. Even if you are at a Junior College, they have a lot of clubs there that you can join. Join them and participate. MEET NEW PEOPLE! DO NEW THINGS! FILL YOUR TIME! But, keep making positive changes in your life! She was upset because I went to go get food with my good guy friend and her girlfriend, best part about it? She comes downstairs and texts me "my heart hurts, I wish things were different" I told her to stop. I have been studying hard, I got a 3.8 last semester even though I was pretty much in depression haha. I have visited my friends too at the bigger universities but honestly I didn't have that much fun..it's only 200 more days till I move into my new University. I might possibly play a division 1 sport because I have a connection through an old coach. So that's exciting. I feel better today. I was just down yesterday and hadn't shown any emotion in a long time. Just don't understand how someone can just flip a switch. I had plenty of opportunities to "get back" at her..but I didn't take them. I wasn't interested. I guess she thought I would take her back because I always forgave her for stuff.
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 (edited) Keep moving forward, dude. You have a good head on your shoulders and don't judge universities with only visiting a campus for one or two days. You need to get out of there and start looking forward to a life outside the town you're in. And if you get into a Big Ten then that's awesome! I'm a professor at a Big Ten university. Hell, you might be one of my future students. Edit: Opps! Just re-read your post. MBA and Law? You won't be. Oh well, no free ride for you! LOL! Edited January 30, 2014 by Chi townD
Author GNC Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Keep moving forward, dude. You have a good head on your shoulders and don't judge universities with only visiting a campus for one or two days. You need to get out of there and start looking forward to a life outside the town you're in. And if you get into a Big Ten then that's awesome! I'm a professor at a Big Ten university. Hell, you might be one of my future students. Edit: Opps! Just re-read your post. MBA and Law? You won't be. Oh well, no free ride for you! LOL! Really? That's awesome! What University? Unless you don't want to disclose that? I'm guessing Northwestern or U of I due to your user name! Haha well maybe you can pull a few strings for me still! Anyways, yeah I just need to keep moving forward. I really appreciate your guys' responses. I just needed to vent it out.
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