Author WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 I've always hated the expression "he's taking me to a ....", like I'm a dog that he is taking out for walk. "I can't talk to you right now cause I'm getting ready cause my MAN is taking me to this great place.....". Have you put on your dog leash yet? I'd never see this woman again. I don't care of she has been nice the last million times I saw her, this text means that the way she appreciates guys is only if they take her to some good place for a date. Sigh. She claimed she was only going to get a hot chocolate lol
snowflakes88 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 She actually wanted to come over to my place today when she heard i was ordering a pizza and wings for the Superbowl Do she really think she is going to come over and eat my food I paid for and now have any type of make out session???? lol I'll take that as a yes. Nor surprised you are still single lol. 1
MrMeh Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Invite her. She will eat your wing, I mean wings, and you'll eat her cake..
ktya Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Lame friday night choices, sorry. She was a bit rude in her text but saying we can go to starbucks or some pizza joint take your pick is pretty closed ended. Im in sales so i find dating a breeze. Open ended questions my man. "how about some pizza at cosis? " gives her an opportunity to say, "im trying to avoid greasy foods. Do you like greek takeout?" Friday i would offer drinks first at a place that serves food. Grab an appetizer to share and if the date sucks your out max 2 $4.00 drinks and. $9.00 appy for a total of $20 including tip. And she might offer to pay half if the date sucked leaving you out $10. If the date goes well you might be stuck with a $80 bar bill, but by then shed be pretty drunk and randy and youd probably get full service - and she still might offer to pay half because $40 isnt that much for a night of fun and flirtation She was rude but you need to up your game. No offense just trying to help you out 3
Author WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Lame friday night choices, sorry. She was a bit rude in her text but saying we can go to starbucks or some pizza joint take your pick is pretty closed ended. Im in sales so i find dating a breeze. Open ended questions my man. "how about some pizza at cosis? " gives her an opportunity to say, "im trying to avoid greasy foods. Do you like greek takeout?" Friday i would offer drinks first at a place that serves food. Grab an appetizer to share and if the date sucks your out max 2 $4.00 drinks and. $9.00 appy for a total of $20 including tip. And she might offer to pay half if the date sucked leaving you out $10. If the date goes well you might be stuck with a $80 bar bill, but by then shed be pretty drunk and randy and youd probably get full service - and she still might offer to pay half because $40 isnt that much for a night of fun and flirtation She was rude but you need to up your game. No offense just trying to help you out That was the amount I was looking to spend at the place I suggested, $20
ktya Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Its not the money - its the venue for a friday night What if she thought you were smoking hot and was hoping to blow your mind in the sack afterwards... Then you opt for coffee or pizza Girls wanna get laid too lol. If someone asked me out on a friday id be planning for sex to be a definite option even for a first date. Im a guy and all... But i usually nail it on the first date. The tough ones on the second
Author WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Its not the money - its the venue for a friday night What if she thought you were smoking hot and was hoping to blow your mind in the sack afterwards... Then you opt for coffee or pizza Girls wanna get laid too lol. If someone asked me out on a friday id be planning for sex to be a definite option even for a first date. Im a guy and all... But i usually nail it on the first date. The tough ones on the second I don't do one night stands, sorry
ktya Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Who said anything about one night stands? I dont do one nighters either
georgecostanza Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Contrary to popular belief, women are not impressed by a man who feels the need to "purchase" their approval. Women are impressed by men who have the confidence to know their own value and do not find it hard to walk away from a woman who does not meet their needs. Why would you feel the need to impress someone? Looking for approval from someone is another way of saying they are your master. Do you really want a relationship? Or do you want a master? Like I said in one of my first posts in this thread, he doesn't have to 'purchase' her affection. There are plenty of free, or cheap options for dates that show a bit more creativity than giving two lousy date options. The point is that he should put some effort in.
Keenly Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I wonder at what point in time dating became less about getting to know the person and seeing if they were right for you, and more about what this person can do / experiences they provide for you.
Iguanna Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I wonder at what point in time dating became less about getting to know the person and seeing if they were right for you, and more about what this person can do / experiences they provide for you. Unbelievable, but I agree with you. It's in our hands though to dodge these people and keep them out of our lives, as long as we are smart enough to identify them.
blueskyday Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Yeah, she was rude, no doubt. I agree that you didn't show much imagination. Coffee and stuff like that is good for during the week or Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Friday night is primetime date night. If a woman has a lot of men asking, then you need to stand out so she will choose you. Even if the woman doesn't have a lot of prospects, she'll appreciate you treating her as special. That said, you could just take her to a fun quirky diner and a musical venue at the park after. You can't go wrong with ethnic food. Just be sure to ask her up front what kind of food she likes. Going to a restaurant like that is a little instant vacation to another country! Another idea is to pack a picnic and take it to a pond or a lake that's in the city. Must keep it public for the first date for safety reasons. One of the best dates I ever had was to meet up for tappas ( which are small plates of food) at a local small eatery and then going to the airport to watch the Planes fly over! Fun, creative and inexpensive!
Author WP4046 Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 Yeah, she was rude, no doubt. I agree that you didn't show much imagination. Coffee and stuff like that is good for during the week or Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Friday night is primetime date night. If a woman has a lot of men asking, then you need to stand out so she will choose you. Even if the woman doesn't have a lot of prospects, she'll appreciate you treating her as special. That said, you could just take her to a fun quirky diner and a musical venue at the park after. You can't go wrong with ethnic food. Just be sure to ask her up front what kind of food she likes. Going to a restaurant like that is a little instant vacation to another country! Another idea is to pack a picnic and take it to a pond or a lake that's in the city. Must keep it public for the first date for safety reasons. One of the best dates I ever had was to meet up for tappas ( which are small plates of food) at a local small eatery and then going to the airport to watch the Planes fly over! Fun, creative and inexpensive! What if she can't meet during the week?
blueskyday Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Yes, I understand. The date ideas that I mentioned are for Friday or Saturday night. A picnic at a busy area that has a lake or pond is very fun. Bring candle or camp light. Many cities have restaurant and shopping districts with a park and little lake. Gives you somewhere to walk around later . You could even pop in somewhere for dessert and coffee. Inexpensive and fun!
blueskyday Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Ethnic restaurants are inexpensive. Think small and authentic!
TheBladeRunner Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Right on OP! I was a dating "dolt" for so long taking woman that I would NEVER click with to pricey places. If she's not happy with something this simple early on, who needs her! Although I am on a dating break right now (thinking of getting back into it though), towards the end of my last dating stint I would start with coffee or a drink, then a dinner at an affordable place, THEN go for something nice if we clicked.
Danger Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Like I said in one of my first posts in this thread, he doesn't have to 'purchase' her affection. There are plenty of free, or cheap options for dates that show a bit more creativity than giving two lousy date options. The point is that he should put some effort in. I have found that women who are so on the fence that a location matters generally do not have the sufficient interest to have earned a shot with me. I am no Adonis but this attitude has not hindered my ability to get quality dates at all. Having said that, it makes far more sense to meet at a fun location to grab drinks as opposed to a cafe.
Author WP4046 Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 I have found that women who are so on the fence that a location matters generally do not have the sufficient interest to have earned a shot with me. I am no Adonis but this attitude has not hindered my ability to get quality dates at all. Having said that, it makes far more sense to meet at a fun location to grab drinks as opposed to a cafe. I don't drink
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