Mayfare Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 About a year ago I came to this site after experiencing the first real heartbreaking breakup I have every gone through. For months I was absolutely convinced that I would get back together with my ex, which of course did not happen (thank sweet baby Jesus in the sky!). About 8 months after my breakup (though it really only felt like a few, as our breakup was so incredibly in the gray area), I met a great, GREAT guy. I was probably still carrying some baggage, but was ready to start dating someone new. We dated casually (but exclusively) for about two months before starting a relationship. He knew fully about the baggage I was carrying around but made it very clear that a relationship with me was what he wanted. Now that I've been in this new relationship for about three months, I can't help but compare it to my previous one. Current boyfriend is just about everything I want in the person I end up with (save a few minor flaws, but I'm okay with them) and I know he and I are so much more compatible than my ex and I were. That said, I fell for my ex harder and faster than I am for my current guy, and this has me worried! How do I know if this is because he's somewhat of a rebound (which I really, really don't hope is the case) or if it's just simply me taking things slowly with him and being cautious after going through so much heartbreak? Thanks to all who weigh in here, it means a lot!
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Well, I can tell you that falling for someone hard and fast is DANGEROUS and seems that it rarely stays that way and quite often explodes in your face. You should be taking it slow and steady. So, sounds like this is going fine to me
Author Mayfare Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 I dated my ex for about two years (half of sophomore through senior year of college). I guess I'm concerned because I feel like I was so much more sure about my relationship with my ex at this point, but currently I'm still hot and cold between how serious I am in my current relationship.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Maybe a good time to just be single for a while. Why the desire to be in a RS that you are hot and cold and unsure about??
erklat Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Well, I can tell you that falling for someone hard and fast is DANGEROUS and seems that it rarely stays that way and quite often explodes in your face. You are sooooo right with this.
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