SG19765 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 So I've made a pact with myself after a few failed relationships due to knowing to much about the partner, to leave the past in the past. I think my problem along with a lot of people are they come into relationships with high expectations only to have them shot down. I am currently seeing someone who I consider long term realtionship material. I already told her I prefer to leave the past in the past as I see it causing nothing but issues in a relationship. As long as there are no STD's involved I am find with not knowing. The problem is now I find myself wondering. The relationship is fairly new, about a month and a half. We haven't slept together yet and I was actually prevented from making a move about a week ago which I can respect. Anyways, I am sure this curiousity will pass as we grow as couple. I just feel these things are better left untouched as they can really change the way you look at a person. My sexual past isn't anything to brag about although I have been with people prior. My past (early - mid 20's) is more of an alcohol and drug fueled rampage. So maybe I am hypocritical because of my own faults. Also I guess I really shouldn't be assuming things about someone that I really don't know for sure. Anyways, just want some opinions on wether or not you people touch on the past relationship topics at all? Will my wondering thoughts eventually pass once I get to know the person better?
Philosoraptor Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 This is a touchy subject and it's going to get a lot of people's feathers ruffled up. Figure out what your past deal breakers are. Then you need to decide if the person this person is now negates past mistakes. There is no simple way about this. What from the past would bother you enough to end the current relationship? Figure that out, then ask those questions if you feel the need to. No need to dig for details about every single choice they've made.
Author SG19765 Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I tend to assume. We disucssed our moral views on sexual partners, she told me she never had a one night stand and really doesn't take the sex stuff lightly. I would prefer not to know the past amount of partners because it's a major turn off. I just think my mind is wondering because it is still young and I don't fully know the person yet. I guess thats normal?
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