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Its has been over 6 months since the BU and packed away the pictures and put them at a friends house. Anyways I am house-sitting and have the urge to look at the old pictures on the flash drive. Would it be ok to do so? And no I am no where near over the BU. Not even close. The urge is killing so I figured I would ask for some input.

 

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/417902-dumped-after-5-years

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You know the answer to this question man. You just want to hear it from us about what to do. Listen to your gut. I know what your gut is telling you based on your post. You don't need us to make this decision for you, you know what you have to do on your own. You got this bro. I know you'll do the right thing.

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You're no where near over the breakup, you said that yourself. You'd just be setting yourself back and ripping open the wound.

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btw, good to see you back on the forums Vin...well, obviously, it sucks, but you know what I mean (based from a prior thread of yours).

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I manage to delete the last two pictures remaining from my laptop from good. One was of her and I having lunch at my parents home and the other of her beautiful little boy. I looked at them for literally 2 seconds and pressed delete immediately after. Then went to my recycling bin and deleted them from there for good. I don't feel either bad or good about deleting it's just something I HAD to do. Save yourself future grief Vin. No need to regress.

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if you have to ask, the answer is no

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yeah been trying to stay away for a while sometimes thinks this site makes me think too much about her. (Even though its the case the majority of the time). Anyways I know the answer just kinda wanted the reassurance. Its hard, like an addiction the flashdrive is so close and like staring at me. Temptation is very hard....as you all know

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yeah been trying to stay away for a while sometimes thinks this site makes me think too much about her. (Even though its the case the majority of the time). Anyways I know the answer just kinda wanted the reassurance. Its hard, like an addiction the flashdrive is so close and like staring at me. Temptation is very hard....as you all know

 

get rid of the temptation. that simple....

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yeah been trying to stay away for a while sometimes thinks this site makes me think too much about her. (Even though its the case the majority of the time). Anyways I know the answer just kinda wanted the reassurance. Its hard, like an addiction the flashdrive is so close and like staring at me. Temptation is very hard....as you all know

 

You didn't really believe anyone would tell you it was okay to do that, right?

 

What YOU should do is destroy the flashdrive.

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Ohhhhhhhh, don't do that. Do anything but that!! I made this mistake once in the first month or two and I learned my lesson. Haven't looked since and don't plan to...

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Take a hammer, and smash the flash drive. Drop it in a bucket of bleach.

 

Problem solved.

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Thanks for the responses... I don't want to destroy them because I am a huge picture person, and that was 5 years of my life (some best moments in my life). Just trying to resist the temptation...

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Thanks for the responses... I don't want to destroy them because I am a huge picture person, and that was 5 years of my life (some best moments in my life). Just trying to resist the temptation...

 

Why do you need them? I get it if a lover has died, but why is it necessary to keep them? You may not ever be able to look at them, so why keep them?

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Thanks for the responses... I don't want to destroy them because I am a huge picture person, and that was 5 years of my life (some best moments in my life). Just trying to resist the temptation...

 

Destroy the drive and you destroy the pain. That part of your life is over. Accept it. The fact that it's an option for you to look keeps the pain alive.

 

TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE MAN!

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Thanks for the responses... I don't want to destroy them because I am a huge picture person, and that was 5 years of my life (some best moments in my life). Just trying to resist the temptation...

 

No, you just want to keep a lifeline to a past that for some reason you refuse to get rid of. I'm sure there are plenty of pictures from those five years that don't involve your ex.

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Im sorry but I have failed you all.....I gave into the temptation of looking at all the old photos and videos I stored of my ex while house-sitting....It hurt/still does but it felt like I dont/didnt even know her..... Her cats pictures who i basically adopted and lived with me for the past 2.5 years (up till the break up) seemed to hurt a little more than my ex. Not sure if it is a good thing or not....But I should of listened to you guys...and I am really sorry...

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Well...on your own head be it.

 

Now you've looked, probably cried, so now you need to bash the heck out of it with a hammer and put it in a bucket of bleach.

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Im sorry but I have failed you all.....I gave into the temptation of looking at all the old photos and videos I stored of my ex while house-sitting....It hurt/still does but it felt like I dont/didnt even know her..... Her cats pictures who i basically adopted and lived with me for the past 2.5 years (up till the break up) seemed to hurt a little more than my ex. Not sure if it is a good thing or not....But I should of listened to you guys...and I am really sorry...

 

Vin did something that we warned him not to do. When did we go back to 2013?

 

Maybe one day, you'll stop this.

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