isisisweeping Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 What's the protocol verse number of dates, exclusive or moreover not exclusive, etc for what's required in terms of the actual break up? For one date, I'm assuming nothing at all is required or a "not interested" if they keep communication open. For three? For six? No physical intimacy? Physical intimacy? How does that change it? Not that I'm anticipating ending things with a huge number of guys in the future. I don't hope. (I've had mainly long term relationships and all "serious" and even at 28 am a little clueless at this damn dating game)
Jive Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I would say... First date (meeting for drinks after meeting online) - No follow up really necessary. Second date - This is where some people go cold or dissapear, which IMO is disrespectful. Even a simple text saying 'thanks but I'm not feeling a connection' is perfectly fine. Third - If physical intimacy happens I would say tread lightly. Some people get very attached once this happens. Maybe a polite phone call? One thing to keep in mind: Don't dissapear all of a sudden and stop responding to texts and calls! Too many people do this these days and leave a bad taste. Obviously once you're in a commited relationship it's a must to meet the person face to face. It's just the respectful thing to do ; ) 3
Author isisisweeping Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I would say... First date (meeting for drinks after meeting online) - No follow up really necessary. Second date - This is where some people go cold or dissapear, which IMO is disrespectful. Even a simple text saying 'thanks but I'm not feeling a connection' is perfectly fine. Third - If physical intimacy happens I would say tread lightly. Some people get very attached once this happens. Maybe a polite phone call? One thing to keep in mind: Don't dissapear all of a sudden and stop responding to texts and calls! Too many people do this these days and leave a bad taste. Obviously once you're in a commited relationship it's a must to meet the person face to face. It's just the respectful thing to do ; ) And more than 3 with no real physical intimacy (just kissing) or brought up exclusivity?
Dallers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Same as the above really 1 or 2 dates you are fine with a message or a text but in any case it is far better to contact someone as it is not fair to leave them hanging. You ignore them and they can be dwelling on it for a while, you confirm its a no go they have a sh**ty day and then forget about you. The thing that you must do after two is make a decision if it is not working then it is best to confirm it and move on, going past two and you then put yourself in a position that you must engage to break it off afterwards. I do not see how it can not reach a certain intimacy after two anyway, if you have not gone in for a the kiss by then go buy yourself a friendship band and introduce yourself to her Zone. Friend.
PegNosePete Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 There is no "requirement". You do what you like. Treat people with the respect you think they deserve. Treat people as you would like to be treated yourself and your conscience will rest easy. There is no written set of rules about how to dump someone and how they will accept certain methods or not. Obviously once you're in a commited relationship it's a must to meet the person face to face. It's just the respectful thing to do ; ) Really? My last relationship, we went to a gig and she was acting weird all night. When we got back to her place she dumped me. Did I feel that she had been "respectful"? No, she obviously planned it all along, and I feel that she had wasted my time and money by not telling me at the start of the night instead. And if she was going to tell me at the start of the night then I would have driven all the way to hers only to have to turn around and drive straight home, what a waste of time. Better to call me up and tell me before I waste petrol and time. In fact better to tell me when I first asked her if she wanted to spend that evening together. To plan a "breakup date" is in my opinion, disrespectful, wasteful, rude and inconsiderate.
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