OLD profile input

[Superman2024]

I'm considering making my first OLD profile and would like some input before I proceed. Should I add or subtract from this or is it OK?

 

 

Opening:

Looking for a wonderful Christian girl...

 

About Me:

Hey there, welcome to my profile! I’m pretty laid back and try to smile every day. I’m a Christian guy looking for a long term relationship with a like-minded girl. My number one priority in life is my faith followed by family and friends. I’m always looking to learn new things and improve myself and would consider myself an animal lover. I've always been abundantly blessed in multiple areas of life and now I'm looking for an amazing relationship.

 

I'm looking for an attractive girl who has a nice, sweet, pleasing personality and a positive outlook on life. I like to stay healthy by exercising regularly, eating well (organic when possible, avoiding fast food), and staying in decent shape and would like to find someone with a similar mindset.

 

I live in the country and like to stay busy with work both inside and outside. Sometimes I enjoy getting out and chopping wood, cleaning up fallen branches, or doing yard work. I like to do work on my own cars, fix things around the house, and clean up before things start to look cluttered. I don't own my own house yet, but I'm ready to build once I find that special someone!

 

For Fun:

Going to the movies, eating out at good quality restaurants, playing games with friends (computer or board games), traveling, fishing, studying the Bible (particularly prophecy), reading positive/success oriented books, listening to music, following world events

 

Favorite hot spots:

Movie theaters, nice restaurants, Florida (Disney), Europe (especially Italy)

 

Favorite things:

Personal & spiritual growth, learning new things from a book or online, learning from mistakes, finding good investments, and meeting interesting people

[sagetalk]

You have a good profile, but the pictures are important as well. The key is, what site are you putting it up on? Secular dating sites are not the best way to get Christian women. Focus on dating sites for Christians, the paid ones are the best. I've used them before with great success. Posting this on secular dating sites (especially free ones) will not yield good results unless you are athletic, over 6'0, and extremely handsome. The girls will just look at your profile picture. They probably won't even read your profile after looking at the pictures unless they are looking for very specific things in a man.

 

The women on the Christian dating sites do read it, and if you are a genuine Christian, you will score major points with them.

Edited January 28, 2014 by sagetalk

[FitChick]

Change the headline to: "Come to church with me!"

 

(That might be a good place to meet someone for the first time)

[Superman2024]

Thanks, I think I have some pretty good pictures to post as well. I was planning on using Match. I looked at Christian Mingle but there weren't too many prospects on there since I live in a fairly rural area.

 

Ideally I do want to meet someone from church or through mutual friends and am exploring those opportunities first.

[sagetalk]

Thanks, I think I have some pretty good pictures to post as well. I was planning on using Match. I looked at Christian Mingle but there weren't too many prospects on there since I live in a fairly rural area.

 

CM is not that great. E-Harmony would be better for the types of women you want. I can't remember much about Match, but I'm pretty sure it's a meat market like most of them are. If you have a solid, athletic physique, and decent aesthetics, you may do mediocre at best with this profile.

 

Since you are newbie, you do not realize that the odds are greatly against you right out of the gate because you are a guy. Keep your expectations low, and only message girls that you want to meet. You might also want to expand your search to an hour or two away.

[PegNosePete]

OK don't take this the wrong way, it's meant to be constructive criticism to help you out dude.

 

Your profile is plain and boring. It is just like millions of others out there. How many other guys do you think are laid back and like to smile every day? Hint: ALL of them! Family and friends, animal lover, faith, new things, self-improvement... could you be any more generic if you tried? Sorry but it's a total snooze-fest. If you want OLD to work you need to stand out from the crowd.

 

Don't mention physical appearance (attractive). When describing the woman (not girl) you're looking for, use words that do not have negative opposites. For example I have never seen any woman's profile who claims she is unattractive, sour, unpleasant personality and a negative outlook on life... your paragraph just described EVERY single woman out there. You might as well say "must have a pulse".

 

Sorry please don't take this the wrong way, it is meant to help you. You need to write something interesting, exciting and DIFFERENT than the millions of other guys out there. Women on OLD sites get loads of messages. You need to give her a reason why YOU are better than the 10 others who messaged her this morning. You say you like Italy. Why? What do you like - the food, the wine, the language? Puoi parlare italoano? You're an animal lover, prove it... what animals do you have, what do you do with animals, which animals do you love?

 

Get it? Be specific, interesting and make conversation starters. What you have now is totally generic and uninteresting. You're writing an advertisement here, not a technical manual.

Edited January 29, 2014 by PegNosePete

[SYLLPalmer]

I totally second this assessment of generic. These profiles are very much like resumes. You can't just say "I am a hard worker". Better to skip the self assessment and state life experience.

 

Exercise: Norm from Cheers

Generic: I am a friendly and loyal guy.

 

Insightful: I am a regular fixture in my social circles. I can draw a bar room greeting when I walk in the door.

 

See?

[Superman2024]

I'll do some editing and try to be more specific and less generic. The pictures should go a long way too. For the main picture is it best to have a full body shot or more of a face shot? How many pictures is best?

[SYLLPalmer]

I'll do some editing and try to be more specific and less generic. The pictures should go a long way too. For the main picture is it best to have a full body shot or more of a face shot? How many pictures is best?

IMO a face shot with a date. Unless you are in your early twenties the date is critical information. Also puts some face shots that capture you not interacting with the photographer i.e. action shots. Different angles and different lighting.

 

Group photos or shots further back than 8 or 9 feet are space wasters even if taken in Kenya. Now if you are in Kenya feeding the poor than that is a good action shot and can be taken from a distance. The specific distance is arbitrary but IMO the key is being able to distinguish your facial features or the features showcasing your character. A shot in front of the Sistine Chapel should be up close since anyone can go to the Sistine Chapel if they have the money and time. Doesn't make them a more devout Christian IMO. Good Luck.

[Superman2024]

Thanks for the tips. Having a date on the picture is a good idea. Luckily I still look virtually identical to pictures taken of me 6 years ago. I've been to the Sistine Chapel but couldn't find any good pictures of myself there, but even better I have good pictures from my trips to Israel.

 

I've traveled to some amazing places in the last few years so I almost have too many pictures to choose from and will have to be very selective. Would a picture of me in a suit and tie be too formal for a dating site? I've got a picture of me and my dad holding a 7 foot fish we caught in Canada and one of me holding a sled dog puppy in Alaska. Do you think these would be good to post?

[salparadise]

No to the suit and tie, no to the 6 year old pics, no to the fish pic. Yes to the puppy pic* (if you look good in it). The pics are extremely important. Quality over quantity. A great face pic, a full-body pic to prove you aren't obese, and one or two activity pics to show that you do interesting stuff (that a woman might like to get in on). I would suggest rotating the pics, especially the face pic and pay attention to which one(s) get responses as soon as you put them up. Then stick with those.

 

*you could skip this whole exercise if you get yourself a new puppy this spring and take it for strolls on a few college campuses.

[SYLLPalmer]

Thanks for the tips. Having a date on the picture is a good idea. Luckily I still look virtually identical to pictures taken of me 6 years ago. I've been to the Sistine Chapel but couldn't find any good pictures of myself there, but even better I have good pictures from my trips to Israel.

 

I've traveled to some amazing places in the last few years so I almost have too many pictures to choose from and will have to be very selective. Would a picture of me in a suit and tie be too formal for a dating site? I've got a picture of me and my dad holding a 7 foot fish we caught in Canada and one of me holding a sled dog puppy in Alaska. Do you think these would be good to post?

 

I don't mind the fish and suit pic because it represents you well. You articulate in your profile that religion and God are central to your life. I could be wrong but that makes me think of a clean cut, family oriented dude. So I say it fits with the theme. The very fact that you would like to share it shows it represents. It also has an element of character due to the handling of the fish in a suit.

 

Puppy one is a must. And depending on how it captures your face should be put in the forefront of your rotation IMO.

 

Lastly don't forget the main idea when selecting shots of Israel: Does the picture do more than verify that you went to Israel? Better to caption that it was taken in Israel if you look hot etc than to feature a shot with a breath taking backdrop where your whole self takes up 1/100th of the photo. You should skip that for later, in person, show and tell.

[MixedUpChick]

E-Harmony would be better for the types of women you want. I can't remember much about Match, but I'm pretty sure it's a meat market like most of them are.

 

I strongly recommend that before you even consider E-Harmony, you read this guy's article about it. My experience is pretty much the same as his, & I haven't heard of anyone at all who's had any luck with it. Warning - his article has **NSF language***

http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-****-you/

 

Match is actually pretty decent, like most dating sites it's hit or miss but overall I think the quality of men I've met through Match has been better than through OKC or POF (free sites).

Edited January 30, 2014 by MixedUpChick
Censored word is "the f word" (I wasn't sure if it would be censored here)

[Superman2024]

OK, I did some editing and I think it's much improved.

 

 

 

Opening:

Looking for a wonderful Christian woman...

 

About Me:

Hey there, welcome to my profile! I’m Brandon and I always enjoy a relaxing evening at home watching one of my favorite comedies (like “King of Queens”), but I also like a fun evening out at the movies or traveling somewhere interesting like D.C. or Europe. Although I love to have fun and laugh, I also know when to be serious and focused when I’m going after a goal I’ve set for myself.

 

I’m a Christian guy looking for a long term relationship with a like-minded woman. My number one priority in life is my faith followed by family and friends. I’m constantly looking to learn new things and improve myself. I also consider myself an animal lover since I’ve always had pets and love their nature. I never ignore an animal in need like a stray cat or lost dog. I've always been abundantly blessed in multiple areas of life and now I'm searching for an amazing relationship.

 

I'm looking for a woman who catches my eye, has a pleasing personality, and has a positive outlook on life. I like to stay healthy by exercising regularly, eating well (organic when possible, avoiding fast food), and staying in decent shape and would like to find someone with a similar mindset.

 

I live in the country and like to stay busy with work both inside and outside. Sometimes I enjoy getting out and chopping wood, cleaning up fallen branches, or doing yard work. I do work on my own cars, fix things around the house, and clean up before things start to look cluttered. I don't own my own house yet (just land), but I'm ready to build once I find that special someone!

 

For Fun:

Going to the movies (mostly action adventure or sci-fi), eating out at good quality restaurants, playing games with friends (computer or board games), traveling, fishing, studying the Bible (particularly prophecy), reading positive/success oriented books, listening to music, following world events

 

Favorite hot spots:

Movie theaters, good restaurants like Longhorn, Olive Garden, or Chuy’s, Florida (Disney), Europe (especially Italy because of the scenery, architecture, and amazing food!)

 

Favorite things:

Personal & spiritual growth, learning new things from a book or online, learning from mistakes, finding good investments, and meeting successful, interesting people

[Superman2024]

What do you guys think about putting your personality type on a profile or asking someone in the first couple of messages what their type is? There are several different tests out there but I think one of the best is at 16personalities.com. Once you know what type you are it recommends a couple of personality types that may fit you in a relationship.