Calling the girl up on the phone

[Jive]

Alright guys and gals, so in have this problem when it actually comes to calling a girl, especially for a date. The last few girls I dated have told me to "text" them to set up a date, which is fine.

 

Sometimes I get the feeling that most girls would just rather NOT talk on the phone. I will call and most if the time it will go to voicemail. They'll either call back soon after or just text back. (Or not return anything, which seems to be the case these days)

 

Do women these days (the ones mid to late twenties) rather exchange texts instead? I feel like if I call a girl, it's just more of an annoyance or hassle on their end. I always have this image in my head of what the girl is doing the moment right before I call and I always picture her out with friends or something. Then she gets a call and it's me... And then I end up feeling stupid before even making the call.

 

Lol I know it's probably just me being insecure about speaking on the phone. Phone conversations always end up being a bit awkward for some reason.

 

Do women get turned off if a guy they went on a few dates with DOESN'T call them and texts instead?

[MixedUpChick]

I've heard that people in their 20s and even some in their 30s "never talk on the phone". This is from guys in that age group on another forum I read - almost any time an older person like myself suggests calling the woman, they always LOL at us because apparently it's not normal for people to use a phone as a phone, anymore

 

Obviously there are still some women out there in those age groups who do talk on the phone, but apparently it's becoming a rarity, & texting is the way to go for most (or at least, that's the consensus from the other forum).

[acrosstheuniverse]

Everyone is different. If a girl tells you to text her to arrange a date, do that. Some people hate phones, some are too busy to talk but can sneak a text by every now and then.

 

Personally I don't mind phone calls when I'm really getting to know someone new, or with an established boyfriend to touch base, but on the whole I much prefer text. I would definitely rather receive texts from a prospective romantic partner than have them call me up. Others still might find your call quaint and romantic and be impressed that you took the time to make it, everyone is different.

[Omei]

I'm 27 and everyone I know never talks on the phone =P

[summerlovin31]

I'm in my late twenties and always surprised when the guy does call. Rarely, do I get asked out through someone calling. It's always texting before and after the date. I'm fine with texting but always am a little impressed by a phone call because it's rare. If you think phone conversations are awkward maybe stick to texting if thats what works for you. I don't see the girl being upset if that's your preferred way of communication.

[Shosh]

Do women these days (the ones mid to late twenties) rather exchange texts instead?

 

I am a woman (in my thirties) I prefer text and email to phonecalls. At least until I know a guy better. For the first few weeks of dating I'd really prefer to be contacted via text. Reason being that those early phonecalls are often awkward. I don't know what to say, he does not say anything either, there are awkward silences... Argh!

 

After I know someone better I feel more comfortable talking to them on the phone because I know their sense of humor and they know mine (it's rather sarcastic and wacky) and we just seem to have more to talk about.

 

Just my 2 cents.

[PegNosePete]

If it's OLD, you need to talk on the phone to confirm that it's really a woman you're talking to, and that she really does want to meet you. You can tell in the voice. You can't tell in less than 160 characters. It doesn't have to be a long conversation, just a couple of minutes to set up the date.

[acrosstheuniverse]

If it's OLD, you need to talk on the phone to confirm that it's really a woman you're talking to, and that she really does want to meet you. You can tell in the voice. You can't tell in less than 160 characters. It doesn't have to be a long conversation, just a couple of minutes to set up the date.

 

This is a good point. I always insist on speaking to a guy on the phone even for ten minutes pretty early on, just to get a feel for his voice and verify that he is a dude etc. I don't feel particularly safe meeting otherwise.