realfriends Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hey LS, Ive been contemplating this for awhile now and can't make up my mind so maybe some of your experiences and thoughts will help me choose. Im close to 70 days of NC and am pretty much accepting the fact that things are done and she won't be contacting me. I have deleted her number but know it by heart. I want to block it just so that every time I look at my phone, I have no urgency of hope. I did this during the first week when I was emotional as h*ll but unblocked it repeatedly. I want to do it for good, but then I think what if. What if she goes to contact me and I don't even see it. I know she has my email, but what if? Did any of you guys do this, and at what point in the NC/healing/post BU process were you?
LostConfused123 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Trust me. She would find a way if she really wants to. I blocked my ex (and unblocked a couple times) It feels much better blocked. . . I would get really depressed knowing for a fact he didn't reach out. When he's blocked I don't have to know this. I mean he may have tried and I just don't know it. (yeah, right) smh!! Don't be pathetic like me. . . . block it fir your own sanity. It really is a relief. Best of luck!!!
Author realfriends Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Trust me. She would find a way if she really wants to. I blocked my ex (and unblocked a couple times) It feels much better blocked. . . I would get really depressed knowing for a fact he didn't reach out. When he's blocked I don't have to know this. I mean he may have tried and I just don't know it. (yeah, right) smh!! Don't be pathetic like me. . . . block it fir your own sanity. It really is a relief. Best of luck!!! How long did it take you to do so. I don't know why I just feel like its too early in the game to do it. Stupid I know. I just have false hope.
JDPT Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I blocked then unblocked then blocked again, it turned into a joke. I later realized that the blockng had to come from within. I had to commit and be disciplined to not allow myself to ever contact her again. It's been roughly 9 months post BU and it's working out well.
whichwayisup Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Hey LS, Ive been contemplating this for awhile now and can't make up my mind so maybe some of your experiences and thoughts will help me choose. Im close to 70 days of NC and am pretty much accepting the fact that things are done and she won't be contacting me. I have deleted her number but know it by heart. I want to block it just so that every time I look at my phone, I have no urgency of hope. I did this during the first week when I was emotional as h*ll but unblocked it repeatedly. I want to do it for good, but then I think what if. What if she goes to contact me and I don't even see it. I know she has my email, but what if? Did any of you guys do this, and at what point in the NC/healing/post BU process were you? Change your email address too. What if? Don't go there. You've been in NC for a long time and your R is over. I know it hurts but you hanging onto hope and what if's is only preventing you from really grieving and letting go. As long as you have that bit of hope, she'll be in your mind way too much. IF she ever contacts you again in the future, whether it be a month or 6 months from now, deal with it then. Why waste your precious heart and energy on someone who isn't in your life anymore. She's living her life, now you gotta live yours.
Author realfriends Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I know you guys are right, I guess I just havnt gotten to that point yet when I can say I have fully let go. Thats why I like to see when people did it. I know how stupid it is, trust me, there are just events coming up and…. I don't really have a good reason I just try to convince myself otherwise(false hope). I just havnt gotten to that point yet where I can do it. I would do it in a heartbeat if there was a way to have my phone send a message saying this number has been blocked but it doesn't do that (yes, stupid again. I shouldn't care, I havnt gotten to the point of indifference I guess).
LostConfused123 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 (edited) How long did it take you to do so. I don't know why I just feel like its too early in the game to do it. Stupid I know. I just have false hope. I think it took about 3 weeks post break up to block and STAY blocked. I probably did it for all the wrong reasons though. I blocked everything, even my email address because knowing for a fact that he wasn't contacting me telling me he made a huge mistake and wants me back (HUGE LAUGH) was making me depressed, anxious, it was pure hell. Once I blocked everything I kinda felt like it was now out of my hands. If the universe wants us together, we will be. It's out of my control. But I'm certainly not going to torture myself anymore!!! it's actually a huge relief. I love not having the urge to check my phone or that sinking feeling when I get a text and it's not him. I gave it all to the universe. It's not my problem anymore. it feels really good. You'll see. Best of luck!!! We're all here for you Edited January 29, 2014 by LostConfused123
AllTooWell Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Blocked immediately, for 2 months. Unblocked now because I feel no pull towards him, can ignore breadcrumbs, etc. Block them - if they really love you and want to come back, they will find a way. Its just a phone.
Author realfriends Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Well, today marks day 1 that it is blocked. At times, it makes me feel good. I think she knows how to contact me and if she only tried my cellphone, she obviously doesn't want it bad enough. Then there are time where I think, "what if I miss the godforsaken breadcrumb". I know breadcrumbs only hurt, but somedays, I just want to know she still remembers me.
LostConfused123 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Well, today marks day 1 that it is blocked. At times, it makes me feel good. I think she knows how to contact me and if she only tried my cellphone, she obviously doesn't want it bad enough. Then there are time where I think, "what if I miss the godforsaken breadcrumb". I know breadcrumbs only hurt, but somedays, I just want to know she still remembers me. Breadcrumbs just suck altogether!! Sucks to get one, sucks not to get one. When you block, you never know about the breadcrumbs either way. I guess I kinda had the ignorance is bliss attitude.
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