ikilledacockroach Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Was sitting thinking I was finally getting over the ex, slowly but surely and then I made the huge mistake of checking his facebook and turns out he came down here to party with his ex work mates yesterday! I know I know I shouldn't done it! Well I know he has no obligations towards me as we've broken up but it hurts to think that his life has just moved on so quickly after is like it hasn't affected him at all. I am upset and mostly angry at myself for getting upset. Don't know why I even expected him to give a damn about my well being as like I said no more obligations! Blocking him on social media and will just going to try to block him out of my mind. He couldn't give two ****s about me and honestly I know there's no reason for me to even be concerned about him. Just reminding myself tomorrow will be a better day and hopefully no more silly slipups like this again!
underscore44 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Seeing that might not have been a bad thing after all. Now you have your answer and can really work towards moving forward. Don't sit and be mad that you saw what you saw 2
Author ikilledacockroach Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Yeah that is true! Might have been a blessing in disguise! And to make this even more hilarious the ex prior to this one is trying to get in contact with me and they both have the same name! Real funny universe, real funny 2
Yasuandio Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 You are doing great Hon! You didn't make the mistake of calling, texting, or drunk-dialing - you came here instead! BRAVO! Next step is to stop that Facebook watching. And if I may make another suggestion, don't use any kind of word like "stupid" to descibe your actions (or yourself). You are human. Positive words at all times. If you can't find a positive word, use a neutral word. Another BRAVO for you, Hon. You will so get over this dumbbell, I promise you. (BTW, it is OK for me to use negative words due to fact that I am your elder, e.g., double standards). Yas 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Yeah that is true! Might have been a blessing in disguise! And to make this even more hilarious the ex prior to this one is trying to get in contact with me and they both have the same name! Real funny universe, real funny LOL!!! Yeah, the universe can be hilarious sometimes huh? You have a good attitude though. ((hugs!!))
Author ikilledacockroach Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Well like the saying goes fake it til you make it Only way to make it through this is to stay positive and just take everything with a pinch of salt! A lot harder to do than say but I'm trying haha 1
Author ikilledacockroach Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Ugh just having one of those days. Woke up and was like oh the ex isn't here which led to lots of reminiscing about all the sweet little things he'd use to do for me like bring home flowers or my favorite candy and then I'd have to remind myself that he walked out on me and chose to lay all the blame on me to help himself feel better about this. It's just so hard knowing that you invest so much in one person and all of a sudden it's like a switch flips and they can just up and leave without you. Like I said in a previous post I made the mistake of looking on his facebook and he seems to be having a great time without me. I guess I'm mostly hurt and thinking that all the sweet nothings he used to tell me were untrue as if he really did care, he wouldn't be able to switch his feelings on/off at the drop of a hat. Yesterday would have been our 10 month anniversary and I spent it packing up his stuff and mailing it to him. Really tempted to break NC as I have so many unanswered questions and I guess the biggest one would be 'did any of this mean anything to you at all?'. Sorry for being a Debbie downer guys. Just so sick of feeling like I was disposable and that I wasn't a good enough person for him.
Discover Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Cheer up! We have all felt like this...right now i share the same feelings! BUT..what if HE wasn't good enough for YOU? Have you ever tought about that?...and believe me...he ment all of the things he said..don't live in doubt about your relationship...in time..try to keep only the good in memory and everything else..just as a good reminder to be more careful next time! And don't break the NC, it will make you look like you are begging him..don't ... in time you will find your answers..now..focus on yourself and how you should be happy instead of checking his facebook every 10 minutes..STOP THAT!...Now get up and do something that will make you happy!
David87 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Ugh just having one of those days. Woke up and was like oh the ex isn't here which led to lots of reminiscing about all the sweet little things he'd use to do for me like bring home flowers or my favorite candy and then I'd have to remind myself that he walked out on me and chose to lay all the blame on me to help himself feel better about this. It's just so hard knowing that you invest so much in one person and all of a sudden it's like a switch flips and they can just up and leave without you. Like I said in a previous post I made the mistake of looking on his facebook and he seems to be having a great time without me. I guess I'm mostly hurt and thinking that all the sweet nothings he used to tell me were untrue as if he really did care, he wouldn't be able to switch his feelings on/off at the drop of a hat. Yesterday would have been our 10 month anniversary and I spent it packing up his stuff and mailing it to him. Really tempted to break NC as I have so many unanswered questions and I guess the biggest one would be 'did any of this mean anything to you at all?'. Sorry for being a Debbie downer guys. Just so sick of feeling like I was disposable and that I wasn't a good enough person for him. Look i know exactly how you feel because I feel the same, im at 2 months of NC. You have to understand that you will have to kiss many frogs until you will find your prince in shining armour. Asking him if you meant anything to him won't help you..... of course you meant something to him, but now you don't. Be strong and look forward to your prince because he's coming and fast, don't close the door on him by thinking of your ex. 1
Author ikilledacockroach Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Well I'm proud to say that I actually picked myself up, told myself that life goes on and dragged myself off to lectures! I told myself I wouldn't sit around thinking about my ex and I actually had a pretty good day 1
David87 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 That's the spirit ikilledacockroach, good for you keep it up.
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