AloneNow Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Well this is the update from way back in Sept. 5 of just last year when I caught my then fiancee cheating. I walked away and broke it off 3 days later. Towards mid Nov, I started hanging out with a female co-worker (also my friend I'd known for a long while). I've always found her attractive but respected my relationship at the time and so would never make any moves back then. A couple days ago, things progressed a bit and we made out for the longest (no sex though; I'm still recovering). I don't love her yet but do enjoy her company, like her a lot and find her very attractive. Lately we've talked about making it official and told her I would like to but I'm still thinking about it. I was wondering if it's time to make it official or if it's still too early?
Author AloneNow Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 What do you mean by "make it official"?bf and gf stage.
Silly_Girl Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Whose benefit would the status change be for? What would change for the two of you?
Author AloneNow Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Are either of you dating other people?Yes, we were dating others before and decided to hang out more often, just the two of us.
Author AloneNow Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Whose benefit would the status change be for? What would change for the two of you?We're both single and out of a failed relationship so in a way, we can somehow relate on that area. The change is it would be a new start for us. This time, I would look out for red flags early on and not ignore them like before with my ex fiancee or don't be too giving right away.
Silly_Girl Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 We're both single and out of a failed relationship so in a way, we can somehow relate on that area. The change is it would be a new start for us. This time, I would look out for red flags early on and not ignore them like before with my ex fiancee or don't be too giving right away. I meant, official or not, what difference does it make to you guys? If you're asking whether it's early, maybe it's early. I guess I don't see why there's a need/wish to change things currently as opposed to continuing as you are.
chrisftw Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 We're both single and out of a failed relationship so in a way, we can somehow relate on that area. The change is it would be a new start for us. This time, I would look out for red flags early on and not ignore them like before with my ex fiancee or don't be too giving right away. and what where some of the first few red flags you glossed over? but i can definitely see how not being to giving right away is a good thing. also like others have said what's wrong with letting things form organically? and if you have to ask maybe it is to early.
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