missidk Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I've been talking to this guy for almost 3 weeks now and we've hung out a few times. For the first couple weeks we talked all day everyday and he would call me all the time. Then after the second time we hung out, he really hasn't been talking to me as much nor calls. Everything seemed great when we hung out; held hands for the first held hands, made out, had fun, etc... I really like him and really interested in him. I haven't liked someone like this before this fast and I'm kinda feeling weird and nervous about it. I don't know if it's too soon to ask him if he's seeing/talking to someone else and have the whole "where do you see us going" talk.
fixing Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Well, if he has started to back off a little bit then its probably not a good move to bring up 'where do you see us going' just yet. Can you give a little more info, like how you met, how old you both are and how close you are to eachother etc. Asking him is he seeing someone else is quite harmless, but try to play it more cool. I only say that because you have pointed out that he has began calling you less and less. It should be mutual when it comes to getting in a relationship together. Not all one sided. Good luck and i hope it all works out for you 1
Author missidk Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 We met through a friend. He's 22. I'm 21. We don't know each other extensively but I know a lot about him and vice versa. When we've talked he's says how he appreciates talking me and likes me, has always held great convos with him never a dull moment. He stated that he never talked to someone so much and not get bored.
Zack_Palmer Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 @ MissIdk The scenario you describe is lacking some details I would like to know in order to give me a more vivid interpretation of what your going through. -(Your age and his, Your Dating/Relationship History and his, How you two Met) From the surface level description of what you explained all I can tell you is this… This is 100% normal from (some) Men. If seems like you really like this guy, and should't loose him. Private Message me if you don't feel comfortable giving a detailed insight into your situation. I'll let you know everything You Need to Keep this Guy
d0nnivain Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 It's perfectly fine to ask if he's seeing other people. It's too soon to ask "where do you see this going?" That question to me translates to "do you want to get married?" & you are no where near there.
fixing Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 We met through a friend. He's 22. I'm 21. We don't know each other extensively but I know a lot about him and vice versa. When we've talked he's says how he appreciates talking me and likes me, has always held great convos with him never a dull moment. He stated that he never talked to someone so much and not get bored. Then i would suggest organising a fun date around bowling or something and ask him those questions subtly. Just dont be to permissive about it. Get the point across that you want this to become something more than just casual dating. Hopefully, and by the sounds of things he should reciprocate those feelings too. Always go with your gut instincts though. You will know yourself, at the time, whether its the right time to ask him out. It it feels right, do it! Good luck
GemmaUK Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Three weeks seems a quite a bit too soon to me, especially if he seems to be cooling down a bit. It was about 3-4 months for me and my long term (together 14 years) ex before he brought up the subject with me in any way and a further 5 months until I was ready to go back to that talk with him. At 3 months it was just too soon for me to have a clue where it was going or even to think about where it might head.
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