ithappenedagain Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Yesterday was an overall good day. Today - ehhhh not so much. High anxiety, thoughts of her on my mind, wondering what she is doing.. It's eating me alive today!!! I cant stay still
Philosoraptor Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 So, what do you want to do with today? What can you do to bring yourself happiness? Make a huge bucket list and when you have a down day then check something off that list. It can be as simple as taking a stroll in the park or as elaborate as you want.
Author ithappenedagain Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 I have created an acronym called P.I.E.S of things I need to do each day to help me get better: P = Physical (working out, taking a walk, jog, etc..) I = Intellectual (reading a book, researching, etc) E = Emotional (talking to someone, laugh, cry, etc) S = Spiritual (seeking guidance from above) Some days it is really hard. Today is one of those days. 5
jphcbpa Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I have created an acronym called P.I.E.S of things I need to do each day to help me get better: P = Physical (working out, taking a walk, jog, etc..) I = Intellectual (reading a book, researching, etc) E = Emotional (talking to someone, laugh, cry, etc) S = Spiritual (seeking guidance from above) . these are great! if you do each one everyday, one day at a time you will have grown in all facets of your life. mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
k10k Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I love your PIES! Posting here is already taking care of your E for the day - plus you've inspired me, I'm also going to follow the PIES principle each day Hope your day starts to feel a little better soon - just gotta push through these times.
Author ithappenedagain Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 I am glad that you are going to adapt the PIES concept! I love your PIES! Posting here is already taking care of your E for the day - plus you've inspired me, I'm also going to follow the PIES principle each day Hope your day starts to feel a little better soon - just gotta push through these times.
True Gent Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I have created an acronym called P.I.E.S of things I need to do each day to help me get better: P = Physical (working out, taking a walk, jog, etc..) I = Intellectual (reading a book, researching, etc) E = Emotional (talking to someone, laugh, cry, etc) S = Spiritual (seeking guidance from above) Some days it is really hard. Today is one of those days. I love that! Such a great spin to put on things. I think I'm going to steal your PIES for myself
brokeNlost Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I'm right there with you OP. I been having ups and downs lately. You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house You don't wanna have fun It's all you think about (usher reference)
1slobalt12 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Im going through the same rollercoaster myself right now. PIES is a great way to deal with it. i also went yesterday and deleted my ex from everything, Facebook, Instagram, etc. That way i dont see anything to cause me from being more down then i already am at times. She might not like the fact that i have or hate me for it but its done for my own personal health and to move foward.
LostConfused123 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Yesterday was an overall good day. Today - ehhhh not so much. High anxiety, thoughts of her on my mind, wondering what she is doing.. It's eating me alive today!!! I cant stay still Same here. I have been feeling pretty good and positive the last week or so. Today??? I don't know what the deal is. . . . Really sad, lump in my throat, crying off and on, really missing him, anxious and panicky. UGH!!! I guess this is just an off day. Hope yours gets better. ((hugs!!))
magnum1 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Im going through the same rollercoaster myself right now. PIES is a great way to deal with it. i also went yesterday and deleted my ex from everything, Facebook, Instagram, etc. That way i dont see anything to cause me from being more down then i already am at times. She might not like the fact that i have or hate me for it but its done for my own personal health and to move foward. Very wise decision - I made the big mistake of glancing at my exes Fb profile before deleting her the other day - saw and read things that just stirred everything up again, annoyed with myself as I'd been doing so well in getting her out of my head argh! Now feeling really low today. Just been thinking how only a few weeks/months ago how happy I was. Home, work and love life were all going so well, now everything's just gone, not really sure what direction I'm going in at the moment It's strange how quickly things can change. Telling myself that things can also change just as quickly for the better, not that it really feels like this at the moment
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Wondering if she still thinks about me is killing me. not knowing anything about her anymore is killing me. Its only been 3 Weeks :-(
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Is she partying it up for the superbowl with her new friends ? Stuff like this... Its driving me insane guys. How can I shake this off my head??
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 2, 2014 Author Posted February 2, 2014 Ugh and everyone where I am at keeps telling me they "heard the news"... :-( Bad day so far
purplehues Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Oh man…wanna commiserate? It's been a bad day for me too…I'm beginning to realize that I'm back in that denial stage (I probably never left). Keep wondering if this is really over and asking myself how she could have just ended it. This heartbreak stuff is no joke. It'll test you. At the same time, I'm really seeking perspective whenever and however I can. People get through this. We will too.
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 Yea man. Heartbreak is no joke. I seriously dont know whats wrong with me today, but it reaally reaaly sucks.. I keep running the idea of sending her a text or email but then I know it would more than likely result in a setback. I just have no idea how she could end it and then just move on as to if I was a complete stranger. :-( 2 years ofmemories down the drain!
Musing Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Room for one more? I am also having a bad day. My week was pretty rough. He's most likely having a great time watching the superbowl. I am totally avoiding it. I can't believe I'm not dreaming...so I feel you. Nearly 4 weeks for me Hugs to you both.
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 Hop on in, musing! Sorry that u are also having a bad day. I am right there witg you about the super bowl.. See, we live in Denver so there are parties everywhere! I know she is out having fun, and guys are probably hitting on (cause she is beautiful) yet here I am thinking of her not even caring about the game.. Ugh. This feeling sucks! hugs back to you :-)
Musing Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Hop on in, musing! Sorry that u are also having a bad day. I am right there witg you about the super bowl.. See, we live in Denver so there are parties everywhere! I know she is out having fun, and guys are probably hitting on (cause she is beautiful) yet here I am thinking of her not even caring about the game.. Ugh. This feeling sucks! hugs back to you :-) Yup...I'm on the east coast right by the game soo...lol I'm not sure how you guys are right now, I checked the score and the Broncos are, not faring well. It really sucks being dumped around this time of the year. You'd think it'd be easier cause it's crappy out so there's no beautiful weather to tempt us. But sadly there are superbowl parties and Valentines day...ugh. I'm getting my tattoo finished that day though so I'm going to spoil myself! And will probably be all over these boards too
purplehues Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Ha, couldn't care less about football. But a tattoo-that sounds fun. I have a small one on my wrist and have, since the break-up, been thinking about getting another one…kinda weird, 'cause I had no desire to before. Anyways, a fantastic idea Musing. I'll try to work extra hard that day and hopefully have a girls night out. We'll see. Reality sucks these days. Yup...I'm on the east coast right by the game soo...lol I'm not sure how you guys are right now, I checked the score and the Broncos are, not faring well. It really sucks being dumped around this time of the year. You'd think it'd be easier cause it's crappy out so there's no beautiful weather to tempt us. But sadly there are superbowl parties and Valentines day...ugh. I'm getting my tattoo finished that day though so I'm going to spoil myself! And will probably be all over these boards too
Musing Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 Ha, couldn't care less about football. But a tattoo-that sounds fun. I have a small one on my wrist and have, since the break-up, been thinking about getting another one…kinda weird, 'cause I had no desire to before. Anyways, a fantastic idea Musing. I'll try to work extra hard that day and hopefully have a girls night out. We'll see. Reality sucks these days. It really does suck sometimes, but it's good knowing that there are other things to do. I don't want to wallow if I can help it. I have a half sleeve so I'm getting that finished and working on my next piece! My tat artist is pretty nice to look at too, so it's even better
Author ithappenedagain Posted February 3, 2014 Author Posted February 3, 2014 I dont know what it is, but man... I can't seem to shake her from my head lately. I had a stretch of a few (by that I mean about 2) days in a row where they were actually good day,... but then... BAM! Back to the bottom. I think it is because on Friday night my sister told me that she had deleted her from facebook... Now I know I shouldnt be all down about that - because afterall - I instantly deleted her from facebook the night she told me OVER FACEBOOK that her decision was solid... but for some reason it stung... Also, last night I was at a little party with some people from our softball team.. And a few of people kept coming over to me asking if I was ok.. and how i was doing.. and telling me they figured something was up based on what she has been posting on facebook etc etc... I kept telling them I really didnt want to talk about it, or hear anything about her.... So now my mind is wondering what the heck they are seeing on her facebook page? -does she have pictures with new guys on her page? -does she already have another bf? -is she talking bad about me? All this crap is making me go crazy. I dont have any tattoo's but that sounds like a great idea to occupy your time on VDay. I need to figure out what the heck I am going to do that day cause i KNOW i will be a mess I dont even want to think that far down the road to be honest. Hugs
magnum1 Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 The Streets - Dry Your Eyes (Lyrics in description) - YouTube Dry your eyes mate I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up There's plenty more fish in the sea Dry your eyes mate I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts But you've got to walk away now It's over
Musing Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 I dont know what it is, but man... I can't seem to shake her from my head lately. I had a stretch of a few (by that I mean about 2) days in a row where they were actually good day,... but then... BAM! Back to the bottom. I think it is because on Friday night my sister told me that she had deleted her from facebook... Now I know I shouldnt be all down about that - because afterall - I instantly deleted her from facebook the night she told me OVER FACEBOOK that her decision was solid... but for some reason it stung... Also, last night I was at a little party with some people from our softball team.. And a few of people kept coming over to me asking if I was ok.. and how i was doing.. and telling me they figured something was up based on what she has been posting on facebook etc etc... I kept telling them I really didnt want to talk about it, or hear anything about her.... So now my mind is wondering what the heck they are seeing on her facebook page? -does she have pictures with new guys on her page? -does she already have another bf? -is she talking bad about me? All this crap is making me go crazy. I dont have any tattoo's but that sounds like a great idea to occupy your time on VDay. I need to figure out what the heck I am going to do that day cause i KNOW i will be a mess I dont even want to think that far down the road to be honest. Hugs I had told my college friends what happened to me and my ex about a week after it happened so they wouldn't tell me they saw him with another girl. I think I even told most of them not to tell me anything...and lucky for me my ex doesn't even have a facebook so I never had to deal with that, at least with this one. But I know what you mean about hitting rock bottom again. I was solid for three weeks and then passed by him. One simple exchange felt like I got cut off at the knees. I am jealous of my past self for feeling so free. It's like I had to start all over. But it's all a part of the process. I think once vday is over things will start to get stable for most of us again. The constant reminder everywhere probably isn't helping how you feel about your ex nor is the fact that you guys share mutual friends that want to know what happened. You gave them the right response though - you don't want to keep rehashing or tearing open your wound, you know?
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