Jive Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 A few weeks ago I met (let's call her Jenn) thru Match. After about 2 days of constant emailing I ask her out for a drink in which she accepted. She told me to text her what day would be good. So we set up a meet time and date for a local bar and end up talking for almost 4 hours, not even realizing how fast time went. Afterwards we walked out together, told her I had a great time, hugged and went our seperate ways. The next day I texted her saying last night was great and that we should do dinner. She immediately accepted and boom, like that we had dinner plans and an activity date set up for the coming weekend. So the second date seemed to go pretty good. We had a nice dinner without too much awkwardness and had a lot of fun exploring a local museum. I noticed though that she wasn't giving off many signs, no arm grazing of hair playing. It all of a sudden felt very platonic and something seemed... Off. So later I drop her off and we hugged, pulled back and kissed eachother on the lips. It almost felt like habit after being in a 4 year relationship a few years prior. But there were no sparks. It just felt like two lips touching. On the way home this had me worried. "Did she feel a spark?" "Could she tell I didn't feel anything?" So I texted her when I got home to test her temperature saying I had a great time and she send a very short "Thanks!" And left it at that. She had a birthday that weekend so the next day I texted her a nice birthday greeting in which she thanked me for and then we didn't hear from one another for a day or so. Later I texted her how her bday went and she just sent a vague text back that said "It was all I wanted and more!" I wasn't sure how to respond so I just sent a text that said Good! And I asked a follow up question to which she hasn't replied to in a few days now. I'm stuck because despite not feeling that initial spark I am interested in seeing where it goes. We have things in common and she's been very nice in person but it feels like she's started to slip out the door on me. Usually when I start dating a girl I like to have some sort of open communication between dates. She's very had to read, even in person she doesn't show the usual signs when someone likes you (arm grazing, hair playing, asking questions). Should I just call her up? Does it sound like she might be disinterested?
PegNosePete Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 It doesn't sound as though either of you are particularly into each other. You didn't go for the 3rd date, instead just "tested" whatever that means. So even if she did like you, she probably picked up on the fact that you weren't that into her, and sent non-committal responses. Seems like you should be putting your efforts elsewhere.
soccerrprp Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Doesn't sound like she's all that interested. I would leave her alone and see if she contacts you again. But, don't put your life on pause for her. 1
Author Jive Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Thanks guys, that was pretty much all I needed to hear. I think I'm just gonna let this one go. Unfortunately it's all I can think about... Ugh. Dating sucks lol
ITw Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Don't completely give up. Give it one more shot. You never know. Maybe you two just had an off day for a number of reasons. Good luck.
Shosh Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 It sounds like she is not very interested anymore. But you have not asked her out again, so she might be upset about that. Why not ask her out again and see what she says?
winny Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Just ask her out once again n see how she responds. You will have your answer.
crude Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Don't men have any self respect? You've asked her out twice, now it's her turn to reciprocate. Just get in touch with her, tell her that she's hard to read, you don't know where you stand, and if she has any interest in you, SHE should ask YOU out. Just move on and if by chance she asks you out, then you'll know she's interested.
deathandtaxes Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Do you want to see her again? If so, ask her out. You should have brought up that possibility before the end of the third date. Something like 'let's do this again'. If you don't want to see her, keep the status quo - you two are already well on your way to fading out.
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