krazikat Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Are we saying that MM who've been caught, risking both jobs and marriage, haven't been able to spin such things (or at least attempt to) so as to make the person they're harassing seem in the wrong? All he has to do is say she started it in person, so he can't verify it, or he deleted her texts/emails when they came in. If it was only fact that could make our lives hell, not speculation, that'd be one thing. Not at all what I am saying, what I am saying is that this situation is different. It is not an affair. There was no back and forth communication. And op could provide supporting documentation easy enough to show that. This thread is not about an affair and how some mm lie to wriggle themselves out of trouble. This girl is being sexually harassed. Go post your affair stuff on a relevant affair thread. That's what I am saying.
whichwayisup Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I did and am going to. Feeling empowered and it feels good to finally do something, as I have pretty much avoided FB for weeks over this. Not hiding anymore! Have you deleted him off your facebook and blocked him? if not, DO IT. Change your cell number or if you can't, block him. So this is just some random MM at work? Or did you have an affair with him?
blue963 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You can report him on face book with abuse. In the chat column at the bottom with a message. I would definitely forward all of messages to his wife then block him. If he bothers you again tell him you have made copies and will go to the authorities. 1
Pastypop Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Send the c&$! picture to his wife and ask her if it looks familiar. Tell her that he has a habit of sending these pictures out to random women with dirty, creepy descriptions that are freaking you out. Tell her how creepy he is. 1
Author MorbidFever Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 We don't work together. I have never met this person. He lives in a different state. I have never seen him in person. In fact, he friended me only about a month ago, so there is no history of us even being friends. I simply accepted the request, because we have many mutuals and I know one group that has recorded in his studio. I am shocked he did this and my guess is he has done it before! You don't just randomly send someone a picture of your J. It seems similar to a 'casting couch', but it's online. I do my own thing, work on my own, with nobody else. His past experience must be, other women have never told him to f off! He is disgusting! I looked for the report button, but I think because I blocked him, it erases that option. I would have to unblock him to report it. Trying to find a way to submit it without having to do that. I am going to report it as abuse with screenshots. Oh and before I blocked him, I went on the pages of mutual women friends and there are so many comments from him on their pictures as well, commenting on how they look etc.
ThatMan Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Personally, I think you've handled this very poorly. Entertaining him with such a juvenile reply isn't going to help you. Any abuser, predator, or all around awful person is gifted in building a sympathetic audience and spinning you out to be the crazy one. Which, quite frankly, you kinda have been a bit crazy here. It doesn't matter if you have evidence. People who you work with, clients you rely on, they will all make up their mind about you even without looking at any evidence when he shares what you've messaged to him. You should have simply and plainly asked him to stop, talk to HR if possible, talk to his boss if possible, talk to your boss, document that these conversations occurred, contact the authorities, and pretty much anything else than what you've done. I hope that this loser isn't in a position to hurt your career by using your actions against you. And who cares if you report something to facebook? What do you possibly think they're going to do for you?
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