TheDovic Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hi everyone, I went through a pretty horrendous break up a few years back (for more info check out my old threads) and coming on this site really helped me. May even have saved my life, so now that I have a hopeful story I thought I should share it as something like this would have helped me when I used to come here for support. I never got back with the girl who broke up with me, but learned recently that she wants me back and broke up with me because she had cheated and couldn't bare the guilt. I decided not to go back!! The real reason I am on here is to tell you about the girl I am currently dating. I started seeing her in July 2012 and stayed with her until February 2013. I ended things because my head was still pretty messed up from my ex and there was a feeling that something wasn't right with the relationship. The girl I broke up with took the breakup extremely badly and we didn't speak for almost 9 months despite living in the same town! So what changed? I did!! In November 2013 I realised how bad the entire year had been and how down I had felt. I went to my gp and it turns out I was suffering from depression. I started a course of antidepressants and over the next number of weeks I began feeling happier and could look at life in a new light. It was at this point that I realised what I had with the girl I had been with and realised something wasn't right with ME and not with the relationship! I was terrified to get in contact with her as things had ended so badly but one night in December I was out and ran into her sister's boyfriend. I told him how I felt and the next day my ex contacted me. I met up with her and we have now been together going on two months and I couldn't be happier. I appreciate her so much now because I can! I honestly believe before I was so caught up with being depressed and blaming everything else for me feeling this way that I couldn't enjoy life. I genuinely see a future with this girl which is strange for me as since I was dumped going on three years ago I never thought I would be happy again despite dating a lot of girls. I'm not saying everyone has been dumped by a depressed person, but maybe the person who broke up with you did so for the wrong reason and one day (like me) will realise what they lost. I'm just very lucky I was given a second chance! 3
Philosoraptor Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I hope things work out well for you and especially for her. Furthermore I hope you don't find that once the antidepressants take full hold, and grow past the renewed honeymoon period, that there were more issues in the relationship and that being depressed wasn't the entirety of the relationship's failing. I'm sorry for the hesitance, and I truly hope it works out wonderfully; but to go from depressed, to pills, to wanting an ex back a month later seems a bit rushed. But again, I hope to see more happy positive threads from you in the future. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hi everyone, I went through a pretty horrendous break up a few years back (for more info check out my old threads) and coming on this site really helped me. May even have saved my life, so now that I have a hopeful story I thought I should share it as something like this would have helped me when I used to come here for support. I never got back with the girl who broke up with me, but learned recently that she wants me back and broke up with me because she had cheated and couldn't bare the guilt. I decided not to go back!! The real reason I am on here is to tell you about the girl I am currently dating. I started seeing her in July 2012 and stayed with her until February 2013. I ended things because my head was still pretty messed up from my ex and there was a feeling that something wasn't right with the relationship. The girl I broke up with took the breakup extremely badly and we didn't speak for almost 9 months despite living in the same town! So what changed? I did!! In November 2013 I realised how bad the entire year had been and how down I had felt. I went to my gp and it turns out I was suffering from depression. I started a course of antidepressants and over the next number of weeks I began feeling happier and could look at life in a new light. It was at this point that I realised what I had with the girl I had been with and realised something wasn't right with ME and not with the relationship! I was terrified to get in contact with her as things had ended so badly but one night in December I was out and ran into her sister's boyfriend. I told him how I felt and the next day my ex contacted me. I met up with her and we have now been together going on two months and I couldn't be happier. I appreciate her so much now because I can! I honestly believe before I was so caught up with being depressed and blaming everything else for me feeling this way that I couldn't enjoy life. I genuinely see a future with this girl which is strange for me as since I was dumped going on three years ago I never thought I would be happy again despite dating a lot of girls. I'm not saying everyone has been dumped by a depressed person, but maybe the person who broke up with you did so for the wrong reason and one day (like me) will realise what they lost. I'm just very lucky I was given a second chance! This is.....um.....different. Congrats on getting better obviously, but this seems incredibly temporary.
organizedchaos Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 OP, how long between the first meeting with the ex did you get back together? Did you spend time working through the issues?
Envy_rodge Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hi everyone, I went through a pretty horrendous break up a few years back (for more info check out my old threads) and coming on this site really helped me. May even have saved my life, so now that I have a hopeful story I thought I should share it as something like this would have helped me when I used to come here for support. I never got back with the girl who broke up with me, but learned recently that she wants me back and broke up with me because she had cheated and couldn't bare the guilt. I decided not to go back!! The real reason I am on here is to tell you about the girl I am currently dating. I started seeing her in July 2012 and stayed with her until February 2013. I ended things because my head was still pretty messed up from my ex and there was a feeling that something wasn't right with the relationship. The girl I broke up with took the breakup extremely badly and we didn't speak for almost 9 months despite living in the same town! So what changed? I did!! In November 2013 I realised how bad the entire year had been and how down I had felt. I went to my gp and it turns out I was suffering from depression. I started a course of antidepressants and over the next number of weeks I began feeling happier and could look at life in a new light. It was at this point that I realised what I had with the girl I had been with and realised something wasn't right with ME and not with the relationship! I was terrified to get in contact with her as things had ended so badly but one night in December I was out and ran into her sister's boyfriend. I told him how I felt and the next day my ex contacted me. I met up with her and we have now been together going on two months and I couldn't be happier. I appreciate her so much now because I can! I honestly believe before I was so caught up with being depressed and blaming everything else for me feeling this way that I couldn't enjoy life. I genuinely see a future with this girl which is strange for me as since I was dumped going on three years ago I never thought I would be happy again despite dating a lot of girls. I'm not saying everyone has been dumped by a depressed person, but maybe the person who broke up with you did so for the wrong reason and one day (like me) will realise what they lost. I'm just very lucky I was given a second chance! Women will hold a grudge for a long time and try to get back at you. The second somthing feels off again, I would leave. This is not conducive to you man. Its a quick fix, not good.
FortunateSon Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Women will hold a grudge for a long time and try to get back at you. The second somthing feels off again, I would leave. This is not conducive to you man. Its a quick fix, not good. This can be very true in my experience with women!!
Inviv_girl Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Women will hold a grudge for a long time and try to get back at you. The second somthing feels off again, I would leave. This is not conducive to you man. Its a quick fix, not good. Not all woman like that, I am a woman! I hold grudge and can hate the person who I should hate but I never seek revenge or anything, I leave everything to the highest power. But yeah from my own experience, quick fix is not good.. one or the other will bail out again if their "head" become realistic again! But anyway congrats, hope things will work out for you guys and please share thread here no matter what happen
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