hexacls Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 My long distance relationship boyfriend broke my heart several times : He kissed another girl when we first started dating, he kept thinking and talking to his ex girlfriends while he promised he won't do it, he lied to me pretty often, he went to parties and flirted with girls and never let me know, he gave me genital herpes, he turned around to check out girls right in front of me and made me feel so bad, he stared at girls, he comes back home and keep thinking of his coworker and start stalking her online... After 1 and half years he promised he will get better and commit, until yesterday when he naturally told me that he will keep looking AND appreciating pretty girls and that it's a guy thing, and it is all about looking and not touching and that I should be fine with it because nothing is wrong with that. Shall I keep having hope for this relationship? Or did I forgive too much that now he allows himself to tell me unbelievably disrespectful things like this? PS: People think I am smart and pretty, I take care of myself to be attractive for him.
PegNosePete Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 What relationship? It seems as though he doesn't even want one with you. He is just chatting to you to pass the time while he works on other options. Sorry to say... you need to dump this douchebag ASAP.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 It's perfectly fine to look and find other people attractive. All the other things you listed though are NOT OK. I am not sure how you forgave him for that s-t.
Zahara Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 My long distance relationship boyfriend broke my heart several times : He kissed another girl when we first started dating, he kept thinking and talking to his ex girlfriends while he promised he won't do it, he lied to me pretty often, he went to parties and flirted with girls and never let me know, he gave me genital herpes, he turned around to check out girls right in front of me and made me feel so bad, he stared at girls, he comes back home and keep thinking of his coworker and start stalking her online... After 1 and half years he promised he will get better and commit, until yesterday when he naturally told me that he will keep looking AND appreciating pretty girls and that it's a guy thing, and it is all about looking and not touching and that I should be fine with it because nothing is wrong with that. Shall I keep having hope for this relationship? Or did I forgive too much that now he allows himself to tell me unbelievably disrespectful things like this? PS: People think I am smart and pretty, I take care of myself to be attractive for him. Err...you take care of yourself because you value who you are -- not because you need to keep a man interested. You know why he treats you disrespectfully? It's because he knows you require zero respect and no matter what he does, you'll gladly shut both eyes and allow him to do whatever he wants. I wouldn't be surprised that he's sleeping with other women. He sounds like a sleazy, grimey slime ball. I am not sure why you've allowed yourself to be disregarded and disrespected to such levels.
soccerrprp Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 My long distance relationship boyfriend broke my heart several times : He kissed another girl when we first started dating, he kept thinking and talking to his ex girlfriends while he promised he won't do it, he lied to me pretty often, he went to parties and flirted with girls and never let me know, he gave me genital herpes, he turned around to check out girls right in front of me and made me feel so bad, he stared at girls, he comes back home and keep thinking of his coworker and start stalking her online... After 1 and half years he promised he will get better and commit, until yesterday when he naturally told me that he will keep looking AND appreciating pretty girls and that it's a guy thing, and it is all about looking and not touching and that I should be fine with it because nothing is wrong with that. Shall I keep having hope for this relationship? Or did I forgive too much that now he allows himself to tell me unbelievably disrespectful things like this? PS: People think I am smart and pretty, I take care of myself to be attractive for him. WHY in the world are you tolerating this from him??????!!!!!!! Your bf SUCKS! 1
Author hexacls Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Thanks for you reply. It's fine to look. Is it still fine to appreciate when you look? He only talked about appreciating pretty girls, so I conclude that when he looks at a pretty boy or an ugly girl he doesn't appreciate..
Zahara Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Thanks for you reply. It's fine to look. Is it still fine to appreciate when you look? He only talked about appreciating pretty girls, so I conclude that when he looks at a pretty boy or an ugly girl he doesn't appreciate.. SMH. Face meet palm.
regine_phalange Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Keep in your life only the people who make you feel good about yourself and lift your mood. If you think you don't deserve to be treated kindly and feeling happy around a man, then stay with this douche.
soccerrprp Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Thanks for you reply. It's fine to look. Is it still fine to appreciate when you look? He only talked about appreciating pretty girls, so I conclude that when he looks at a pretty boy or an ugly girl he doesn't appreciate.. When I am with my gf, I literally have blinders on. Funny, I told my gf this a few days ago and she agreed. She's never noticed that I would look at other women when with her. She likes that and finds that rather rare and surprising. But, why should I have to seek out the visage of other women around me when i'm with someone I love and lust/yearn/drool after? I don't and have no desire to. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with your bf taking a peak or "appreciating" other women around you, but for him to TELL you to deal with it and that he will do it no matter what is a slap in the face and disrespectful. He's flaunting the fact that he admires, actively admires, other women at your expense. HE SUCKS! 1
devilish innocent Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Generally, I don't have a problem with people just looking. My husband will sometimes point out hot women to me when we're out in public, and I don't have a problem with it. However, I think you've got much more serious issues than your guy looking at other girls. You seem like just one of many girls to him. Even if you're not, he's clearly a liar and a cheat. He's shown time and again that he'll choose having fun with other girls over honesty. You're very naive if you think you or any other girl would change him. He's clearly not boyfriend material.
ltjg45 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 What I find truly sad is there is far worse problems in this relwtionship than whether or not he is looking and appreciating pretty women and they are being completely ignored by the OP.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Would've dropped him at the ex-girlfriends and genital herpes. Seriously...get a grip.
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