sjh2156 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hi All I have been in a relationship for over a year with my GF, we are both are in our late 30's and have been hurt in the past. We do talk about the future and what we could possibly achieve, but sometimes like now she seems to be digging her heals stopping the relationship moving forward. We see each other 3 or 4 times a week, have been away together on a long weekend and spent many brithdays and christmas together. But again she is now saying she doesn't want to change things between us and is very reluctant to move forward. I know that she had a hard divorce a few years ago after her ex played away a few times, but she said that is history. I am starting to feel that things are stagnating in the relationship, she says that she trusts me fully and cannot imagine life without me, but seems unwilling to move forward with me. I think the world of her and enjoy her company so much, we just click when together, we have had so many good new experiences together. But I am starting to feel I am paying the price for her ex's behaviour. Is there anyone out there who has had a similar experience with someone and how long it took get over the past divorce and issues. Thanks
Purepony Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 That could take days or years I think shes confused.
Author sjh2156 Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Well moving forward for me would be for us both to make some commitments to the future together, even if that is just to book a long holiday together. At the moment she has slipped back into taking each week as it comes and seems reluctant to commit to anything further in the future. Sometimes she slips up and mentions living arrangements and family, but then suddenly realises what she said and takes it back.
jphcbpa Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 what went on with the ex? did she get therapy for it? she seems to be carrying that R into this one.
PegNosePete Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Well you don't have to phrase it as something so scary as moving forward in the relationship or making commitments for the future. Just ask if she wants to go on holiday with you. 1
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