Worry, Fear and Anxiety

[Cabras]

I wish I could see my own situation from the outside or from a future perspective.

 

I worry that my ex won't give us another chance even though I have no control over it.

 

I fear that she doesn't care about me anymore or she will forget about me even though her actions and words say that she does.

 

I get anxious that she isn't coming back to me quick enough even though I can see that had she come back to me over the last two months it would have been too soon.

 

If I could make a call back in time and tell myself "hey, don't worry about the guy she's into at work. It's going to last three weeks. She's going to try to date guys but she'll keep thinking about you instead." I would be a lot better off right now. If I could have known that she would call me eventually some of those nights wouldn't have been as lonely.

 

I wish the phone would ring right now and I could hear from my future self.

[cyberbabie30]

Hi,

I know how you feel, I broke up with someone about 4 1/2 months ago,

and i tried to talk him in to working things out but he didnt want to it just pushed him away from me.

 

Long story short I was in a year long relationship with mine and found out that he was seeing and ex girlfriend not to mention he was also trying to meet women from dating sites

 

Its hard at first but the best thing to do is to not contact her at all. Unless she contacts you first. my ex does still contact me once in a while. I never make the first contact with him, I keep it simple when replying back and dont let him know every thing im doing. And if she does contact you dont bring up the relationship unless she does. Also dont beg her back either that will push her away,

 

Start getting out with friends and dating other people at once.

 

You didnt state what caused your break up, But if it was from her cheating or leaving you for someone else. You have to think to your self do you want to really get back together with someone who may do it again down the road. Take a look at your relationship with her look at the pros and cons of it.

 

As much as i would like to get back together with my ex I know in my heart that nothing would change. How do i know this well he is still dating the ex girlfriend and trying to meet other women and i have also found out from a good source that he has done this for years to women. My ex is nothing but a player so i would be wasting my time to get back with him.

Not to mention he still trys to play games with me by tring to get me jelous. I just ignore it.

 

If i ever did get back with him, well i would still date others but would not get back into a relationship with him. nor would i get my hopes up that it would go any where between us. Unless he made the changes and proves to me im the only one he wants to be with and i know that is not going to happen.

But as time is going by im losing interest in him.

 

And with past experience from dating others, 95 percent of the men i have dated have always made a contact with me first and it didnt matter who dumped who,

I did go out with them once but nothing ever became of it.

I realize they really werent what i was looking for.