twhfcl Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 So, this guy and I knew each other 2 years ago. We liked each other a lot but decided not to date due to our differences in religion and life values. We continue to be friends, but we feel like our feelings for each other continued to grow on us. I felt bad so I decided to go NC for 1 month. During that one month apart, I missed him tremendously and so I decided to write an email to reconcile but he was really angry at me, so we stopped completely. Fast forward 3 months, due to work and having mutual friends, we talked again. He started to flirt but I asked him not to and told him that I was dating when in fact I wasn't. Part of the reason I lied was because I think he has nothing new to offer, and I was hurt because of the things he said like he didn't like me anymore and told me to move on in the past. After that, we're still friends and started working together. He was being really nice to me, go out of his way to help me on alot of things, asked me to go on a trip with his friends and all, drive me home when he didn't have to etc... All the while he thought I had a bf though. One day, he told me that he met this girl 3 or 4 times but she's in a relationship adn somehow he feels like she's the one. He asked me for advice. I felt really hurt. I cried and all until I can't bear it anymore, I told him how hurtful that is to me and that I wasn't truly moved on. I told him that we had to set boundaries for our friendship to work. He agreed to it but somehow I still feel like I'm the one for him, that he still likes me and the things that he said about his new girl is to get me jealous. I texted him and said he's a liar and that I don't want to be friends with him anymore. He said he's sorry and he doesn't know what to do. Am I being stupid and blind that I'm fooling myself to think that way? I don't know but I go for NC for 10 days already and pretty determined this is the end of it. What should I do the next time I see him, ignoring sounds a bit childish to me.
Philosoraptor Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 It sounds like it's just going to cause you pain. You have a little web of deceit here and you're now stuck in the web. You'd be smart to take some time and mature a bit before you approach any type of relationship. Next time you see him you can be cordial and say hello, but no need to have a long deep conversation. Say hi and get on your way to wherever you might be going.
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