Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I went through a break-up about a month ago now but only last week did I decide to deactivate my Facebook account. I was addicted to Facebook, I would be on it all day at work and check it when i'm bored. I was sick of seeing updates from my ex's friends and family because it just really made me feel down. My ex doesn't post a lot on Facebook but he does get tagged in a lot of things. The last thing he wrote was "ever feel like just giving up completely?! :(" I don't know why he wrote that or if it was about me but it made me feel sad so I just decided to detox and deactivate my account for a bit. I feel so much better now i'm not on it, I haven't really had the urge to go back on either, it feels better not knowing what my ex is up to and i'm not tempted to check up on him. I know people will tell me to just block him and his friends and move on but I don't think the breakup was that bad that we have to resort to deleting each other. He did notice I wasn't on Facebook, he messaged me the next day asking if I blocked him and I just said no, I haven't blocked anyone i'm just going to have a break from it for a while. I know he is hurting from the break up, a friend of mine who he works with tells me that he sees him crying at work sometimes Has anyone done anything similar after a breakup? Delete their social media and how long have you done it for?
TheyCallMeOx Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Hell the **** yeah I have! I pretty much have changed everything about what I do online now because of my ex-girlfriend. I got rid of my Tumblr account, I got rid of my account on Imgur, I stopped going on Steam, I deactivated my dating profile, and most importantly...I deactivated my Facebook. All of those things have a connection with my ex-girlfriend and I just wish I had done all of this sooner. Desperate times call for desperate measures. 1
Never Again Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 If you're not going to delete him, I'd suggest at least making it so that his (and his friends and family) stuff doesn't show up on your newsfeed anymore. I deactivated my facebook for two weeks after the breakup. Turned it back on, and posted more than normal (I had no one to talk to daily, after all) for weeks. Four months later, when I was still smarting over it all, I deleted Twitter, Instagram, Vine, and Facebook from my phone. I deactivated Facebook again, and have left it off for over three months. I did remove her from Twitter (blocked and then unblocked her so that she wasn't following me anymore), and cut all possible ties. She noticed a month after I did it, when some mutual friends posted photos. I was told this, and how it upset and depressed her, but she understood why and has since committed to not contacting me at all.
Author Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 If you're not going to delete him, I'd suggest at least making it so that his (and his friends and family) stuff doesn't show up on your newsfeed anymore. I deactivated my facebook for two weeks after the breakup. Turned it back on, and posted more than normal (I had no one to talk to daily, after all) for weeks. Four months later, when I was still smarting over it all, I deleted Twitter, Instagram, Vine, and Facebook from my phone. I deactivated Facebook again, and have left it off for over three months. I did remove her from Twitter (blocked and then unblocked her so that she wasn't following me anymore), and cut all possible ties. She noticed a month after I did it, when some mutual friends posted photos. I was told this, and how it upset and depressed her, but she understood why and has since committed to not contacting me at all. How do you hide it from your news feed? I didn't know what to think when he noticed I had deactivated the following day, he's obviously been keeping tabs. A male friend of mine said that my ex had added him after he was checked in with me and some other friends of mine at a pub. It hurts to know he still cares because we can never work.
Jord11 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I deleted my ex it was hard to do but I had too, I also unfollowed my ex's family so I can't see any tagged pictures, sucks it had to come down to that since I was so close to them but it had to be done for me to move on
guest572 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I deactivated just as things were ending as I couldn't bear to see updates. Havent been back yet but when I do I will either block or hide him (I think you go to their profile and under the friends button it should have an option to hide from news feed)
pickflicker Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I went through a break-up about a month ago now but only last week did I decide to deactivate my Facebook account. I was addicted to Facebook, I would be on it all day at work and check it when i'm bored. I was sick of seeing updates from my ex's friends and family because it just really made me feel down. My ex doesn't post a lot on Facebook but he does get tagged in a lot of things. The last thing he wrote was "ever feel like just giving up completely?! :(" I don't know why he wrote that or if it was about me but it made me feel sad so I just decided to detox and deactivate my account for a bit. I feel so much better now i'm not on it, I haven't really had the urge to go back on either, it feels better not knowing what my ex is up to and i'm not tempted to check up on him. I know people will tell me to just block him and his friends and move on but I don't think the breakup was that bad that we have to resort to deleting each other. He did notice I wasn't on Facebook, he messaged me the next day asking if I blocked him and I just said no, I haven't blocked anyone i'm just going to have a break from it for a while. I know he is hurting from the break up, a friend of mine who he works with tells me that he sees him crying at work sometimes Has anyone done anything similar after a breakup? Delete their social media and how long have you done it for? You should just block him and all his family and friends. I dont understand why people can't just delete, like it's going to offend your ex? Who cares? 1
Author Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 You should just block him and all his family and friends. I dont understand why people can't just delete, like it's going to offend your ex? Who cares? I knew people would tell me to do this. It would offend me if he blocked me.. I'm quite content just being off Facebook completely for now.
organizedchaos Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I knew people would tell me to do this. It would offend me if he blocked me.. I'm quite content just being off Facebook completely for now. Then block him and unfriend his friends and family? This isn't rocket science.
pickflicker Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I knew people would tell me to do this. It would offend me if he blocked me.. I'm quite content just being off Facebook completely for now. So? Look, if you're happy to give FB up altogether, that's fine, but i don't understand why people are so worried about what will happen if they block and delete their ex. They already dumped you, how much worse can it get? 1
Author Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 So? Look, if you're happy to give FB up altogether, that's fine, but i don't understand why people are so worried about what will happen if they block and delete their ex. They already dumped you, how much worse can it get? I dumped him.
Author Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Then block him and unfriend his friends and family? This isn't rocket science. Don't really understand the rudeness..:| I just said i'm not going to but staying away from social media all together has helped me.
pickflicker Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I dumped him. Even better. I like FB, I wouldn't give it up for anyone. That's why i can't understand the need to sacrifice, that's all. If you like it, keep it, just sanitize it from your ex. Easy peasy.
guest572 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 If deleting someone causes you more grief then don't do it. Its a difficult thing to do especially when you still care about the person. Some people are capable of contact post breakup, perhaps ended on good terms or want to be friends later on and avoid awkwardness or don't want to come across as rude or immature by deleting. 1
Author Conners Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Even better. I like FB, I wouldn't give it up for anyone. That's why i can't understand the need to sacrifice, that's all. If you like it, keep it, just sanitize it from your ex. Easy peasy. I like FB too but I think I spent too much time on it also so this has been good for me work wise too.
Carly Lou Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I deactivated my Facebook and have blocked him and his family from my whatsapp, email, Instagram etc. However I have another, old Facebook account and have sneakily checked his new girlfriends page and his. She is still there, declaring her love for him- she's 19 and he's 28- he's been cheating on her with me for over a year and left me pregnant, but she's blind to the fact and all her friends/family think he's great. He however has shut down EVERYTHING as he knows he's been caught out. I've stopped looking now, they can both just get on with it, I have too much to focus on with myself and the baby now. It's hard though
jphcbpa Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 got off FB....was thinking about it for a while. just the same people posting over and over again. seems a waste of time also got off instagram. feels great to break up with FB. I can get back on down the line if I feel the urge, but for now it is not something I miss. 3
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