MixedUpChick Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Do any of you have any experience with successful dating when the people have opposite schedules? I work a M-F day job, and I keep meeting men who work either much later days or even overnights. I met a guy for coffee yesterday morning, he works something like noon-8:30, with Thursdays & Sundays off. Sundays from 2-6 he has a standing appt with his musician friends; right now I'm on a bowling league every other Sunday night, so even if we were to start dating (longshot, just saying...) that leaves few options. I was in a 6 month relationship with someone a while back, he also worked nights, & it really sucked & eventually contributed to us breaking up because he wasn't able to spend much time together. I don't like to limit my options & just say "it can't work" with opposite schedules, but I don't see how it can work when dating? Now bear in mind I'm not asking specifically because of this guy, I'm asking in general: How on earth do people manage to date in situations like this?
MrMeh Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Worked and went to school for a semester while talking to a girl who worked the night shift from Thursdays to Sunday. Though it was difficult, we still managed to carry on by texting and talking to each other, while getting together when we could. At the end of it all, these types of relationships take a high level of patience to say the least.It's not cut out for everybody. 1
newmoon Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 definitely don't limit yourself... that 'standing' night a guy has with his friends might be dumped in favor of you when a relationship gets going, so that's workable. the difference is not only in the scheduling of dates, but also in the general sense that you have a night owl paired with a morning person, and that becomes an issue. when the person on the night shift comes home (early am) they are still active/talkative and the other partner is either sleeping or not at the same energy level. I had a bf who was a prison guard and worked the night shift - he'd have to sleep on the couch when he came home (as not to wake me). we dated long enough to coordinate our days off together, and you will *normally* have at least one day off that is the same - or as the relationship progresses you might be able to get a matching day off. so it's workable, don't let it be a deterrent so early in the experience 1
BOREDouttaMymind Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 you don't. dating is the time when youre supposed to have similar schedules. its fine to be like 'oh man ya my schedule is so different but hey.. good luck to ya'. youre not married to these dudes. save the 'schedule-figuring out' to later in life.
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