Do you guys ever feel tired of looking for the right one again?

[seekingpeaceinlove]

There are people who are constantly in relationships and there are those who are constantly single. I fall in the latter category. I enjoy being unattached. I cherish my independence and have never "looked" for anyone just because I want to be in a relationship. It takes a pretty strong connection with someone for me to give up my single life. In other words, I'd rather be alone unless I happen to meet someone who really lights a fire in me.

 

Sometimes I wonder whether I want a relationship at all.

 

People say, Oh it's because you haven't met the "right" person yet...BAH!

 

Maybe I should be proactive so that I can take charge in finding Mr. Right.

 

In any case, I don't want anything to do with relationships/dating right now. Even if someone were to come along and spark something in me...I'd likely turn them down. Unfortunately, I still love my ex and I'm carrying some deep scars from the relationship. Need to heal first!

[Carly Lou]

I feel exactly the same. I was happily single for 3 years before I met my psychopath

Now I don't feel like I'll ever want to date or be intimate with a man again. Being pregnant doesn't help! x

[hurts2death]

very true, i am tring to build a relationship with my self. if love happens ,happens i will not chase it.

I can't even imagine building a life again with someone.

 

I focus on being happy and living in the now.

 

Im not fully processed to be a partner to anyone yet, the ghost of relationship past would be a passenger on that ride. So I don't see a point inflicting myself upon someone. Just wouldn't be fair to them at this time.

[Tryingtobegrateful]

But I have already been single all my life....first love at 25 only lasted for 3 months...why would I ever want to enjoy single again?

[oracle]

Having a family and kids is NOT the end all be all.

 

You girls really need to get that BS social construct out your head.

 

When I was in my late teens, one of the hard parts of accepting I was gay was realizing I would never have that happy family scenario we see on TV.

 

You need to understand, its a CONCEPT and not one that will lead to happiness per se.

 

I would rather have a rich diverse life as a single person, than settle down with someone you don't really like out of desperation to breed. Thats not a healthy place to create children in.

 

 

It is different with the men, we are woman have limited time to look for the right one to have family and kids with. I am so stressful to have relationship always ended like this. I want to get married and have kids - have family! But the Mr Right is stuck on a tree or something?!?

[hurts2death]

exactly BS social construct

Having a family and kids is NOT the end all be all.

 

You girls really need to get that BS social construct out your head.

 

When I was in my late teens, one of the hard parts of accepting I was gay was realizing I would never have that happy family scenario we see on TV.

 

You need to understand, its a CONCEPT and not one that will lead to happiness per se.

 

I would rather have a rich diverse life as a single person, than settle down with someone you don't really like out of desperation to breed. Thats not a healthy place to create children in.